Is 3 months into a new relationship too soon to declare love?

[Whereisautumn]

3 months into a new relationship. Absolutely head over heels! We have both said we are in love with each other. Already talking about moving in together next year.

We have actually known each other for 18 months prior to getting into the relationship.

My question is.... in your opinion is it all too soon? I.e expressing our love already? Or do you think sometimes if it's right you just know?

A little niggle in my head makes me think it's too good to be true and are we rushing?

Thanks ladies

It will have been right for many but not for others. The truth is you don't know, but only time will tell. Personally I think 3 months isn't that long in a relationship, even if you knew them before, since you're unlikely to know them in the same depth as acquaintances or even friends.

I met someone years ago and we clicked in a way I never had before. We met a few times over a few months before we decided to have a date, but that was then was delayed by a few weeks due to other commitments. So by the time it happened we were crazy about each other. All was amazing for 6 months and then the shine wore off a bit. I kept going as I felt there was a lot there, but ultimately (2 years later) I felt I had to break up with him because of some traits he had that I just couldn't accept and knew nothing of for quite a while. It was incredibly disappointing and sad.

If you have 'niggles', give yourself time to find out who he really is.

DH told me he loved me and would be marrying me at the end of our first date (which lasted a whole weekend). I laughed but inside felt exactly the same.

33 years later and he drew a heart in the froth on my cappuccino this morning.

I wonder if the OP is still with him?!

To be perfectly honest you want to hear positive 'we said it after3 seconds and have been togeht4t 80 years' because you think if enough people say it by some miracle that will be the same as you

There is a child involved don't do it to them, but you really won't listen to it. You want a fairy tale life is not like that

Nothing we say will change your mind

well i’ve just read the thread and it’s gone from “we’re planning on moving in together in the summer” so “we’re planning on a summer holiday together”. So i reckon reality has already kicked in! thankfully

It's such an individual thing, it's hard to say. DH and I half jokingly said we were going to get married the night we met, moved in together after 3 months, and have now been married for 14 years.

Neither of us had previously had children though, if children are involved, then obviously such a fast moving relationship wouldn't be a great idea.

Of course it's not too soon! My husband and I said that we loved each other about six weeks after we met, although I knew much sooner than that, and got our first flat together another six weeks later. That was 47 years ago. Sometimes it takes a while before you realise that you love someone but sometimes you know immediately.

We said it after a few weeks, we celebrate our silver wedding anniversary soon.

What is ‘love’ to you. What does it mean when you say you’re in love with him?

In my experience, if it's right you just know. DH and I felt sure enough of our feelings to use the L word after spending 1 week together.

No aspect of the relationship felt rushed - we moved in together after 18 months, married after 4 years and had our daughter after 6.5 years.

13 years on, we're still together and still in love, that love has just grown and solidified.

Only just seen this thread was added to.

We've been together nearly 7 months now, very much in love and planning a future together. We are going on holiday in the summer, then if that goes well will look at moving in together afterwards. I am the happiest I've ever been and he is a wonderful man.

I've enjoyed reading other people's experiences and have taken on board advice.

My partner & I said it after 3.5 weeks, and are still happily in love 5.5 years later!

I fell in love with my husband the moment I met him, after a month we were practically living together, had our first child 13 months after we met and our 2nd 11 months after that. Together a long time now and still very happily married. Sometimes when you know you just know 😬

Still absolutely thriving! 😍

We said it to each other after two weeks and pretty soon after decided to buy a house together to combine houses.
When you know you know. He's amazing in every dimension and thinks I am too. We hate being apart and have a brilliant laugh when together. I can't imagine life without him.

Best of luck.

Oooh I am intrigued as to what the deleted comments are now!

I posted upthread to say I knew at about 2 days, and said it after 2 weeks- now happily engaged and wedding planning 🥰

With my ex wife, probably about a month. In my most recent relationship - about 2.5 weeks!! It just felt right and natural.

there is no correct time, people are different, some will only see that person once a week, others 5 times a week.

have you moved in together OP? how’s it going?