Is 3 months into a new relationship too soon to declare love?

[Whereisautumn]

3 months into a new relationship. Absolutely head over heels! We have both said we are in love with each other. Already talking about moving in together next year.

We have actually known each other for 18 months prior to getting into the relationship.

My question is.... in your opinion is it all too soon? I.e expressing our love already? Or do you think sometimes if it's right you just know?

A little niggle in my head makes me think it's too good to be true and are we rushing?

Thanks ladies

Name change?

We said the L word 3 weeks in 😬 sounds a bit crazy thinking about it! 3 year wedding anniversary in a few weeks!

yes i confirmed

will do then

but randomly came across another thread where you describe your horror of a MIL so i won’t probe further as no doubt explains i willingness to discuss on this thread!

What on earth are you talking about?

Thank you all ladies, love hearing your stories and advice x

how’s all going OP?

yes Op come back please for an update!!

Hi! It's all going very well thank you. We've just booked our first holiday for the Summer and spend pretty much all our free time together. Think we are in the infatuation stage!
He is wonderful ❤️ I really do see a future with him. Thank you for asking ladies! X

still thinking about moving in together in the summer?

ooooh i’m interested too! Still planning on summer move in?

Too soon. 6 months in things are usually much clearer. A year even more so. No need to rush :-). Just wait and see.

If there are children, I think wait a year at least if possible.

I was friends with DW for about 5 years before we got together. I knew I had feelings for her but I was afraid of rejection, and life was very complicated at the time.
She text me one evening to tell me she was falling for me (and then later on told me she threw her phone down and wouldn't read my reply for ages 😅) and we said it to each other from that day on.
Together 5 years, married for 1 year, happy blended family and hopefully will have a little one of our soon. I say you can say it when you feel it and don't worry too much about what others think or say.

erm nope. My husband and i said i love you two months and 4 days after MEETING. We've been together for 7 years, married 5 and have baby no 2 on the way and are very happy. I knew he was the one after 17 days (though wasn't in love at that point, I just knew).

My parents were engaged after three weeks and married at 4 months and loved each other til we lost my mum.

There's no timeline for when things should and shouldn't happen in relationships. Some people take six weeks, others six months and others six years. every relationship is different and should be treated as such. it's what is right for you and only you can say whether it is or isn't

both you and your partner were child free before you met?

Shortly after my exh and I met, a flat came free in our building and we spontaneously moved into it together. We went on to get married, had children. It lasted 20 years.
I wouldn't do it that fast again. There was a false sense of intimacy; it felt like we knew each other well, when actually we were projecting onto one another. It became mundane faster, not as romantic as it could have been; later, my exh claimed that we'd done it purely for practical reasons. And about 3-4 years in, when I started to wonder if it was a great match after all, there was more pressure to work on the relationship rather than "giving up" on it, which I probably should have done really.
I've been with my current dp for 7 years and we still live apart, partly as he has a dd but partly as there's no pressure to settle down at our age. I've really appreciated taking my time to get to know him. Knowing that if we wanted to, we could break up at the drop of a hat, means that I know he really wants to be with me.

There's no right and wrong way; it's not that simple. But always listen to any niggling little voice you hear.

if so, surely you can see that children in the equation adds a totally different perspective

I would go cautiously. I told a man I loved him once after 3 months. He said I don't love you and we split up! Just be careful with the hearts of all involved.

We were both childless but even so the OP was talking about saying "I love you" not getting engaged. They haven't committed to anything bar a holiday in six months time yet that i can see so i think that's fine for a timescale. The child also already knows the partner as they were friends first.

I loved my DP almost immediately. The feeling has just grown. I told him at 8 months and he made me wait a week 😂. We moved in together after 2 years and are blissfully happy.

the summer holiday has now replaced we the original “moving in together” plan that the op has for the summer!

as a single parent myself, i can’t imagine having the time over a mere 3 months to see anyone and spend enough time with them to feel like saying i love you!

Oops, was 2 weeks for us so I'm not one to give advice

Hope it all works out for your OP.

Pleased to read OP’s update that planning holiday this summer… rather than a previous post where said planning on moving in together in the summer!! which is far too soon with children involved

Was that the reason you changed the planning from moving in together to a holiday op?