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What's stopping you dating again?

178 replies

RuhRohRaggy · 09/11/2023 17:53

For me it's the fear of getting to the "let's meet your friends" stage and having no one to introduce them to.

OP posts:
pastypirate · 09/11/2023 17:54

It's all the shit habits that men have.

BethDuttonsTwin · 09/11/2023 17:55

Married twice and cohabited with two more. It doesn’t work for me. I just don’t like being in long term relationships.

CeliaCanth · 09/11/2023 18:06

Just looking at men my age/slightly older (and younger if truth be told) and realising that, at best, they leave me cold and, at worst, they actively repulse me. I’m a straight female by the way and until recently was married.

Again12 · 09/11/2023 18:07

My last boyfriend was am abusive suicidal nightmare who stole 3 years of my life. Being alone unless a hero comes along without a search is my idea of peace.

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 09/11/2023 18:09

I have my house, my dog, my job, my grown up children and lots of lovely friends. I can't think of anything that a man would add to my life.

coodawoodashooda · 09/11/2023 18:10

I'm fat, unfit and have varicose veins.

Alifestylechoice · 09/11/2023 18:15

Overweight, don’t really like men anymore

ErinAoife · 09/11/2023 18:17

The fear of being rejected.

unsync · 09/11/2023 18:18

Men. Just can't be arsed anymore.

TotalOverhaul · 09/11/2023 18:20

DH. He wouldn't like it and I am still fond of him. But I am so curious about online dating as DS seems to have a steady stream of relationships with genuinely compatible girls, from FWB to summer flings to steady girlfriends, all met through OLD.

Lieslies · 09/11/2023 18:22
  1. I don't meet anyone in real life
  2. Looked at Bumble. Those that aren't repulsive are married.
  3. I'm not convinced the cons of a relationship outweigh the pros
  4. I quite like being single.
RamblingRosiePosy · 09/11/2023 18:25

Pure freedom and time for one self. A calm peaceful home, better mental health, untethered, unaccountable, no snoring, no boring tv, no foul moods. As many cats as l like. My own beautiful space.

MissSmiley · 09/11/2023 18:30

I'm not really sure what's stopping me, but I agree with a PP, just not sure what they would add to my already very happy life. Apart from sex, so there is that but I can have sex with whoever I want now, if I found a relationship I'd have to stick with the same one all the time.

Jellykat · 09/11/2023 18:31

I cant be bothered anymore.. too knackering, i prefer doing other things with my energy now!

Highlighta · 09/11/2023 18:32

I don't really have an valid reasons more than I just could not be bothered.

I am happy how I am and see no reason to change that.

Something that I found quite odd, I was watching a series (Sweet Magnolias incase anyone knows the scene), the woman was in the kitchen making a meal, busy doing something, and in waltzed the bf. It was as if.. oh here I am now so you should stop everything you are doing and stand there while I kiss you all over up and down your neck and you should pretend to love it.

It just unnerved me so and I found it so creepy. I really think a peck or kiss hello would have sufficed and he ask to help peel the carrots.

I don't think years ago I would have thought twice about this, but now I need my space and can think of nothing worse than being pawed at.

And all the idle chit chat. Nah. Couldn't be arsed.

Crushed23 · 09/11/2023 18:37

CeliaCanth · 09/11/2023 18:06

Just looking at men my age/slightly older (and younger if truth be told) and realising that, at best, they leave me cold and, at worst, they actively repulse me. I’m a straight female by the way and until recently was married.

I haven’t given up dating yet, but similar to this, the older I get the worse men look.

Women look after themselves so much better than men do, on the whole.

For every ‘silver fox’ there’s 999 men who look like something out of The Hills Have Eyes.

Redlarge · 09/11/2023 18:43

Men

SamW98 · 09/11/2023 18:44

Just can’t seem to find anyone I’m attracted to who wants same sort of thing as me.

Im very open to meeting someone but it’s just not happening. The men I attract seem to either want a housewife to wipe their arse or are just looking for sex. Somewhere in the middle would be nice bits it’s proving elusive.

SamW98 · 09/11/2023 18:45

Crushed23 · 09/11/2023 18:37

I haven’t given up dating yet, but similar to this, the older I get the worse men look.

Women look after themselves so much better than men do, on the whole.

For every ‘silver fox’ there’s 999 men who look like something out of The Hills Have Eyes.

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Yep. The reasonably attractive ones seem to be after sex and most of the others give out Norman Bates vibes

KissTheRains · 09/11/2023 18:47

I can't imagine anyone adding to my life in any significant way.
I don't give two shits about sex, I'd rather have a cup of tea and a biscuit if I'm honest, I don't meet anyone that I'd like to see in the nude and in fact, the thought of it is quite vomit inducing.

Ilovegoldies · 09/11/2023 18:48

I'm not single but I did give up dating before I met my fiance. I had found such peace and happiness with my full life that I didn't want to put myself through the crap again. Pure luck I met my partner, and even better luck that he's an absolute diamond. If we ever part I won't date again nor seek a relationship.

Almostwelsh · 09/11/2023 18:51

No-one wants to go out with me.

cassiatwenty · 09/11/2023 18:52

I'm taking some time to work on myself right now.

FinallyHere · 09/11/2023 18:53

DH still alive (just)

Looking meaningfully at the patio

Showertime · 09/11/2023 18:57

Feeling low.

Crap date after crap date leaves me thinking I’ll never meet a good one.

There is one man who I do some work for who would be absolutely perfect as he is such a nice guy and is the only person in my life who actually asks how I am and how my week is going etc…..but alas he is married so that’s a non starter.