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Aibu to be upset about this, did he overreact?

215 replies

bandmdrama · 02/11/2023 00:04

Boyfriend of six months. I drove 10 miles earlier to pick him up and then another 6 miles to the car garage so he could pick his car up after being repaired. Afterwards he said he needed to go into b and m next door so I went in with him and picked up a couple of items that came to around 4 pound. When we were at the checkout I said oh can I just put these on yours as it's quicker. He said loudly where other people could hear that he is not a sugar daddy and he might as well have got an Uber as I was supposed to be saving him money by giving him a lift. I was embarrassed so I quickly left but I challenged him about it outside and said that he tried to embarrass me in public. He called me again on the way home and ranted to me that I had just seen him pay a large car repair bill and I should have more compassion and money doesn't grow on trees. By this point I was upset and I just said I would transfer him the four pound but he wouldn't accept that and then said it had been a joke. I feel so humiliated and upset and I'm seriously considering dumping him as surely this is likely to just be the start of his meanness?

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LindaDawn · 02/11/2023 20:49

Please give us an update and tell us you have dumped him!!!

Abfab63 · 02/11/2023 21:07

RUN

Underestimated4 · 02/11/2023 21:22

Huge red flag. In the wrong, belittles you, but will try get you to feel bad. Bin him off.

Lennon80 · 02/11/2023 21:34

Does he think sugar daddies are buying women a few bits for four quid in b and fucking m - wow, just fucking wow! Get rid he’s going nowhere and is going to add nothing to your life!

Chattybot · 02/11/2023 21:48

I'm also laughing at the thought of Big Spender "Sugar Daddy" splurging a whole £4 in B&M for his sweetheart.

That's not even a Candarel Daddy.

mommatoone · 02/11/2023 23:00

Chattybot · 02/11/2023 21:48

I'm also laughing at the thought of Big Spender "Sugar Daddy" splurging a whole £4 in B&M for his sweetheart.

That's not even a Candarel Daddy.

'Canderel Daddy" bloody tickled me that has🤣

DerventioRising · 02/11/2023 23:19

Wow what a miserable git! Get rid.

PeloFan91 · 03/11/2023 10:03

Definite red flag if he’s happy to speak to you like this in public. So deliberately rude and hurtful. Walk away.

Carzo · 03/11/2023 19:58

Sounds like he's gaslighting you also, major red flag. Dodge that bullet now.

Cowhen · 03/11/2023 21:16

He showed you who he truly is. Believe it.

avenue1 · 03/11/2023 21:21

Please, please don't waste any more time on this nitwit. He's comfortable being taxied around by you, using your time and money, then deliberately humiliates you in public.
That's unthinkable. He is holding you up from public mockery. He probably secretly resents you, and is definitely on the path to sorts of abuse. Give the guy a call. Tell him you won't be taking up any more of his time or money- see you never.

Muthaofcats · 04/11/2023 05:02

Laughing at the idea of a sugar daddy in B&M! Ridiculous.

But seriously, hideous man. Please don’t let him persuade you to stay.

Newnamehiwhodis · 04/11/2023 05:39

Ew he’s disgusting.
the one he’s made look very bad is himself - shouting in a shop!
and flat out admitting he had used you, your time and energy just to save himself money.

he’s repulsive. Please dump him

Atethehalloweenchocs · 04/11/2023 18:56

Ew ew ew. No, you know you deserve better than this. I really believe that some older guys go for girls younger than them, because women their age crack onto these kind of antics straightaway and consequently wouldn’t touch them with a barge pole.

This! With bells on!!!!! Not all relationships obviously, but in a lot of these relationships where there is an age difference of more than a few years it is because the older partner wants more power and control.

billy1966 · 04/11/2023 19:09

Newnamehiwhodis · 04/11/2023 05:39

Ew he’s disgusting.
the one he’s made look very bad is himself - shouting in a shop!
and flat out admitting he had used you, your time and energy just to save himself money.

he’s repulsive. Please dump him

This.

God love you if you cannot see how absolutely awful he is.

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