Aibu to be upset about this, did he overreact?

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Boyfriend of six months. I drove 10 miles earlier to pick him up and then another 6 miles to the car garage so he could pick his car up after being repaired. Afterwards he said he needed to go into b and m next door so I went in with him and picked up a couple of items that came to around 4 pound. When we were at the checkout I said oh can I just put these on yours as it's quicker. He said loudly where other people could hear that he is not a sugar daddy and he might as well have got an Uber as I was supposed to be saving him money by giving him a lift. I was embarrassed so I quickly left but I challenged him about it outside and said that he tried to embarrass me in public. He called me again on the way home and ranted to me that I had just seen him pay a large car repair bill and I should have more compassion and money doesn't grow on trees. By this point I was upset and I just said I would transfer him the four pound but he wouldn't accept that and then said it had been a joke. I feel so humiliated and upset and I'm seriously considering dumping him as surely this is likely to just be the start of his meanness?

Transfer the money with a note telling him to Fuck Off

£4. In B&M. That makes him a sugar daddy?

Jesus Christ, how embarrassing for him to act like that in public.

Honestly, OP. I wouldn't be having that in the slightest.

Tight bastard! I hate stuff like this.

Transfer the 4 quid with 'wanker' as the reference and run for the hills!

He is an utter arse - complete lack of gratitude for you chauffeuring him around. Even if you hadn't just done him a big favour, making an issue out of spending £4 on your girlfriend is pure miserly.

Dump him. Tightwads don't tend to get better. If he is like this after 6 months (when he's supposed to be at his very best) can you imagine him after 6 years?

This is your first test. This is to see what amount of shit you'll tolerate from him.

If you stay, you are telling him that you'll accept poor behaviour, abuse, and subsequently a measly explanation that brushes away his awful behaviour and abuse towards you.

So the test is - do you value yourself enough to bin him, or do you consider yourself to have zero worth and somehow deserving of this treatment?

This is the stage where the mask slips and the point at which many of us identified ourselves to our abusers as women who didn't consider ourselves to have enough worth and therefore, the ideal partner for him.

Reading your post reminded me of my own test. Back then that undeserved screaming match he aimed at me baffled and hurt me. I wanted to make it right. I wanted to try to understand where this rage came from. Because this wasn't the nice, sensitive man I'd fallen for.

And yes, he wasn't the nice man any more. He never was again apart from fake occasional glimpses to keep me on the hook. The real him was the rage-filled man who showed himself to me that first moment. Same as your guy.

So what if she did try to get some pennies back from the loudmouth?

Wow. Avoid avoid avoid. No good will come from keeping him in your life. I agree with BiscuitBrew- transfer the £4 and tell him to get lost.

Text him: "I've transferred the £4. As sugar daddies go, you're really not up to scratch so I'm calling it a day. Btw, 'jokes' are meant to be funny, you really need to work on that."

Yes, this, in pennies.

i also hate the misogynistic undertone. He just is awful all round.

I’d transfer it and in the section where you write a reference, I’d write “you’re dumped” and then block him. No need to put yourself to any more trouble than that.

I’ve transfer £4 with a ‘you’re blocked’ comment and block the asshole as yes, it will only get worse

This is a preview. Imagine yourself treating someone like that: You never could, correct? So why put up with someone who's more than comfortable doing that to you? Even if it was a "joke," it shows that his "sense of humor" is humiliating you in public and then gaslighting you after. Wow. Fun and hilarious.

Drop the bastard before it gets more serious.

Misread your post initially. Yes, dump him.

Being tight is very unattractive

Sugar Daddy. SUGAR DADDY .S U G A R. D A D D Y
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my sides are hurting.

dump him by text, then block him on everything. If he has stuff at yours then put it in bags tell him
youll put it outside (day & time the suits you).

change your lock barrel if he has a key.

Op says why she wanted him to pay for it in her post- because it would be quicker for him to do so. Be honest- what was the point of your comment?

I hate people who do the 'it was a joke' thing when it very clearly wasn't.

He'd be in the bin if it was me.

Send him a bill forthe petrol, 16 miles at the hmrc rate of .45p is £7.20

then bin him

OMG he is vile. Block him without any explanation.

So he saves his money by you paying for petrol to drive him around! Nice guy.

Be grateful that he has shown his true colours now and get rid of him. It would be lot worse if it was years down the line.

6 months in and he’s already a twat.

Post 400 pennies through his door with an invoice for fuel and time.

Exactly this - word for word.

Good grief, dump him. If he was really that broke, he could have asked you for the money politely, once you were out of the shop.