Aibu to be upset about this, did he overreact?

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Boyfriend of six months. I drove 10 miles earlier to pick him up and then another 6 miles to the car garage so he could pick his car up after being repaired. Afterwards he said he needed to go into b and m next door so I went in with him and picked up a couple of items that came to around 4 pound. When we were at the checkout I said oh can I just put these on yours as it's quicker. He said loudly where other people could hear that he is not a sugar daddy and he might as well have got an Uber as I was supposed to be saving him money by giving him a lift. I was embarrassed so I quickly left but I challenged him about it outside and said that he tried to embarrass me in public. He called me again on the way home and ranted to me that I had just seen him pay a large car repair bill and I should have more compassion and money doesn't grow on trees. By this point I was upset and I just said I would transfer him the four pound but he wouldn't accept that and then said it had been a joke. I feel so humiliated and upset and I'm seriously considering dumping him as surely this is likely to just be the start of his meanness?

I love @StaunchMomma suggestion best! Definitely dump him, OP.

I severely dislike him on your behalf 😒 he's gotta go

When someone tells you who they are listen carefully

You probably spent more on petrol/diesel giving him lifts. Get rid of him.

then said it had been a joke

Except no one's laughing.
Maybe he can spend the time he will no longer be with you (because you're gonna dump) him working on his comedic skills.

Yes unacceptable behaviour on his part. Big repair bill or not a really decent person would have paid for your £4 of shopping and offered a bit of petrol money as well. An adult having a public tantrum over £4 when you've given up your time and done a 30 mile round trip to help him out, well yes I would want to dump him over that. He doesn't sound very nice. Let him use Ubers in future or find another mug.

You should be thanking him that he's shown you what an absolute arse he is at just 6 months in. He will definitely be like this again if you stay, and you absolutely shouldn't.

Here have my second only LTB - and definitely transfer him the £4 with Bye as the reference and then block and delete.

Massive massive 🚩🚩🚩🚩

I would put £4 in an enveloppe and leave that in his letter box (not going to try and extract his bank details!)
And I’d tell him to get lost. I wouldn’t even try to tell him why. Why loose energy on a lost cause?

Run a mile. Good thing he's shown his true colours at this stage. You've dodged a bullet there OP

Red flag the abuse will escalate Dump him

The question is why was he trying to embarrass you! What does he get out of that. Run now!

In the bin for him

Dump his ugly ass

By the time you read this , I hope you’ve already dumped the wanker…

What an absolute embarrassment. Dump for sure, tight dickhead.

It's not 'a joke', OP. It's the shape of things to come. Get rid.

The least he could have done was pay the £4 in return for the lift. Sounds like he's all take and no give.

What a twat. Deliberately trying to humiliate you in public over £4 when you'd driven all that way to do him a favour.

He wouldn't be getting a second chance from me.

Wow only together 6 months and he treats you like that in public.

I would have left him and walked out of the shop

Fuck him off out now.

Ungrateful git.

Give a piece of your mind, dump and block

Sugar daddy for £4 when you’d already done him a favour which cost you money, probably more than £4! What planet is he living on?

don’t waste any more time on him, you’re worth more than £4.

He disrespected you. He cannot see how he did this. He minimised your effort to attend to his needs for a lift in a rant and then acted " mean" .( alright to be tight with money but meanness is a different concept taking benefit from another) He embarrassed you in public belittling you. Very self centred. He may cry/ manipulate your feelings or get angry to keep you. Walk away and keep your boundary for disrespectful behaviour high. Good luck.

The key thing here is how he has made you feel. Do you want a BF who is prepared to humiliate you like that, and make you feel ashamed? There are ways of dealing with things like this eg he could - pay for it and then discuss it afterwards and point out to you he doesn't have much money after the car bill and would you mind transferring the money etc etc. but he didn't, he took the humiliation approach. Red flag.

What a shame he had just collected his car.

Otherwise you could just have left him in b&m!

Be honest. Did you get him to pay it as you’d driven him, so you wanted the petrol money back?