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Aibu to be upset about this, did he overreact?

215 replies

bandmdrama · 02/11/2023 00:04

Boyfriend of six months. I drove 10 miles earlier to pick him up and then another 6 miles to the car garage so he could pick his car up after being repaired. Afterwards he said he needed to go into b and m next door so I went in with him and picked up a couple of items that came to around 4 pound. When we were at the checkout I said oh can I just put these on yours as it's quicker. He said loudly where other people could hear that he is not a sugar daddy and he might as well have got an Uber as I was supposed to be saving him money by giving him a lift. I was embarrassed so I quickly left but I challenged him about it outside and said that he tried to embarrass me in public. He called me again on the way home and ranted to me that I had just seen him pay a large car repair bill and I should have more compassion and money doesn't grow on trees. By this point I was upset and I just said I would transfer him the four pound but he wouldn't accept that and then said it had been a joke. I feel so humiliated and upset and I'm seriously considering dumping him as surely this is likely to just be the start of his meanness?

OP posts:
ImCamembertTheBigCheese · 02/11/2023 16:33

obje · 02/11/2023 16:27

But 16 miles of petrol also caused all this. They sound equally to blame and right to me 🤷🏻‍♀️

How do you figure that? Unless I missed it the OP (and that is very possible!) it does not say she was wanting payment for the lift.

NoraBattysCurlers · 02/11/2023 16:33

Run. For. The. Hills.

SparkyBlue · 02/11/2023 16:34

Another one here saying run for the hills.

ManateeFair · 02/11/2023 16:46

Bloody hell, dump him now. He's horrible. What a complete shit.

Purplecatshopaholic · 02/11/2023 16:48

Nice of him to show you what he’s really like. DUMP.

Redebs · 02/11/2023 16:52

It's a nope, nope, nopetty, nope from me too.

Not the money, but the attitude.

Send him £4, then end it immediately.

Traceyislivid · 02/11/2023 16:56

Transfer the £4 and in the narrative on online banking write ‘ur dumped’ 🤣

YYURYYUCICYYUR4ME · 02/11/2023 16:58

Dump - you've had an early warning, so a lucky escape!

FerretFarago · 02/11/2023 17:00

Yes, he can get in the bin!

unsync · 02/11/2023 17:01

As Gstaad Guy would say ...

Aibu to be upset about this, did he overreact?
perfectcolourfound · 02/11/2023 17:03

Yeah he needs to go.

Rather than thank you for taking time out of your day to run him around, which would be the polite, normal thing to do, he refuses to put £4 of goods on his bill (when you've just spent more than that on him) but not only that, intentionally embarasses you (while at the same time showing his sexist views).

Then he reinforces it in private, refuses to apologise (or I assume thank you for the lift?) and then, finally (presumably when he realises he's been an idiot, pretends it was all a 'joke'.

Not funny.

Has he even acknowledged that running him around will have cost you more than the £4 you asked him to put on his bill?

Itsjustagoogleaway · 02/11/2023 17:16

Thank goodness you haven’t wasted more than 6 months on this guy.
Time to move on.
Shame you didn’t drive off and leave it at b and m.

Nanaof1 · 02/11/2023 17:20

You've now seen his true colors, and they aren't pretty.

Anyone who would do that in public doesn't care enough about you to keep them around. Fire him because you can do much better.

KeyWorker · 02/11/2023 17:22

I’d transfer the £4. Then I’d bin him.

EmpressSoleil · 02/11/2023 17:28

I'm cringing for him thinking £4 will buy him sugar daddy status!

Why is it that the men who throw out this comment often don't have 2 pennies to rub together? It's just an excuse to be a tight ass.

If someone was doing me a favour and asked me to cover £4 of their shopping I'd do it gladly and see it as a way of saying thanks. I Agree with (nearly) everyone else. Throw this one back.

StopStartStop · 02/11/2023 17:29

'Bye!' and block.

Illbebythesea · 02/11/2023 17:31

Well if it makes you feel any better, if I saw this encounter it would be HIM I would be inwardly cringing at, not you. Deffo bin him, twat.

Angrycat2768 · 02/11/2023 17:31

Send him a card with 4 x £1 coins stuck in with sellotape that says ' you're dumped' then block his number.

novalia89 · 02/11/2023 17:32

four bloody pounds? I'm sure at some point in the relationship you would have paid that for him (ignoring the petrol). It's very juvenile to be that strict with money in a relationship.

KeeefBurtain · 02/11/2023 17:32

You’re worth more than this x

Goldbar31 · 02/11/2023 17:32

Oh, get rid.

LindaDawn · 02/11/2023 17:34

Get rid of him. Major red flag!

Dweetfidilove · 02/11/2023 17:37

Scirocco · 02/11/2023 16:18

Bin.

Love it 🤣🤣🤣🤣

AnneValentine · 02/11/2023 17:38

Bye red flag!

FictionalCharacter · 02/11/2023 17:40

Six months is more than enough for this one.
Dump him after you’ve asked for petrol money plus a mileage allowance to cover wear and tear. You can deduct the four quid from that.

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