Is anyone else still in disbelief that another woman is living your life?

[autumnmarshmallows]

Usual scenario. Husband of 22 years had an affair and got OW pregnant within three months of being with her (we already had adult children).
Both of them are bastards in my opinion but even 5 years on, I still have days when I can't wrap my head around this other woman living the life that was originally mine. She seems to want for nothing and doesn't work (small kid at home half the time), drives a brand new car, goes on holidays and is a bitch towards our adult kids.
I'd never want to be with him again but it does occasionally piss me right off . I'm wondering if this feeling with ever dissipate?

I really pity my exH's new woman. She has no idea what a selfish shit he is and will be living a dog's life.

Not trying to "kid" anyone.

I've been there. Got the t shirt. I can still differentiate between the actions of my ex and the actions of the OW. He's the one who cheated and destroyed our relationship.

I'm disgusted by the the number of women who choose vitriolic hatred towards the OW over the cheating husband.

You demonstrate that in your post @BackAgainstWall . You glide over the actions of the actions of the cheating husband but take time to type out that the woman is likely to be an "immoral bitch"

I stick by exactly what I posted. The only person responsible for the devastation and pain I experienced was my ex. His actions destroyed our relationship and family before it had begun, as I was pregnant at the time.

The OW might be the devil incarnate and devoid of any morals whatsoever. But he chose to sleep with her.

Not RTFT but it's hard when OW is living the life ex H promised you - plenty of holidays and city breaks, fancy restaurants, brand new cars...and you are left with nothing except knowing he lied and had no intention of a future or doing any of these things with you.

OP - stop giving them so much headspace. They are living their life, and I wouldn't think they are giving you a single thought.

Do the same.🙂

This

There's a steady stream of them and they are welcome to him and the life of servitude he's given them.

Weirdly dismissive comment.