The problem is either with your dating app of choice or who you're matching with. I was talking to a male friend the other week who has been using Tinder for 8 months on and off and he told me that:
> with one exception, all his matches had been, or appeared to be genuine. He's had 100 or so matches,
> all of the 20 or so women he has met with looked like their photos, many looked better than them! Only in one case did the person look older, and then not significantly so (he still fancied her!)
> he has received no abuse at all - let alone obscene photos/videos - even when he has declined or not pursued dates;
> only one woman cancelled prior to a date, and given the context and future messages etc, he was pretty sure the issue that led to the cancellation was an emergency.
> he's only been "ghosted" in the early phases of Tinder chats after a handful of messages. He's never been ghosted after a date. If a date hasn't wanted to progress things they've always politely told or messaged him so.
> he's had 3 short relationships, none of which developed for various reasons;
For context, he is in a semi-rural location, in his late 40s and matching with women aged 40-50. He only "likes" women with a decent selection of photos, with a good bio, who is looking for a relationship. He's picky...
That's what OLD should be like... and can be like, for men at least. The fact you're not experiencing that indicates there's something wrong with how you're approaching it. He is tall, good-looking, and has a great bio though, so that probably has some bearing on his success.
But, what a world of difference to the average woman's experience on OLD!