Not sure if I'm over reacting.

[CinnamonSwirl82]

I have a close friend round for the weekend. We were supposed to go for a weekend away but I've just come out of the hospital and I'm too ill to leave the house.

I managed to stay up until 10.30pm last night but went to bed and left DH and friend drinking/chatting. Fully trusted them both, done it before, not a problem. She was sat on the other end of the L shaped sofa to him when I left.

Woke up at 4am and he's still not in bed. Went downstairs and they're cuddled up on the sofa fast asleep. Blankets have been thrown behind the sofa; the ones I tucked my friend up in before I went to bed.

I'm so hurt. They insist nothing happened but nothing adds up as to why they'd be cuddled up. She said DH offered her a hug as they'd been discussing her abusive relationship and she got upset (completely fine), but what's not fine is them still being cuddled up like a couple to the point they fell asleep.

She's sobering up then driving home but I've been in bed all day avoiding them. DH keeps coming up to apologise and to ask if I want anything but I just don't want to see them.

I'm wondering if I'm being an absolute drama queen being so upset by this.

Thanks for updating, @CinnamonSwirl82. You had quite a shock seeing them all cuddled up. After her performance that day, your H played with fire by staying up drinking with her. I’m glad to hear that he’s being proactive in trying to make amends.

It was a good move to alert her fiancé about her behavior. He’s been unsettled and you’ve provided some answers.

Sending positive thoughts your way. 🦋

Absolutely not acceptable on any level!

You will be completely unreasonable if you stay friends with her and do not come down like a ton of bricks on both of them

I know it's old but this reappeared in active - I can't believe you contacted her fiancé who you KNOW she's in an abusive relationship with
You let your feelings get in the way of her potential safety. That's not ok
It's awful what you are going through but I think you were wrong for doing that. You could have been reasonable and just let it go, as you seem to want to do that with your husband so why the drama?

its reappeared in active because of the poor OP's latest thread which links to this.

You might want to catch up.

100% agree. I don't believe there was any real concern for the fiance. I'd cut her off but that was a really vindictive and dangerous thing to do. Especially as she's claiming to be scared of her man now.