Dp and i been together over 15 years.
He has a best mate, let’s call him Trevor. They were close friends all through high school.
When dp and I met we went on couples date with Trevor and his partner. Trevor and his partner made it obvious they did not like me. I had never met them before and was very friendly and polite.
In the years that followed we would bump into Trevor who would chat to dp but openly ignore me. Dp always said he never noticed etc.
trevor has a brother, Erwin. One night dp and I had a very rare night out. I was dancing with friends with dp watching on (dp doesn’t dance, quite a shy personality and out of his comfort zone). Dp was stood talking to Erwin.
When I got off the dance floor Erwin said to me in a very nasty manner that I was a fucking slag. Obviously I was shocked and surprised. I am most definitely not a ‘slag’ and never have been.
Fast forward a few years, Trevor started out his own business, approached dp to go work with him.
dp well aware how upset I have been in the past of Trevor’s rudeness for no reason. I made it clear I would not be happy for Dp working with a man who had been so rude to me for absolutely no reason. Trevor over the years kept coming to Dp asking him to join him in his firm.
Dp recently agreed to go given he was unhappy in his well paying roll to join Trevor for better prospects long term.
I accepted that because I could see how unhappy dp was in his role. I would just get over it.
it was recently his first week. I find out on day one his days are spent with Erwin working closely with him. Dp had no idea that would be the case.
I feel so very conflicted. I want dp to be happy at work, but ultimately I feel he is being disloyal to me, working for a man who has been horrible to me, spending his days happily with a man that called me a fucking slag for no reason.
please tell me your thoughts. Am I incredibly selfish?