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I don't like what I heard

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Fassbender2020 · 28/09/2023 17:12

My partner and father of my children had a female friend over today. I've been suspecious of them before but he assured me nothing was going on and he'd never leave our children

Anyway, today I was having a nap and overheard something I didn't like. She asked him why he was being weird hugging her differently here and he said what do you mean and she said you aren't hugging me properly like we normally do, you're giving me weird one arm hugs, and sitting away from her and what's wrong with you. It was jokey tone wise but it was obvious she sounded genuine confused. He just got flustered and said nothing and then it just went quiet.

I don't know what to think. Well maybe I do but what does anyone else think?

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webbydeb · 21/12/2023 19:57

What a horrible situation. Im happy for you that you no longer have to be with this piece of shit. Two pieces of shit can now live happily ever after in the toilets until someone flushes it so good luck to them.

kayla12345 · 21/12/2023 20:55

I'm so sorry OP and I didn't see your update thread. Was it on this or another thread?
I think they will be in the honeymoon period for a short amount of time and then she will never fully trust him because of what he has done to you. He's a scum bag and you deserve so much better

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Fassbender2020 · 21/12/2023 21:17

A different one. I appreciate the solidarity and kindness of pp, but I'd honestly rather whatever they have is real. That I could live with easier

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Undineimmor · 21/12/2023 21:21

The obvious answer is that he gives her a genuine "friend" hug when you aren't there but out of respect for you hugs stiffly when you are there.

FictionalCharacter · 21/12/2023 21:51

Undineimmor · 21/12/2023 21:21

The obvious answer is that he gives her a genuine "friend" hug when you aren't there but out of respect for you hugs stiffly when you are there.

Read the update!

RenoDakota · 21/12/2023 21:52

Undineimmor · 21/12/2023 21:21

The obvious answer is that he gives her a genuine "friend" hug when you aren't there but out of respect for you hugs stiffly when you are there.

Have you read the actual thread? He is now living with the other woman.

OP, so sorry this happened to you. I saw your other (update) thread and wondered if it was you.
All the very best to you Flowers

Twitchie · 21/12/2023 21:57

There's nothing worse than someone cheating. But not only that, doing it under your nose and you having that sick feeling before finding out.

Really sorry to hear of this op, it stings. In time, you'll move on and do much better.

Loubelle70 · 21/12/2023 23:30

I remember the original thread. What a bastard. Anyway ..please dont think he has changed for her, hes just on his best behavior whilst its new and shiny...itll wear off OP.

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Fassbender2020 · 21/12/2023 23:46

In the nicest possible way, again, I want them to work, it's the only way that I can make this OK for myself. He wasn't some awful person, for 99% of our time together he was a good man and is a great father. I appreciate all the well wishes but I'm trying to move on and deal with my first Christmas that's very different for me. Thanks pp

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