Therapist contacted social service's because my husband was calling me names in front of my children

[1exhaustedmama]

Hi All,

I'm absolutely confused about this. I've been having regular therapy sessions for a while now and I tell my therapist everything.
Over the weekend my husband got angry with me and started calling me names "Cnt" and F Off you C u next Tuesday in front of my 2children (non stop). I told my therapist and he decided that he has to report it to social services.
This has happened previously when I was 6months pregnant. My husband was verbally abusive and threatened to take my then 18month old child away from me, which resulted in me calling the police.
Has anyone had similar situations?

I think your therapist has done the right thing. Your children are at risk. What did the police do the last time you called them?

Yes, that's for safeguarding and the right process if your therapist is a member of a decent professional body.

I'm glad they have also talked this through with you. I hope your meetings with SS go well and you consider an exit plan

Good for your therapist. Are you making plans to leave your husband?

Well good on them , not nice for your children to grow up with this sort of behaviour . Time to wake up and smell the coffee

Children are now also considered victims of domestic abuse when they witness this behaviour in their homes. He did the right thing.

What exactly are you confused about?

Hope all goes well for you in your meeting op

That unfortunately makes you an abuser of your children legally. It won't feel fair, but by not telling them, you are actively abusing them yourself as per the comment regarding them being victims of Domestic Abuse from witnessing it and thereby failing to protect them by keeping it secret.

You would prefer children to continue being abused?

I think your therapist did the right thing.
BTW you can write "Cunt" on here.

If you feel you have to hide what goes on in your household from others, professionals or otherwise, then it’s a sign something is very wrong.

At least your therapist is looking out for your children...

Which part has confused you?

What??! For protecting children when the parents are failing to?? That's exactly why we need people like that then, isn't it?

Good for the therapist. Hope you’re making plans for a future without your husband

This is standard safeguarding and they did the right thing for the children.

He absolutely did the right thing.

Your children are being abused and so are you.

I agree that they have a duty of care/obligation to report. If a child was harmed and it came out that a professional had known about it and done nothing, it would not go well for them in any sense of the word. When I have had counselling/therapy in the past it has always been clear that it is confidential unless there is a real risk of harm to self or others.

Perhaps this may be the catalyst to a new and happier life for you, OP. What you describe is distressing and must be awful to live with, for you and your children.

Best wishes to you. x

Some lady said that I'm depriving my kids from their dads and that I should just with the fact that he 'my husband' is messy.
It all started because he was mixing dirty clothes with clean clothes, after I spent all the time cleaning. I was shocked when I told him why did he do that he bag am picking the dirty clothes and throwing them on the floor. I just left him then I picked them up after. Later on when my son was having his dinner- husband came over and started shouting and calling me names because parking ticket I got and the fact that his jumper shrunk in the wash. He was saying YOU ARE A C and F off. I kept on repeating not infront of the children whist smiling and continued to just laugh with my toddler. He was shouting why are you laughing and kicked the small basket that had baby clothes in them. I just ignored him and continued to make smilie faces at my toddler so that he doesn't sense anything is wrong

He's abusive. And your toddler will be affected by his abuse. Hopefully you will get the help you need to leave him. What happened when you called the police when you were 6 months pregnant?

Your son will be horribly horribly confused about why mummy is smiling when daddy is on a furious rampage.

Your therapist has a legal obligation to report this, and did the right thing discussing it with you too.

Therapist did exactly the right thing.

Your therapist is doing the right thing. As apps have said, witnessing domestic abuse is a form of child abuse. Your children are being abused and they need protection.

I hope you get the support you need to leave this man.

Why? Therapist will have told OP at the start of the sessions that she would have to report concerns and after OP disclosed this info she has told her what must happen next.

Would you prefer children continued to be abused why an adult outside them family knows but does nothing?