The clear cold unwelcome fact is that men with LD or not are always charming and lovely in the courtship faze, they would have to be, otherwise no woman would marry them.
It's down the line when things change. Pregnancy is usually the starting point when women are at their most vulnerable.
The amount of DV that goes on is staggering. Then the woman feels trapped into staying when with young DC as it's so hard to leave.
The 2 women who get murdered every single week that does not make the news because it's so common by their partners often saw a red flag or 2 but chose to ignore it, or didn't believe it could happen to them or were in denial or were in love... the end result is always the same, children left without their mum's, families, lives, destroyed.
And the cruelest cherry on top? Once their prison terms are up, these male perpetrators get to resume being daddy having removed the woman from the picture. They also often have their DC visit them with their grandparents in prison visiting times.
Not only that, but irony of all this is that women often think they are protecting their DC by staying, when in reality the chances are higher that he will remove you altogether from their lives if he has a spur of the moment burst of anger .
As that is all what it takes with a man capable of assault. A spur of the moment loss of control which no one can predict.
Basically a ticking time bomb. Same when babies are very young, at their most vulnerable to attack by men who have a lapse of control.
The thing is you will never know when he may be triggered.
Domestic situations are triggering because family life can be stressful even for the calmest of personalities.
Add PD into the mix then you don't know what will happen. You are playing with fire.
Op you sound thoughtful, young, kind and want to help him and try to understand him. You are the absolute perfect victim to a nightmare down the line.
Of all the men in the world you have been hooked by someone who is no good for you or your future babies as you will always have to put his needs first and not theirs.
If you choose not to heed the advice you have been given because you are blinded by your love and devotion to a much older man who has already manipulated you and has a serious P.D has a prison record and is love bombing you, then all I can say is that you must wish for the drama that will undoubtedly unfold, so prepare yourself.