I’m sure it feels like Better the devil you know than the devil you don’t?
Calling 999 is scary and unknown. But there’s a future where you and your dc are safe. Where there isn’t a violent man, turning up in a bad mood to hurt anyone.
Your description of him is terrifying. The fear of knowing that it’s coming, and knowing that there’s nothing you can do to stop what’s coming.
Except that there is this one thing you can do. And there’s no time limit on it - you can call 999 again now, or in the morning.
I’m picturing you trying to stand up to him, your dc so close by and listening and the poor notes terrified too, telling him to go downstairs, being brave in the face of this monster. Can you find that spark of bravery again, that mother instinct to protect your family? We know you are brave. You need to know it too.
One call will set a huge change in motion and I won’t lie- change is hard and transitions are scary - but not as hard as a punch in the face. In your face!
It’s like running down an unknown dark tunnel, but on the other side is a peaceful, tranquil home with no sudden flash in the pan bad moods. No scumbag man who is just looking for an excuse to punch you. No danger of your kids finding you dead on the floor because he hit too hard, or your neck broke in the fall.
Imagine being able to tuck your dc up in bed, and knowing that there are no monsters anymore,
Come back and tell us you’re ok op, and talk to us about your fears.
After an incident like that your body is full of adrenaline and cortisol and the 999 call and callbacks have triggered secondary adrenaline dumps that have sent you into a freeze reaction. You’re going to come out of that state of mind, and when you do, I want you to know that it’s not too late to pick up the phone and set that safe and stable future in motion.
You can do this @OkTrinny He may be physically stronger, but you’ve got us behind you. He needs stopping.