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Original poster

He punched me in the face, I dialled 999

245 replies

OkTrinny · 08/09/2023 22:57

He suddenly went into his mood and flipped. I went upstairs with the children. He followed me up after 5mins even though he just said he wants to be left alone. I told him to go downstairs he refused and told me to fuck off. I told him I've had enough of everything, I had enough of his bullshit treatment towards me, he kept saying stfu, or I'll punch you in the mouth. I just snapped and said you dare and I'll call the police. He kept saying stfu as I was speaking then smacked/punched my mouth.i began crying and dialled 999, I could hear the lady saying hello but I never spoke. She could hear me crying. I cut the call. I never thought I'd call them CZ I've just been too afraid of aftermath. Its been happening for 6 years, I've put up with his crap and something just made me dial 999, physically and mentally I'm shitting down I cant take the crap

What will happen next ? got 3 private calls since i dialling it. But havnt picked up

OP posts:
canyoufeedthedog · 08/09/2023 23:11

Also ,the Police are alerted if you don't answer and you present as vulnerable. It's logged and not in your hands eventually.

Crankitupanotch · 08/09/2023 23:12

If you wont front up to this for yourself, do it for your kids who deserve better.

Don't let your kids think this is what normally happens in relationships. And don't let them be at risk, living with someone who can't control his temper and erupts into violence.

This isn't right, it isn't normal. You found the guts to make that initial call. You can do it again. Ring them back.

canyoufeedthedog · 08/09/2023 23:12

If you call 999 you have definitely done the right thing.
Do not ignore the phone.
They are trying to get in touch with you.

BiscuitsandPuffin · 08/09/2023 23:15

I really hope you've gone quiet because you're on the phone to 999 OP.

fairymary87 · 08/09/2023 23:18

Keep calling 999 we're here to talk too

Starlightstarbright2 · 08/09/2023 23:20

Hope your ok .. this needs logging .. you and your children deserve to be safe .

I have been where you are - life can be very different but you need to report

Original poster
OkTrinny · 08/09/2023 23:21

I feel sick with dread, about opening up a can of worms that I've kept hidden for years

OP posts:
Namechangeforadvicepleaseandthankyou · 08/09/2023 23:21

Call . You CAN do this.

you want your children to go to bed safely.
he’s hurt you. They will be next ….. call

IDontLoveTheWayYouLie · 08/09/2023 23:22

Please call them

monsteramunch · 08/09/2023 23:22

Your phone is in your hands while you type on this thread. Please please call 999 again even if you don't say anything, so they know you're still in need of help. Hopefully they'll send someone anyway but calling them again can only be a good thing.

Original poster
OkTrinny · 08/09/2023 23:22

I cant do it I just cannot say it, the future scares me so much

OP posts:
BiscuitsandPuffin · 08/09/2023 23:22

It's posts like this that make me wish MN had our own version of the Land Rover Owners' Club's International Rescue which co-ordinates help for posters on their site when they need it.

Thanks for coming back OP.

Open that can. Get the worms out into the open and as far away from you as possible before they punch you in the face again... or worse.

TheChosenTwo · 08/09/2023 23:23

OkTrinny · 08/09/2023 23:21

I feel sick with dread, about opening up a can of worms that I've kept hidden for years

Open it, the sick feeling must partly
be the realisation that it needs addressing.
call them back asap, you deserve a happier life than this - and so do your beautiful kids 💐

Elliemayclampett · 08/09/2023 23:23

Please call them. You absolutely can do this

egowise · 08/09/2023 23:24

Please phone them back.

You can do this, if not for yourself, then for your children.

Missingmyusername · 08/09/2023 23:25

Work for an LA- landline police come, mobile not sure.
Get out love, it’ll be better eventually I promise. See this every day. xxx

BiscuitsandPuffin · 08/09/2023 23:25

Can you text them with the number a PP posted? Just text help me or domestic violence with your address.

SlightlyJaded · 08/09/2023 23:25

Open the can. Let the worms out.

Otherwise you spend the rest of your life living in the can. And so do your kids.

We're all here for you.

Screamingabdabz · 08/09/2023 23:25

You are almost there op. Be brave. For your kids.

canyoufeedthedog · 08/09/2023 23:25

If she has phoned 999 and said domestic abuse I can definitely tell you that expiediated a quick response.
We , I was a response phone operator, had training to get Ambulance, Police to the address immediately.
What I did get was usually, they don't want the Police.
Unfortunately any domestic issues we have to include the Police

saraclara · 08/09/2023 23:26

You have to do this. To protect yourself and your children.

If you think you can't do it for yourself, at least recognise how he is damaging your children, and do it for them.

Jifmicroliquid · 08/09/2023 23:27

Do not allow your children to grow up witnessing this.

Please, please ring 999.

autismorarsehole · 08/09/2023 23:28

This was me. I did it. I spoke to the police. It wasn't easy, but it gave me a piece of paper that made it official and that helped me realise it wasn't ok and it wasn't my fault. I'm now 2 years on, in my own house, my children are safe tho are still having therapy to deal with the consequences. I minimised my treatment and didn't realise how far from my real safe I was. And I'm now free.

You can do this. This shouldn't be your life. Or your children's life. It doesn't have to be.

Ladyj84 · 08/09/2023 23:28

You wouldn't get me not following thru calling the police my 4 children mean everything to me regardless of whether it's a family member or not I have to call in. You do realise if you had fallen the wrong way or he had punched a certain place on your head you could be dead right now and the children no mum

BiscuitsandPuffin · 08/09/2023 23:29

Does your bathroom door have a lock on it? Can you lock yourself in the bathroom to ring them safely? Do you need to take the bin out right now so you can ring them? Do you have a tumble drier in a shed that needs turning off right now so you can call without him hearing?