To not go on another date because of his car..

[bluebellmountain]

Met a guy OLD, we have been on 4 dates, twice we've met in public, once I picked him up to go out to eat and once I have been to his house. He seemed a great guy, we hit it off pretty quickly, I feel comfortable around him, he seems genuine and kind. Own house, good job etc.

I was out after work this evening to say goodbye to a colleague moving on, so id got a lift to work and was planning on getting a taxi home. This guy text to ask how I was etc and turns out he was nearby and heading to the gym so offered to drop me home, I was excited to see him so agreed.

He arrives to pick me up and my heart sank, his car was fine, a mondeo, pretty standard car but it had been modified to make that stupid noise when you accelerate, you know the kind of boy racer unnecessarily loud car. I got in and said wow that's rather noisy and he gave me some explanation as to what had been done to the car, how much it cost etc.. and it's really really put me off him.

I'm 35, he's 38, surly we're far too old to be driving round in a car like that. I was actually embarrassed to be in the car with everyone looking at every bang it made.

Am I an awful person, should I look past this? He was being nice and doing me a favour and all I could think of was getting out of there! Would this put you off someone who, granted I don't know well, but seems to be pretty good in every other area.

Seems like such a silly thing to not see someone over, but if its given you the ick then there's not much you can do.

Honestly my cousins boyfriend turned up at my nans funeral in a car that did the same obviously younger but still it mortified me! I wouldn’t want to be with someone or get in their car ever if it did that. So I understand you totally! It’s unacceptable anyway but at 38 it is ridiculous.

It is tragic.

However, give it a bit and see if it becomes and endearing quirk which you can wean him off.

Not too long mind you.

I'd be put off big time.

Sounds trivial but I'd be so put off, too! Yuck.

Oh god - no way 😄

My big issue is that these people spend a lot on their car and modifying a car rather than saving for house, retirement, savings etc.. would put me right off.

That'd be a no from me 🤭

Lol, 2 types of tweaking, you can get a whistling purr or a pop when accelerate - boy racers, usually in 2o's, tuning up cheaper cars. Yea, he's a bit old for it, and it's embarrassingly sad, not end of world stuff but would put me off

I'm getting Uncle Buck vibes ...

Oh no.. that would give me the ick too.. i could look past it if he's a great guy in every other way

Don't think I could have resisted a parting comment of "thanks for the lift, hope you get your exhaust fixed soon"

Obviously modding is his hobby thing. Each to their own and all that but I'd have been embarrassed too.

That would massively give me the ick. But if I liked him, I would just offer to drive so I didn't need to be seen in it 🤣

Bit daft but if he's otherwise a good catch it seems like a pretty trivial thing to bin him for.

Nope. I’d be out of there. Mainly because I think it says something about a person that they have to attract attention from strangers by getting a shit car and modifying it to be louder so everyone has to look at them as they go past… and do what exactly? Be impressed??. It’s a fucking mondeo for gods sake. At least start with something decent, if you must go down that particularly depressing rabbit hole. Urgh, just no.

Thought u were going to say it wasn't flash enough🙄. The boy racer effect would put me off too.

It would make me walk away

Absolutely, shit cars are fine. Boy racer modifications on a shit car belonging to a thirty-something man, just no.

If you like him, don't worry about it. I'm sure you've got hobbies and interests that other people would find boring or embarrassing.

What, like running around screaming in front of other people’s houses when they’re trying work or sleep? Cracking.

Oh dear 😱

Had he borrowed it from his 18 year old brother because his 911 was in the garage 😂

I would never go out with him again. End of discussion. A man his age driving around in something so daft, that causes horrible noise pollution, and he actually spent money on that nonsense? Nope. That alone would show me a significant chunk of our values aren't aligned at all.

Think you're being really shallow and mean seeing as he was doing you a favour. Yabu

My husband 38m just traded in his very sensible Audi estate and got a Subaru WRX. It's actually ridiculous and very noisy but it makes him so happy. He and our teenage son love working on it and he's started enjoying his comute to work again. Personally it's not for me but it's definitely not a deal breaker 😂

I don't think it would be a deal-breaker. I feel like it would be one of those things that would fade out if he had an actual girlfriend. I'm basing that on a few friends' experience - one friend even faked an interest in vintage cars and the other still tolerates a clapped out 1980s Merc that her husband is "restoring". In both cases the guys still have a theoretical interest in cars but don't give it much time now they have a wife and children and a house and garden to maintain.

All that to say I wouldn't dump him just for that. Although I did once break up with a very nice guy for using the expression "I wouldn't thank you for (X)" to say he didn't like something, so who am I to talk.