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To not go on another date because of his car..

283 replies

bluebellmountain · 01/09/2023 20:46

Met a guy OLD, we have been on 4 dates, twice we've met in public, once I picked him up to go out to eat and once I have been to his house. He seemed a great guy, we hit it off pretty quickly, I feel comfortable around him, he seems genuine and kind. Own house, good job etc.

I was out after work this evening to say goodbye to a colleague moving on, so id got a lift to work and was planning on getting a taxi home. This guy text to ask how I was etc and turns out he was nearby and heading to the gym so offered to drop me home, I was excited to see him so agreed.

He arrives to pick me up and my heart sank, his car was fine, a mondeo, pretty standard car but it had been modified to make that stupid noise when you accelerate, you know the kind of boy racer unnecessarily loud car. I got in and said wow that's rather noisy and he gave me some explanation as to what had been done to the car, how much it cost etc.. and it's really really put me off him.

I'm 35, he's 38, surly we're far too old to be driving round in a car like that. I was actually embarrassed to be in the car with everyone looking at every bang it made.

Am I an awful person, should I look past this? He was being nice and doing me a favour and all I could think of was getting out of there! Would this put you off someone who, granted I don't know well, but seems to be pretty good in every other area.

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PyongyangKipperbang · 02/09/2023 01:35

Oh and single joy is truly joyous!

PyongyangKipperbang · 02/09/2023 01:37

RealisticGuy · 02/09/2023 00:54

As a car enthusiast I feel the need to defend this guy. Particularly when, with the greatest of respect, none of you know what you are actually talking about.

His “Mondeo” could be a 2.5T variant and the exhaust is actually adding to its performance. It would be quite a rare car, one which an enthusiast would appreciate. I doubt he has done it for the sole purpose of grabbing peoples attention.

Im lucky that I own a vast array of cars from an EV for my day to day to Porsches, Ferraris, classic cars and a few other cars that many of you would probably see it as an attention seeking car.

Everyone of my cars I have worked my ass off for. I don’t own them because of what other people think, I own them because they bring me joy. I have met life long friends through, they have been great investments usually too. I enjoy modifying and tinkering with them and they look great to me and that’s all that matters.

They are actually one of the great motivators I had in life to do well, so I could afford to own them and some of the cars I own now are cars I lusted after as a teenager, dreaming that one day I could get my hands on one.

I earn triple figures a year, happily married, self made and very much ambitious. It’s a hobby that only adults can participate in and afford. I can assure you I am a perfectly normal (or as normal as anyone can be, the definition of that may vary from person to person).

My wife isn’t a fan of them all, a few I know she is a little embarrassed of, but she is happy that it brings me so much joy.

So maybe give this guy a chance, rather than deciding his motivations for doing so, maybe take a little interest in what he is passionate about and you might understand it a little better.

A loud car is no more inconsiderate than those cycling clubs blocking up the roads or horses doing the same. A minor inconvenience that’s no big deal really.

Bless.

MrsMous · 02/09/2023 01:38

I once stopped dating a guy because I hated his shoes… I mean they were hideous!
what ever gives you the ick has gotta go!

Toomanylaughs · 02/09/2023 01:48

RealisticGuy · 02/09/2023 00:54

As a car enthusiast I feel the need to defend this guy. Particularly when, with the greatest of respect, none of you know what you are actually talking about.

His “Mondeo” could be a 2.5T variant and the exhaust is actually adding to its performance. It would be quite a rare car, one which an enthusiast would appreciate. I doubt he has done it for the sole purpose of grabbing peoples attention.

Im lucky that I own a vast array of cars from an EV for my day to day to Porsches, Ferraris, classic cars and a few other cars that many of you would probably see it as an attention seeking car.

Everyone of my cars I have worked my ass off for. I don’t own them because of what other people think, I own them because they bring me joy. I have met life long friends through, they have been great investments usually too. I enjoy modifying and tinkering with them and they look great to me and that’s all that matters.

They are actually one of the great motivators I had in life to do well, so I could afford to own them and some of the cars I own now are cars I lusted after as a teenager, dreaming that one day I could get my hands on one.

I earn triple figures a year, happily married, self made and very much ambitious. It’s a hobby that only adults can participate in and afford. I can assure you I am a perfectly normal (or as normal as anyone can be, the definition of that may vary from person to person).

My wife isn’t a fan of them all, a few I know she is a little embarrassed of, but she is happy that it brings me so much joy.

So maybe give this guy a chance, rather than deciding his motivations for doing so, maybe take a little interest in what he is passionate about and you might understand it a little better.

A loud car is no more inconsiderate than those cycling clubs blocking up the roads or horses doing the same. A minor inconvenience that’s no big deal really.

😂😂😂😂😂 are you for real ?

CinnamonCoffee · 02/09/2023 02:01

I guess you can only know about cars if you are either a man, self made or earn triple figures! Ffs what do women know eh!!!

Ladyj84 · 02/09/2023 02:09

So if someone has a hobby or something they love but that I'm not into then I shouldn't like them???? So surely that goes for all of us not all our other halfs are Gona like or enjoy our hobbies

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Champgal · 02/09/2023 02:18

Fuck me that’s horrific. I would get a pair of those giant eyelashes and put them on your car and go pick him up, see how he feels.

TheYadaYada · 02/09/2023 02:23

Ew no. What a twat.

givemeasunnyday · 02/09/2023 02:33

You should hear the sound my ex-neighbour's car makes when he accelerates - the whole street could hear him. He's around 50 and an accountant. He also owns seven or more cars.

If you would give up so quickly on a nice guy because of this one small issue then he is probably better off with someone else.

givemeasunnyday · 02/09/2023 02:40

PinkB87 · 01/09/2023 22:31

I'm 36, I drive a pink and white modified Audi. I'm a professional mum of 2. I can do both of those things... to be "boy racers" are the type you see around McDonald's who are in their teens/20s and piss about. People like me are car enthusiasts. We just love cars.

It seems car enthusiasts are a foreign breed to the average MNetter. I don't even drive, but a man with a car like that most certainly would not be a turn-off. There are lots of car enthusiasts where I live, men and women, so I find it a bit odd that the majority on this thread seem to be so horrified by it.

Deathbyfluffy · 02/09/2023 02:47

Ibetthatyoulookgoodon · 01/09/2023 21:01

Nope. I’d be out of there. Mainly because I think it says something about a person that they have to attract attention from strangers by getting a shit car and modifying it to be louder so everyone has to look at them as they go past… and do what exactly? Be impressed??. It’s a fucking mondeo for gods sake. At least start with something decent, if you must go down that particularly depressing rabbit hole. Urgh, just no.

There’s a difference between not liking modifying cars, and shaming people for their choice of car.
Unless you have a Lambo you own outright (no, a Range Rover doesn’t count, especially if the bank own it) you’re best keeping those opinions to yourself. 😶

HelpMeGetThrough · 02/09/2023 04:02

My husband 38m just traded in his very sensible Audi estate and got a Subaru WRX. It's actually ridiculous and very noisy but it makes him so happy.

That's a tad different to a Mondeo with a fart can fitted to it.

HelpMeGetThrough · 02/09/2023 04:04

Burnoutqueen · 01/09/2023 21:19

When I see/ hear cars like that I always imagine the driver has the IQ of a toilet brush and is the sort of chap responsible for spreading chlamydia through year 10. Was he also wearing a tracksuit and smelt of lynx Africa and cannabis resin?

🤣🤣🤣

Pizzapie22 · 02/09/2023 04:15

I haven’t seen a Mondeo in years let alone a pimped up one. Sounds hilarious. Yanbu.

madeleine85 · 02/09/2023 04:33

I always think men with cars that loud are compensating for a small/micro peen. Feel free to date him more and report back if you’d like. I could use confirmation of this theory 😂😂😂.

PineConeOrDogPoo · 02/09/2023 05:25

This thread is making me laugh out loud. Thanks ladies 😂

Forgottenmypasswordagain · 02/09/2023 05:56

Yanbu.

Yettisrus29 · 02/09/2023 06:15

MrsMous · 02/09/2023 01:38

I once stopped dating a guy because I hated his shoes… I mean they were hideous!
what ever gives you the ick has gotta go!

Shoes are important though. You can tell a lot from the shoes a man wears. I've also dismissed men for the shoes they wear.

HelpMeGetThrough · 02/09/2023 06:42

Shoes are important though. You can tell a lot from the shoes a man wears. I've also dismissed men for the shoes they wear.

You can?

Now I'm worried 😟

Velvian · 02/09/2023 07:33

@RealisticGuy No.😂
"I've worked very hard" is another red flag.⛳

liveforsummer · 02/09/2023 07:36

Yep that would be a nope from me too. Things like that trigger the ick for me and I'd not look at him in the same light again

SandcastleQueen · 02/09/2023 07:53

Yettisrus29 · 02/09/2023 06:15

Shoes are important though. You can tell a lot from the shoes a man wears. I've also dismissed men for the shoes they wear.

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In a car/shoe crossover, the closest I've ever come to death was when a guy doing 120 in a white Golf on the M6 clipped the car in front of me, which then span out, bouncing off the barriers, shedding metal as it went, until we all came to a half with 3 lanes of traffic behind us.

It was an absolute miracle nobody was killed.

I sat matey boy on the barrier to check him over while waiting for the ambulance for the poor men in the other car, he lit up a fag and started blethering about how had I seen how they'd swerved into him, all their fault, blah blah, at which point I noticed his Blue. Velvet. Snake print. Loafers.

MiraculousLadybird · 02/09/2023 07:59

Being into cars = fine
Being an obnoxious, loud, anti-social wanker because of the mods on your piece of junk = not fine

BitOutOfPractice · 02/09/2023 07:59

I wonder if the guys that drive these cars realise what am massive turn off they are for women? Or it it other men they are trying to impress? I never know. I hate them too.

I also agree that shoes are really vital in terms of character assessment. Vital.