Ever had a TRULY platonic male friendship?

[Lockthedoors9]

On here you see those threads where someone’s other half is shadily texting a woman and whilst most say it’s suspect there’s always a couple of people saying “men can have female friends” and I always do wonder - how?

Now I know of course it must happen but I have never had a male friendship where later it transpired he was trying to turn it into more.

The exception is friendships with gay men or when I was younger, men who later came out.

I’m married now and based on my experiences I’d never have a close friendship with a straight man because of the inevitable drama it would bring.

I know this is rather crap tbh.

Have you experienced similar to me?

I’d also love to hear your positive stories, perhaps I’ve been unlucky or give off some sort of vibe 😂

Yeah, both DH and I have genuinely platonic friendships with opposite sex.

I think there are some people who can have platonic friendships and there are some people who just can't, and that's just how it is. The only thing that annoys me is when people in the latter camp assume that everyone who says otherwise must be lying. I have had people literally tell me they don't believe me and male friend have never been/will never be an item or that one of us must fancy the other when I know it's totally not the case.

Yes, it is possible for a man and woman to be 'just friends' but it's not equally possible for everyone. And it's not a failing not to be able to do it, it's just I suppose some people cannot help but have attraction/sex get in the way and other people genuinely don't have those feelings just because someone close to them is the opposite sex.

I think this question needs to be asked of and answered by men only.

As women, were capable of seeing others as people and not just potential sex partners so of course every woman you ask I'd going to say of course, from their perspective it's true

One of my very best friends was a guy a met at Uni. I was bridesmaid when he got married, and godmother to his 2 sons. He is my son's godfather. My DH loved him too. Sadly he passed away about 10 years ago. I'm still very close to his wife and sons, and I will be at her wedding next month, as she has met someone new and is getting married. I really loved him, but purely in a platonic way.

This is like me and my best friend. Someone thought he was my boyfriend, I was horrified (my face was a picture!). He's like a brother to me.

Yes I have a number of platonic male friends. In most cases have known them for about 30 years & there has never been the remotest suggestion of anything happening - despite in some cases sleeping in the same room at times etc. I have been very happily married for many years and we trust each other 100%

Yes, lots of platonic male friends, especially in my younger days. It is totally possible.

Yes, one of my closest friends is someone I have known since I was a few months old. He’s like a brother. Another friend I met through work. We had a similar sense of humour and a lot in common. I introduced him to DH and he now sometimes goes out with DH for a drink as well.

Yes, 2 of my nearest and dearest friends are men and have always respected out platonic boundaries whilst being open and honest. But they're both gay, so I feel very certain we'll stay platonic.

No male friendships of mine stay platonic for the man. Even married male friends always ruin it with comments, hints, or actions. I don't allow flirting, I don't lead them on or hint anything myself, it just always happens.

I've got lots of female friends. Some were more than just friends but that's in the past. They are just mates now.

Yes I've always had male friends. I have brothers and have always just got on with men. I really enjoy male company, mostly the humour and the fact most men aren't too complicated!
Only one male friend told me he had feelings for me. I'm absolutely certain the others don't. I'm reasonably nice looking but I don't think I'm particularly sexy or alluring and I just don't think my male mates see me in that way. I can imagine that if I looked like Scarlett Johansen, then more men would fall in love with me.

I had male friends in uni, and still have male colleagues I am close to but have absolutely zero interest in (and I’m 99% sure they have no interest in me either).

DH has had two platonic female friends - I’m absolutely sure he has no interest in them (both very different to me, much more like female versions of him). They have had husbands/partners, so again don’t think they are interested in him either.

Yes we've been friends 20 years, both straight

My two oldest and best friends are men - unrelated. Never had such enduring friendships with women .

I thought I did, until his new girlfriend banned him from seeing me.

One of my best friends is a man and the mere thought that it might be anything more than that is gross, he’s like my brother!

I had a really close male friend through uni and my 20s, we were both in other relationships during that time and there was never so much as a hint of anything else. We went on holiday together multiple times and shared a room! It’s totally possible.

Almost all my male friendships have had some sort of tension where one person would like it to be more but it isn't.

However, I do have one relationship where we are too similar so it would just never happen, we don't fancy each other but we get on great, and we've been friends 25 years now and nothing has ever happened or come close to happening.

There are a couple of other friends i have that are similar. I feel like me being a big fat dynamo has helped that though - if i were slim i think that would have been different, and that's quite sad really.

My best and longest friend is a man but he’s also gay so it’s obviously always been platonic, we have known one another since we were 3 and became best friends at 10.

I work in a male dominated environment and I’m platonic with all of them. There’s only sexual tension with one but we’re both married so don’t go there, obviously. We all largely get on and I’m close to one more than the others who isn’t gay but is a lot older than me so I guess that plays a part in keeping it platonic.

Yes I have a few. And I've had many with gay men.