Dating in your fifties... why bother?

[Ellena646]

If I am brutally honest my experience of dating in my fifties has been: negging, below average sex, lazy WhatsApping (I mean who can't pick up the phone and say good morning) and what I am pretty certain is gaslighting infidelity cloaked as "it's just how the world of dating is now"... a bunch of greedy little boys with their hand stuck in the cookie jar that is OLD. Is it really worth the effort?

Maybe your idea of whinging and mine are two different things but it's fair to say that getting an idea of how someone copes when things are tough and how they communicate that, is a good indicator of how they'll be in the future.

Equally, having a partner who's not interested in their life right at the beginning is a good indicator of how they're going to be in the future.

@SamW98 I have a male friend who had the same experience, the woman used her daughter's pictures. He felt sorry for her so continued the date. I can't imagine it's a ploy that would last more than one date !

Wow, that is so utterly pointless. Did she then go on a date with a man roughly her daughter"s age? Cringe.

Yes. My mate is was about 52 and this woman said she was 54.

What a waste of everyone’s time.

Another friend got train into London for a date and was waiting outside the pub and a completely random woman come up and said ‘hi are you (his name)?’ She was using someone else’s photos and her excuse was she didn’t think he’d come if she knew what she really looked like.

He got got next train back home!!

I had a date thank me for looking like my photo. Ironically, his were 10 years old... (That was the least of his problems, to be honest.)

I don't see the point of lying like that. I've had dates who've failed to mention little things like the fact they're married still, which I understand lying about (they can still fuck off once it's known, though,) but using photos which don't look like you, or lying about your age, what's the point? Maybe a year or two, but a decade or more?

mm - thinking.
male (as I think I indicated upthread) - once met some woman "met online" - she rolled up, as soon as she did in the pub I knew it was "her" as her body language indicated that she was expecting to meet someone unknown (me) tho she had had pics of me - but she didn't look like her pics. She kinda blew things when pretty much the first thing she said in a studied casual way was "do I look like my pics"?. Not wanting to cause issues I said yes but didn't think so at all. I kinda thought she had maybe sent pics of a sister, maybe better looking/younger, but after reading stuff upthread maybe it was a daughter.
There are some strange strange women out there :)
and I maybe better not get into the hook-up tale.