Age on OLD profiles...

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I have my age listed as 47 on my OLD profile and I am actually 54. In the messaging stage at say message number 2, I explain what my real age is. I also only consider men in the 50 -62 age group.
I have literally never had anyone think I am as old as my age, all my pictures are recent.
Most of the men I tell this to are surprised but nice about it.
I explain that it's because some men use age 50 as a cut off on the age selection profile, maybe I am wrong.
A guy messaged me today, and I told him my real age he was really annoyed and felt there was a big gap between my real age and my profile age, I don't think there is, and also he is 52....so we are two years apart, but he thought because of my age I might not keep up with him sexually...well he's wrong on that assumption - I have blocked him anyway. To what extent do you think men are bothered by age on dating apps and want to date youunger in their late 40s, 50s, 60s...

I consider it a red flag, I've always put my real age (and I also think I look younger BUT most people especially women think that). Just put down your real age and you'll find genuine men. I used to unmatch immediately if someone confessed to lying on their dating profile

Lying is a deal breaker, just embrace your real age, some men like older ladies and don't always go for stereotypical younger women.

I'm 47 but wouldn't lie about my age. I automatically discount men who do. It's usually obvious from the off (their pic shows they are older than they say they are), or I unmatch when I've found out they lied.
I'd only date upto 55.
However what I think is not that relevant as I've given up on OLD. Too many chancers and liers, and men wanting women 15 years younger.

I wouldn’t be impressed to find someone lied - on message 2, it’s not a great start is it? If someone has a 50 cut off then they aren’t the right person for you either way. Just be honest

Thank you. I am going to change my profile right now.

My STBXH did this to me. Said he was 45 when he was in fact 50 and like a fool I carried on seeing him. He lied about other shit too and it cast a big shadow on our relationship. Just be honest.

They are surprised that you lied, that's all.

Honestly, nobody will ever tell you that you look your age. It's general politeness.
When anyone asks me to guess their age, I always lob a good 5-10 years off.. and express faux shock when they tell me the age I secretly predicted 😎

If a bloke did this to me, I would write him off immediately. What else would he lie about down the line?

Yes and no, some people just don't look their age. I have friends who look their age and others older and others 10 years younger.

I wouldn't write some one off for lying about their age, I can understand why. I think there's a lot of prejudice and assumptions made about women in their 50s and those are dispelled when men actually meet women in their 50s. I have never lied about my age in real life but on OLD I do think it's a filter. Anyway I have corrected this now so we shall see...I couldn't adjust the age setting so I have said it in my actual profile.

I tell them my real age at message 2 which is beyond the "Hi " stage.. so if they don't want to go further it's up to them. No one except this guy today was annoyed and that's because he thought the gap between 47 and 54 was to much even though he is 52...

Talk about getting off on the wrong foot

The first thing potential matches will learn about you is that you're a lier

Brilliant foundation to start a new relationship on

If you are looking for something long term, maybe better to be truthful, but if you're more casual in intention then it makes sense to lie

Glad you've changed it.

Apart from anything else, you don't want someone who believes women of 54 'can't keep up with him' in bed - you wasted time even exchanging 2 messages with the prat!

I certainly didn't bother with men who lied up front. It just made me feel tired.

I hate to say it but everyone thinks they look younger than their age whereas the vast majority look the age they are give or take a few years. Knocking off seven years is quite a lot so I can see why this would annoy some people. Would you even want to date men who rule out women over 50 anyway?!

100% this, would block/ delete a woman who rolls 7 years of their age

And some people do look younger than their age, I have friends who look much younger and some good for their age...
I don't think there's much in it between 47 and 54, both past the age to have children, which I do think is significant.
Honestly even really nice guys aren't interested in women over 50 on paper...or on screen, I know lots of male friends who see it as a thing to date a younger woman.

As I said I confess my real age very quickly. And ironically only one guy in god knows how many matches has objected and that's because he thinks I won't be up to it sexually..so in fact the men on these OLD sites seem to be more forgiving than MN.

It's annoyed one guy in say 50 or so matches and that's because he thinks a 54 year old woman won't meet his sexual demands as a 52 year old man...good grief.

What's interesting is that they only know because I have told them. So what about all the men who lie about being divorced/separated their jobs...do you believe everything in a profile ?

I look younger and get matched with younger but I’d never do this. If anyone tells me they’ve lied about their age - even if the correction is on the profile text - I block them.

Hate liars and always say so up front. Unfortunately as they are what they are, no-one ever replies “oh we wouldn’t be suited then, I’ll get my coat”.

Yep it would be a deal breaker for me. Lies is my biggest red flag - so if the profile isn’t truthful, I’m out.

I dated someone whose admitted her age was 2 years different... That didn't really
bother me. 7 years would have though.

Everybody thinks they look younger than they are! I think all of us in our early 50s have this view of what our grandmothers looked like at this age, and because we’re slim and fit and have flippy shoulder length hair rather than a granny perm, think we’re drinking at the fountain of youth. Well I do anyway 😀

One bloke told me first message that he’d lied about his age for the same reasons you did OP, and I just thought it made him look a bit try hard. Put me off instantly.

I think I take most of what people write in OLD profiles with a pinch of salt....

You putting your real age will filter all the weirdos who want younger women.