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Age on OLD profiles...

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Livelifelaughter · 25/07/2023 18:02

I have my age listed as 47 on my OLD profile and I am actually 54. In the messaging stage at say message number 2, I explain what my real age is. I also only consider men in the 50 -62 age group.
I have literally never had anyone think I am as old as my age, all my pictures are recent.
Most of the men I tell this to are surprised but nice about it.
I explain that it's because some men use age 50 as a cut off on the age selection profile, maybe I am wrong.
A guy messaged me today, and I told him my real age he was really annoyed and felt there was a big gap between my real age and my profile age, I don't think there is, and also he is 52....so we are two years apart, but he thought because of my age I might not keep up with him sexually...well he's wrong on that assumption - I have blocked him anyway. To what extent do you think men are bothered by age on dating apps and want to date youunger in their late 40s, 50s, 60s...

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fatherfintanstack · 31/07/2023 22:42

Maybe a compromise would be to list an age under 50 but explain the truth on your profile?

So maybe along the lines of 'please note that I'm actually 54 not 47. Not looking to deceive anyone, rather it seems that a lot of folk around my age keep 50 as an upper limit. Absolutely fine if that's what you're looking for but if not then drop me a message!'.

That way you're widening exposure but not putting off anyone by not being honest. You seem determined to prove you're in the right but there are a lot of voices on here saying they would be put off so could be worth giving some thought. Hopefully the guy you've met is a good prospect and keen but plenty of men will say what you want to hear.

Tangerinedreams3 · 31/07/2023 22:53

@fatherfintanstack I think that's a really good approach actually.

Tapasgoofy · 31/07/2023 22:59

OP went from 47 on old, to 54 on MN and then turned 55 by the end of the thread.

I don’t think she even knows her own age.

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Livelifelaughter · 01/08/2023 08:18

Tapasgoofy · 31/07/2023 22:59

OP went from 47 on old, to 54 on MN and then turned 55 by the end of the thread.

I don’t think she even knows her own age.

My birthday was on 26 July!

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Livelifelaughter · 01/08/2023 08:20

fatherfintanstack · 31/07/2023 22:42

Maybe a compromise would be to list an age under 50 but explain the truth on your profile?

So maybe along the lines of 'please note that I'm actually 54 not 47. Not looking to deceive anyone, rather it seems that a lot of folk around my age keep 50 as an upper limit. Absolutely fine if that's what you're looking for but if not then drop me a message!'.

That way you're widening exposure but not putting off anyone by not being honest. You seem determined to prove you're in the right but there are a lot of voices on here saying they would be put off so could be worth giving some thought. Hopefully the guy you've met is a good prospect and keen but plenty of men will say what you want to hear.

Hi , that's what I did, at the start of the thread my profile didn't explain my real age but then I changed it shortly afterwards in lines similar to the above. Previously I would tell them my true age before we met....still managed to get pasted on this site....!

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Maninwhite · 02/08/2023 07:17

I remember when it was rude to ask someone’s age.

internet dating is so un-romantic. There is no wonder it doesn’t hardly work as the sparks cannot fly as you know everything before you meet, there isn’t a chance for intrigue or heart flutter moments when you realise together that you’re quite similar. All that is done by text and it’s just so boring.

we used to meet in a bar, not speak for a few days, then have a drink a few days later and there would be no texting, maybe a phone call. But everything is dissected to death before you even get chance to get some rapport. Now we all sweat the little things that really don’t mean a damn.

your age is your business. Tell them when you are ready. On tinder you can hide it.

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Livelifelaughter · 02/08/2023 08:32

Maninwhite · 02/08/2023 07:17

I remember when it was rude to ask someone’s age.

internet dating is so un-romantic. There is no wonder it doesn’t hardly work as the sparks cannot fly as you know everything before you meet, there isn’t a chance for intrigue or heart flutter moments when you realise together that you’re quite similar. All that is done by text and it’s just so boring.

we used to meet in a bar, not speak for a few days, then have a drink a few days later and there would be no texting, maybe a phone call. But everything is dissected to death before you even get chance to get some rapport. Now we all sweat the little things that really don’t mean a damn.

your age is your business. Tell them when you are ready. On tinder you can hide it.

Thank you...I may use Tinder ! There was a time very recently when ethnicity was on a profile, that's hard to believe now but it just seemed the norm at the time

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