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Age on OLD profiles...

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Livelifelaughter · 25/07/2023 18:02

I have my age listed as 47 on my OLD profile and I am actually 54. In the messaging stage at say message number 2, I explain what my real age is. I also only consider men in the 50 -62 age group.
I have literally never had anyone think I am as old as my age, all my pictures are recent.
Most of the men I tell this to are surprised but nice about it.
I explain that it's because some men use age 50 as a cut off on the age selection profile, maybe I am wrong.
A guy messaged me today, and I told him my real age he was really annoyed and felt there was a big gap between my real age and my profile age, I don't think there is, and also he is 52....so we are two years apart, but he thought because of my age I might not keep up with him sexually...well he's wrong on that assumption - I have blocked him anyway. To what extent do you think men are bothered by age on dating apps and want to date youunger in their late 40s, 50s, 60s...

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heartbroken40 · 28/07/2023 11:56

I met the most AMAZING men while OLD because my profile was entirely truthful and in the first chat if they confessed to any lie or anything I found unsuitable I would unmatch.

OP wouldn't have made the cut (I'm a woman). I seriously found it a breeze and now I've been with my partner for a while and we love each other very deeply. He said I was the most genuine woman he chatted to and that was what attracted him to me.

Lying will attract liars and less interesting men in my view. But you do you, just don't complain if the men you find are not the high quality ones you would prefer. Good luck

Frogmila · 28/07/2023 12:21

I understand why people do it if they're just above a round number but I never used to entertain this. It doesn't show a great relationship with the truth which may not apply elsewhere but on OLD I was simply not that interested in spending time finding out. Just be honest.

It's probably not really about looks at your age tbh. Theres quite a big gap between 47 and 54. You're not just over 50 and ducking beneath the barrier as it were. If you hit it off long term with someone looking for a 47-ish year old then you'll potentially be experiencing retirement, health issues etc a lot sooner than them which puts you at different life stages. That may not be what they're looking for at all and even if they give it a go you've got off on the wrong footing.

To be blunt it clearly isn't working that well so try honesty. I saw a lot of men with a false age and some nonsense on their profile about 'I entered 45 by mistake but I'm 52'. Bollocks. Upfront is much better. If people's cutoff is 50 then that means they're looking for someone 50 and under for good or bad. That's their business so leave them to it. Maybe real life dating where people don't necessarily have such barriers?

And the man you matched with was entitled not to be delighted that you'd lied. He didn't owe you soft soaping if I'm honest. As I say, he is entitled to his boundaries.

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Livelifelaughter · 28/07/2023 12:27

heartbroken40 · 28/07/2023 11:56

I met the most AMAZING men while OLD because my profile was entirely truthful and in the first chat if they confessed to any lie or anything I found unsuitable I would unmatch.

OP wouldn't have made the cut (I'm a woman). I seriously found it a breeze and now I've been with my partner for a while and we love each other very deeply. He said I was the most genuine woman he chatted to and that was what attracted him to me.

Lying will attract liars and less interesting men in my view. But you do you, just don't complain if the men you find are not the high quality ones you would prefer. Good luck

Honestly that's literally the most positive experience I have ever heard. Certainly it couldn't be said for real life dating ! But it's nice to hear a success story.

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Livelifelaughter · 28/07/2023 12:37

Frogmila · 28/07/2023 12:21

I understand why people do it if they're just above a round number but I never used to entertain this. It doesn't show a great relationship with the truth which may not apply elsewhere but on OLD I was simply not that interested in spending time finding out. Just be honest.

It's probably not really about looks at your age tbh. Theres quite a big gap between 47 and 54. You're not just over 50 and ducking beneath the barrier as it were. If you hit it off long term with someone looking for a 47-ish year old then you'll potentially be experiencing retirement, health issues etc a lot sooner than them which puts you at different life stages. That may not be what they're looking for at all and even if they give it a go you've got off on the wrong footing.

To be blunt it clearly isn't working that well so try honesty. I saw a lot of men with a false age and some nonsense on their profile about 'I entered 45 by mistake but I'm 52'. Bollocks. Upfront is much better. If people's cutoff is 50 then that means they're looking for someone 50 and under for good or bad. That's their business so leave them to it. Maybe real life dating where people don't necessarily have such barriers?

And the man you matched with was entitled not to be delighted that you'd lied. He didn't owe you soft soaping if I'm honest. As I say, he is entitled to his boundaries.

Just to clarify the men that I am looking for are around my age or older. So the one person who took umbridge was 53.

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prairiedog1 · 28/07/2023 12:47

Never lie on a dating profile. It's a terrible starting point for a relationship and it means anyone with integrity will think of you as deceitful.

Lonelylonelylonely · 28/07/2023 12:52

Anyone else calling BS on this one?

You started off as 54 and the man was 52, now you're 55 and the man was 53. Have you both had birthdays since the start of this thread?

Either way, you're in your mid 50s and the guy wanted to meet a woman younger than that. His call to make.

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Livelifelaughter · 28/07/2023 12:56

Lonelylonelylonely · 28/07/2023 12:52

Anyone else calling BS on this one?

You started off as 54 and the man was 52, now you're 55 and the man was 53. Have you both had birthdays since the start of this thread?

Either way, you're in your mid 50s and the guy wanted to meet a woman younger than that. His call to make.

Guess what? I have had a birthday...26 July, sorry I added a year to him as well but that was actually a mistake rather because I had gone up a year !

But well done on your research.

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Livelifelaughter · 28/07/2023 12:59

I am so interested to see how so many women are supporting men after a younger woman.

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hattire · 28/07/2023 13:19

Lonelylonelylonely · 28/07/2023 12:52

Anyone else calling BS on this one?

You started off as 54 and the man was 52, now you're 55 and the man was 53. Have you both had birthdays since the start of this thread?

Either way, you're in your mid 50s and the guy wanted to meet a woman younger than that. His call to make.

It's still a two year gap, so I don't see what the problem is.

Lonelylonelylonely · 28/07/2023 13:29

hattire · 28/07/2023 13:19

It's still a two year gap, so I don't see what the problem is.

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My point being that the only thing we know about the OP is that her relationship with the truth is tenuous and her story is not consistent. I don't think this is a genuine question, I think it's someone looking to provoke reactions from posters.

parker06 · 28/07/2023 13:59

No the majority are objecting not because of the age gap but because you're a liar

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Livelifelaughter · 28/07/2023 14:18

I am finding the backlash on this post incredible, the aggressive tone, the trying to catch me out "have you had a birthday" - yes..."would you date someone at 69 when you're 62" - er how do I know I am not that age. I hope all of you who have called me a liar can look at yourselves and ask whether you have ever told a lie. Parker are you male ?
And can we put this in context, I haven't lied about parties during COVID or nuclear weapons in Iraq...or had an affair to bring it to a MN level, I had put a false age on my dating profile, I haven't actually been on a single date IRL or OLD where the person meeting me hasn't met me. But fair enough, time to beat myself up and reflect on what an awful person I must be...must dash need to steal some sweets from children!

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hattire · 28/07/2023 14:24

My point being that the only thing we know about the OP is that her relationship with the truth is tenuous and her story is not consistent. I don't think this is a genuine question, I think it's someone looking to provoke reactions from posters.

OP's knocked a few years off her age on a dating site (yes, lying), which she has admitted to us here and tells the people she chats or matches with.

Boring froth troll fodder in my opinion, and nobody is particularly wound up that I can see.

ChimChimeny · 28/07/2023 14:39

would you date someone at 69 when you're 62" - er how do I know I am not that age

That's not what they asked though, their point was how wouLd you feel.If you met someone who said he was 62 on his profile but was really 69

Not that I'm overly bothered, just wanted to clarify

Frogmila · 28/07/2023 14:43

Livelifelaughter · 28/07/2023 12:59

I am so interested to see how so many women are supporting men after a younger woman.

Why? They're entitled to their preferences. Doesn't mean they're entitled to find a younger woman but why don't you think people should be allowed to search for a partner on their own terms?

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Livelifelaughter · 28/07/2023 14:49

ChimChimeny · 28/07/2023 14:39

would you date someone at 69 when you're 62" - er how do I know I am not that age

That's not what they asked though, their point was how wouLd you feel.If you met someone who said he was 62 on his profile but was really 69

Not that I'm overly bothered, just wanted to clarify

I wouldn't mind, but I also said I don't know how I would feel if I was 62 ... it's no a great example. I am 55 and I have met men who are 62.

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Livelifelaughter · 28/07/2023 14:51

Frogmila · 28/07/2023 14:43

Why? They're entitled to their preferences. Doesn't mean they're entitled to find a younger woman but why don't you think people should be allowed to search for a partner on their own terms?

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That's not the view many MN take when their husband leaves them for a younger woman....

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PousseyNotMoira · 28/07/2023 14:55

Livelifelaughter · 28/07/2023 10:45

I wouldn't be bothered at 62 with a guy at 69, but I don't know for certain because I am not 62 so my answer is hypothetical as that is the best I can give. But l am 55 meeting up with men who are 62.

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That’s not what she’s asked, though. You, at 54, currently have your upper age limit set at 62. If you (today) matched with someone who claimed to be 62, but then confessed to being 69, would this bother you? Would you date him?

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Livelifelaughter · 28/07/2023 15:10

Ah, I read that entry again...so it's basically would I object to a 69 year old at my age of 55...62 (my upper bracket) plus 7 years ? If they looked as though they fitted in my bracket and I was attracted to them, then I would message them, if they then told me their real age by the second message and asked me for a coffee I would honestly go and see how I felt about them. I wouldn't block them and consider them an awful person.

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PousseyNotMoira · 28/07/2023 15:13

Livelifelaughter · 28/07/2023 15:10

Ah, I read that entry again...so it's basically would I object to a 69 year old at my age of 55...62 (my upper bracket) plus 7 years ? If they looked as though they fitted in my bracket and I was attracted to them, then I would message them, if they then told me their real age by the second message and asked me for a coffee I would honestly go and see how I felt about them. I wouldn't block them and consider them an awful person.

Then why isn’t your upper age limit 69?

thatsn0tmyname · 28/07/2023 15:17

A guy once admitted during date #3 that he'd lied on his profile and actually had a child. He thought it might be a turn off. It was, not the child but the deception.

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Livelifelaughter · 28/07/2023 15:44

thatsn0tmyname · 28/07/2023 15:17

A guy once admitted during date #3 that he'd lied on his profile and actually had a child. He thought it might be a turn off. It was, not the child but the deception.

That's date 3. Not message 2.

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Livelifelaughter · 28/07/2023 15:48

PousseyNotMoira · 28/07/2023 15:13

Then why isn’t your upper age limit 69?

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I have enough men contacting me without having to extend my range to 52 to 69.

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PousseyNotMoira · 28/07/2023 15:55

Livelifelaughter · 28/07/2023 15:48

I have enough men contacting me without having to extend my range to 52 to 69.

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That’s a rather disingenuous response, but okay. 🤣

What are you hoping to get from this thread?

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Livelifelaughter · 28/07/2023 16:29

PousseyNotMoira · 28/07/2023 15:55

That’s a rather disingenuous response, but okay. 🤣

What are you hoping to get from this thread?

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Really, how do you know?

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