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Age on OLD profiles...

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Livelifelaughter · 25/07/2023 18:02

I have my age listed as 47 on my OLD profile and I am actually 54. In the messaging stage at say message number 2, I explain what my real age is. I also only consider men in the 50 -62 age group.
I have literally never had anyone think I am as old as my age, all my pictures are recent.
Most of the men I tell this to are surprised but nice about it.
I explain that it's because some men use age 50 as a cut off on the age selection profile, maybe I am wrong.
A guy messaged me today, and I told him my real age he was really annoyed and felt there was a big gap between my real age and my profile age, I don't think there is, and also he is 52....so we are two years apart, but he thought because of my age I might not keep up with him sexually...well he's wrong on that assumption - I have blocked him anyway. To what extent do you think men are bothered by age on dating apps and want to date youunger in their late 40s, 50s, 60s...

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Livelifelaughter · 25/07/2023 19:27

QueefQueen80s · 25/07/2023 19:26

You putting your real age will filter all the weirdos who want younger women.

47 not 27 !

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SamW98 · 25/07/2023 19:28

Livelifelaughter · 25/07/2023 19:26

I think I take most of what people write in OLD profiles with a pinch of salt....

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That’s your call but I expect honesty. My profile is 💯 truthful - don’t understand the point of lying. You only get found out and that’s the end fir most people

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Livelifelaughter · 25/07/2023 19:29

TitInATrance · 25/07/2023 18:59

I look younger and get matched with younger but I’d never do this. If anyone tells me they’ve lied about their age - even if the correction is on the profile text - I block them.

Hate liars and always say so up front. Unfortunately as they are what they are, no-one ever replies “oh we wouldn’t be suited then, I’ll get my coat”.

According to everyone on here you don't look younger than your age, it's all in your head, everyone is being polite to you and everyone looks younger than they think !

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Livelifelaughter · 25/07/2023 19:30

Sorry, everyone looks older than they think they do !

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QueefQueen80s · 25/07/2023 19:30

Yes I know. I meant like the man who is 52 who has a cut off age younger than him!

Greengrassoh · 25/07/2023 19:31

I think I take most of what people write in OLD profiles with a pinch of salt

Thats funny, I don’t, I assume people are largely telling the truth, and I don’t think I’ve met anyone who comes across as telling big lies. But then I am always honest myself, I don’t get why you wouldn’t be.

HamBone · 25/07/2023 19:33

Honestly, I think putting your real age will filter out the weirdos as a PP said.

As for the 52-year-old suggesting that you wouldn’t keep up with him sexually…my immediate assumption is that he’s got some performance issues, what a twat. 😂

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Livelifelaughter · 25/07/2023 19:38

HamBone · 25/07/2023 19:33

Honestly, I think putting your real age will filter out the weirdos as a PP said.

As for the 52-year-old suggesting that you wouldn’t keep up with him sexually…my immediate assumption is that he’s got some performance issues, what a twat. 😂

I know... from someone two years younger. To be honest it's the first time I have had someone say something weird like that

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okiedokie1 · 25/07/2023 19:56

@Livelifelaughter I tell them my real age at message 2 which is beyond the "Hi " stage.. so if they don't want to go further it's up to them. No one except this guy today was annoyed and that's because he thought the gap between 47 and 54 was to much even though he is 52...
Well he's not wrong. Why didn't you say 49 if it was really the filter at 50 you were trying to avoid? If you really are trying to make sure you weren't filtered out at 50, there is no reason you had to shave even more years off. It makes you sound disingenuous at the very least.

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Livelifelaughter · 25/07/2023 20:00

okiedokie1 · 25/07/2023 19:56

@Livelifelaughter I tell them my real age at message 2 which is beyond the "Hi " stage.. so if they don't want to go further it's up to them. No one except this guy today was annoyed and that's because he thought the gap between 47 and 54 was to much even though he is 52...
Well he's not wrong. Why didn't you say 49 if it was really the filter at 50 you were trying to avoid? If you really are trying to make sure you weren't filtered out at 50, there is no reason you had to shave even more years off. It makes you sound disingenuous at the very least.

I wasn't doing it quite so technically to be honest...

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Livelifelaughter · 25/07/2023 20:02

The comments are fair enough but what is honestly interesting me is that none of the guys except for " Mr 52 sex fiend" were remotely bothered but most of the women on here are ?

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okiedokie1 · 25/07/2023 20:03

Livelifelaughter · 25/07/2023 20:02

The comments are fair enough but what is honestly interesting me is that none of the guys except for " Mr 52 sex fiend" were remotely bothered but most of the women on here are ?

So how did things progress with all the me. Who were not bothered?

okiedokie1 · 25/07/2023 20:03

Men*

hattire · 25/07/2023 20:04

I've never done online dating but I've lied about my age my whole life, even my children don't know how old I am.

If I have to say I knock off five years. I don't think that's pushing it too much.

I know it's tragic etc but I've always done it. I thought I would feel ready to stop at some point but it hasn't happened yet.

Userengage · 25/07/2023 20:07

I think all the other men who expressed acceptance of your age lie also had their own lies to tell.

hattire · 25/07/2023 20:08

Livelifelaughter · 25/07/2023 20:02

The comments are fair enough but what is honestly interesting me is that none of the guys except for " Mr 52 sex fiend" were remotely bothered but most of the women on here are ?

Lots of women I know aren't honest about their real age or don't want to divulge it at all.

Yes, it's technically, actually lying, and doesn't make it right, but it's very common.

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Livelifelaughter · 25/07/2023 20:12

okiedokie1 · 25/07/2023 20:03

Men*

Some I went out with on a few dates and some I didn't..
Thank you for asking.

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Livelifelaughter · 25/07/2023 20:13

Userengage · 25/07/2023 20:07

I think all the other men who expressed acceptance of your age lie also had their own lies to tell.

Maybe they did. I don't really know.

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Princessconsuelabananahammock9 · 25/07/2023 20:15

I met a man who lied about his age. In person it was obvious he was older. I was not impressed.

If a man only wants to date women younger than 50 that's their choice.
My cut off age was 50. That is my choice, not an incentive for someone to lie about their age.

GreenwichOrTwicks · 25/07/2023 20:18

I never tell anyone my age -completely irrelevant. But then I am not OLD. Maybe try to meet men in RL who don’t have a preconception about age -they just are/are not attracted to you as you are.

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Livelifelaughter · 25/07/2023 20:19

Princessconsuelabananahammock9 · 25/07/2023 20:15

I met a man who lied about his age. In person it was obvious he was older. I was not impressed.

If a man only wants to date women younger than 50 that's their choice.
My cut off age was 50. That is my choice, not an incentive for someone to lie about their age.

I met a guy who actually after seeing me on two dates said he never found Asian women attractive - obviously there's not a filter for that, but he did not believe it when I told him I was Asian. He wanted to see me again and messaged me months after - that's my point people have preconceived ideas that they will reject when they actually meet someone.

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MsJinks · 25/07/2023 20:21

I don’t lie about my age, but used to think I didn’t mind a couple of years fib as whatever and maybe they’re not so confident- my last relationship started with a small age confession I wouldn’t have guessed but let go, basically the rest of the relationship was filled with lies and now I think it indicates a lax regard for truth in general so discount immediately. Im not saying that is you, but it’s potentially an impression folk will get. Your pics and profile should still attract right people- I don’t look at age first and think probably a lot don’t.
Good luck with OLD though!

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Livelifelaughter · 25/07/2023 20:22

GreenwichOrTwicks · 25/07/2023 20:18

I never tell anyone my age -completely irrelevant. But then I am not OLD. Maybe try to meet men in RL who don’t have a preconception about age -they just are/are not attracted to you as you are.

I agree. The only proviso I think is if a person is looking for someone to have children with. Meeting people IRL is so hard these days but that's another story.

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Cupcakekiller · 25/07/2023 20:29

Very weird. If someone doesn't want you because of your age, that's their choice.

AMuser · 25/07/2023 20:33

Livelifelaughter · 25/07/2023 19:30

Sorry, everyone looks older than they think they do !

@Livelifelaughter it’s a tricky one. When I was OLD two years ago I had a fake first name (professional reasons) and took 3 years off my age.

I told anyone I went on a date with my real name iafter chatting in messages and my age on first proper date. None inc my current DP (who is nearly 3 years younger than me) cared - as I fessed up immediately. I think a v large proportion of women do lie about their age online because there is a significant cut off at certain points and women “devalue” as they age in a way men are perceived not to. I was totally open and truthful about everything else.

So I don’t blame you at all. Seven years is a bit of stretch though mate. Respect 😎

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