Found a phone in car

[durems]

Would you be suspicious if a phone pinged in the glove compartment of your DH's car and it turned out to belong to a woman you don't know?

Sorry op, I agree it doesn't look good. How are things generally between the two of you? I hope you feel comfortable later on to talk to him about it. What a shame, you must be so worried ☹️

(As an aside, I genuinely didn't know that you could swap the SIM and therefore get the number from that phone. I'd have thought that if I put my sim into another phone, that would then BE my phone, same number and everything 🤪. Quite plainly I'm as thick as mince and would never make a private detective 🔎)

An innocent explanation is that it belongs to a platonic friend, a relative or colleague to whom he gave a lift. They dropped it then OP's hubby found it and stowed it in the glovebox so it was safely out of the way until it could be returned.

I don’t think I’ve ever told anyone about who I give lifts to as it just doesn’t come up in conversations.
Unless it was someone who I’ve not seen in ages but then I’d tell someone purely because it’s a bit of a ‘guess who I bumped into’ thing.

I’ve got a friend at work who doesn’t drive but usually gets a lift from a co-worker or goes to the gym next door.
If the co-worker isn’t in I’ll ask if they want a lift or if they’re going to the gym.
I don’t think anyone knows I give her a lift apart from the people at work as it’s just not something I’d tell anyone, not because it’s a secret.

Could be an affair. Could belong to a colleague or someone he gave a lift to. Ask him.

There are possible innocent explanations, but yes, naturally you're suspicious. I'd keep quiet and see what happens. If the SIM card thing works, I'd give that a try.

Hope it turns out to be nothing, OP, but you aren't wrong to be concerned.

Wouldn't you take it into the house though & say "X left their phone in the car" rather than put it in the glovebox?

Sorry, I corrected myself a couple of posts down, I could only see the info that was stored on the SIM not the phone, obviously. That's how I got her number.

I'm sorry. This must be really unsettling.

Sparkly/ diamanté phone cover or some other phone cover that suggests it's a woman's phone rather than a man's 🤷‍♀️

Sorry, just read OP's update that it has no cover

If I knew I'd see the owner again at work in a day or so probably not.

Once it's in my house it can lost, fiddled with by my grandkids or chewed by my son's flippin Spaniel...

Yes I'd be suspicious, although it could be nothing.

Hi op! I wouldn’t let him know that you have removed the phone. Just wait and see if he says anything. As suggested by pp’s I would also remove the sim and put it in your own phone.

It always seems to me that if your first thought is "affair" rather than "somebody accidentally left her phone in his car when he was giving her a lift to the station" then either you are a person who thrives on drama or a person who already has suspicions.

I’m assuming the daily reminder that pinged up is a pill reminder, hence you thinking it’s a woman’s phone rather than a burner phone of your DH’s?

If it’s an iPhone, I’d be asking Siri to call ‘Mum’ and see what happens. Then you can explain you’ve found it and ask if you can drop it off to its owner. I really hope there’s some innocent explanation!

I can see your points.

We tend to not leave anything valuable in the car so I think it would have been taken into the house out of habit.

Put the sim into your phone as suggested?

Just ask him ffs. No need to do sneaky shit with swapping sims.

Take the phone and hide it. See what he does and how he acts when he can’t find it.

I wouldn't immediately think affair tbh, it could be something really innocuous like giving a colleague a lift, her leaving it in his car by mistake, and him leaving it in the glove box to give back to her tomorrow.

I'd ask him and watch his reaction. You'll know if he's lying.

@durems

A bit odd if it's not pinging very often - doesn't sound like well-used phone. Maybe the message was fake or sent to this number which is a pay and you go and hasn't belonged to anyone else.
I'd be careful - the phone could well be on a tracker somewhere and you don't know how it was put there or who you're dealing with. I'd ask DH.

Wouldn't the affair woman phone him from another phone and say she's lost her phone it might be in his car?

I wouldn't automatically be suspicious of my DH however it doesn't look good. Speak to him about it?

It could be another woman suspecting your DP of not being single and leaving a spare phone in his glovebox to track him.

Do you have teenage or older children, OP? I've found phones, pants, socks, clothes, contraceptives, God knows what in my house and car, and in DP's car. It's always been in some way related to my children (who are now not technically children, btw).