Found a phone in car

[durems]

Would you be suspicious if a phone pinged in the glove compartment of your DH's car and it turned out to belong to a woman you don't know?

"Surely nobody's that quick witted and sly to think that they'll put a phone in a car to cause trouble because they know the wife will be in it?!"

Actually, it could very well be exactly that. Many moons ago, before I was married to dh, I was in a relationship with someone and one day I was in his car, and I found a letter addressed to his ex in the pocket of the passenger side door. It was something silly like a magazine renewal reminder, some sort of official letter/bill, that definitely had her name and current address on it and a date posted (a few days prior), but nothing she would have missed by leaving it in the car. They'd been meeting up behind my back. She left the letter there to let me know she had been in the car and because it was dated, it was obvious it was recent.

Unfortunately, I was young and foolish enough to stay with him a few more years. I eventually dumped him after finding out he was sleeping with a mutual friend and also seeing another ex.

Of course she didnt "miss the phone" .. she knew where it was cos she put it in there!
Birth control reminder on second phone you dont miss? really?

Red Flags everywhere!!

Why would she be taking her 2nd phone to her hobbie, aren't 2nd phones usually work phones?

Also if she did take both phones why would she take one out of her bag? Pocket? Bra? And stick it in the glove box? Even if she took 1 phone, why put it in the glove box? Wouldn't she have just kept it in her hand/ on her lap since she would presumable just be sitting in the same position for the duration of the journey home?

BTW, how would he know it's her spare phone?

Why would an important daily reminder to (going to assume) to take a daily contraceptive pill(??) be on a spare phone and not on your main phone you have with you most, especially first thing in the morning?

Would it be so far fetched if it was his 2nd phone and after her laughing about how she is fickle at remembering contraceptive pill he has put it in his phone to remind him to ask/ make sure she has remembered to take it?

She sounds very comfortable in your husbands car,

the only scenario I can imagine,
is that he also picked her up from her house and dropped her to the hobby , so she kept the phone in the glove for safe keeping..
is it an active hobby where you can’t carry phones ?

Or , he took somewhere after the hobby and she left the phone in the car

does he ever mention her to you?
If they are close enough friends for him to be driving her around, surely he would bring her up to you at least once ..

I don’t want to assume the worse but I don’t have a good feeling about this OP
and I do believe in divine intervention , it’s not a coincidence that you were in that car the EXACT moment that the reminder went off
and it also gave you a clue that it was a female

keep your eyes peeled, if he is up to no good, he will be alot more careful now

Also, surely she would've contacted him once she got home (from her main phone) to tell him she accidently left her phone in his car and to keep it safe until next week when she xan get it back. Bit strange he never heard anything from her, surely she would've realised before 24 hours had passed.

Unless she knows not to call him because he’s with his wife ?
and she can pick the phone up next time they’re together ..

I could understand it if it's an active hobby. You aren't supposed to leave valuables on show in your car or it could get broken into. So say, work phone in there, personal phone in a pocket, keys too bulky to fit in the glove box and no point bringing them so they go into the side pocket. I drive to woods with my best friend and while I don't have a work phone, that's what I do so I don't have to carry anything in my pockets if I don't have to.

That was sadly my experience!

My experience too. The stories that were told are worthy of a best selling novel. I always doubted them but never followed my gut instinct. Please OP if you feel he is not being truthful then he probably isn’t

Nah; dodgy as fuck

Sorry OP but this all sounds off to me. What doesn’t make sense usually doesn’t make sense because it isn’t true.
Did you know of this woman? Did you already know that they are friendly enough to have lifts off each other?
If somebody needed to leave a phone or expensive item in a car then they wouldn’t leave it on show on the seat, no.
But it’s odd he didn’t seem to know it was there, or say straightaway how it came to be put there.
If somebody is cheating they get very good at lying, it gets to a point where it just doesn’t touch even the sides of what’s left of their conscience to do it, it just becomes a modus operandi, what needs to be done to get by. So a calm demeanour on being questioned means nothing, sadly. Hope I’m wrong and MN is famous for yelling cheat, but if it isn’t I’d be pretty surprised. Sorry OP but I think you need to dig deeper here. It just sounds ‘off’.

@durems you need to get a discreet recording device and attach it to the underneath of one of the car seats. Only then will you uncover the truth:

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She sounds very comfortable in your husbands car

This. I mean, I wouldn't dream of opening someone's glove compartment unless I was very close to them and used to travelling with them. Even then I would say, 'just going to pop this in here for safekeeping'.

She would have noticed it was missing so why wouldn't she have text him once she got home? Why hasn't he mentioned that he gives her lifts?

Sorry OP, I know these replies must be hard to read

Is she the right age?

Your husbands response makes it sound even more suspicious. Who on earth would know that someone at their hobby group's phone was a second phone - come on!

Unfortunately you played your hand too soon and he'll get really good at hiding things now. I also think the "hobby" is a cover for an affair.

I'd remove it and wait until he asked if I'd seen it. LTB

Are you sure they are even doing the hobby at all?

or instead of going to a hobby they are just meeting up and having sex in the car. Hence the phone being in the glove box on purpose out of the way.

Either way she didn’t leave it there on accident.

She's about a decade younger than me and resembles the younger me.

I dreamt last night he was bugging me with a secret recording device. Finding the phone has obviously affected me even in sleep. I hope she didn't deliberately put it there because it's a nasty thing to do. In her defence, if she was signed into both phones, the reminder should ping on both phones so she might not have missed the second phone.

He said the second phone is to do with the hobby. That's believable but don't understand why it needs to be a separate phone.

Not weird at all - seems very likely.

Why would she want to track a married man?! I understand it when people are in relationships and suspect their partner of cheating. She's not in that situation. He wears a wedding ring.

You still don’t know why she’s in his car?

I can be as cynical as fuck.

But I also can understand how go on autopilot and can see how someone could have put their phone in another person's glovebox.

When DH and I go out for our hobby, I have my phone with me but do not want/cannot always take it with me. So I just pop it in the glove box/side cubby/under the tissue box. Not really thinking about it. So I could truly could envisage myself doing the same in someone else's car. And either notice (and be kind of embarrassed). Or even kind of signal/ask "you OK if I shove this here whilst we poledance/land yacht/unicycle". Or not even notice.

Being married doesn't stop everyone from coming after someone.
I'm not saying she is, but she could be infatuated with your husband and want to have the opportunity to run into him 'by accident' by knowing where he is.

So what? She doesn’t care he’s married. She doesn’t owe you anything. If she wants him, she wants him regardless of if he’s married.

I know a women that was sleeping with a married man for over a year. She knew he was married, she didn’t care.

Most obviously - she wants to know where he lives?

She wants to visit to find whether or not he has children?

She wants to know what you look like?

She wants to know where else he goes and she might happen to bump into him?