Found a phone in car

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Would you be suspicious if a phone pinged in the glove compartment of your DH's car and it turned out to belong to a woman you don't know?

Ages ago I had a friend who found out her bf was cheating in a sort of similar circumstances. Except that he wanted to break it up, but could not bring himself to tell her, so left some 'clues' for her to find. Maybe DG left it on purpose as wanted you to see it and be the one to start things rolling.

Entirely plausible

Hmm if I was to find a friend/colleagues phone on the seat or floor the first place i’d probably put it is the glove compartment. I don’t think a glove compartment in a shared car is a secret hiding place?! Surely in under the spare tyre or something!

If this was my dh I’d ask him be pretty obvious by his reaction. If you don’t have that kind of relationship then I would remove and keep. Surely if innocent he will ask if you have seen it and you could play dumb like you heard the ping, put it in your bag to ask him but forgot by the time you saw him.

You don't need to have a specific brand of phone in order to store a contact under the name "mum".

While it might be suspicious, I once left my phone in the glove compartment of a male colleague’s car while we went into a building where phones weren’t allowed.

It wasn’t that he put it there - he didn’t even know he still had it until I asked him the next day to check if that was where I had left it.

I also don’t get a lot of pings on my phone - I have it set up for a daily alert unless things are time sensitive. Anything else is annoying.

I certainly hope his wife didn’t think anything was going on as it absolutely wasn’t!

No, I know that, but I don’t know what personal assistant names other brands have 🙂

But thanks for your clever comment xxx

@BettyRoodBoy no but you need an iPhone to use Siri and assuming the poster is saying you can use the Siri function to ‘call mum’ without needing to unlock the phone.

If I gave a lift to a colleague, I wouldn’t necessarily tell DH, only if it happened to come up in conversation. It doesn’t seem a particularly interesting topic of conversation.

If said colleague dropped/left their phone in the car, I might well stick it in the glove box for safe keeping, especially if I noticed while I was still on my way somewhere. I might well forget to retrieve it or bring it into the house. I doubt I would mention it to any other members of the household even if I remembered, why would I?

If I had a work phone, I probably wouldn’t mention it to my family. I don’t show them any other pieces of work equipment after all. I would be bewildered if this was deemed “suspicious”. Why would they be interested in it?

DH does actually have a work phone (or did). I don’t know the brand or number or anything. I don’t think he has ever shown it to me, I don’t know where he keeps it and I wouldn’t recognise it if I found it anywhere. I don’t think that’s suspicious either, why would I be interested in someone else’s work equipment?

Maybe he's just found it somewhere thrown it in the glovebox and forgotten all about it? Or perhaps he gave a colleague a lift home he's drove off and found it had fallen out, shoved it in the glovebox and thought he may give it to her when he next sees her, it could be anything.

Wow what a clever idea.

Anyone else drive?

if not I'd been telling my dh I'd found it and I'd also be seeing if I could get into to! I'd also want to try to call it from DH phone

It's weird he hadn't mentioned it if he found it after giving someone a lift.

I must be one of a 'very few people' because mine doesn't. I turn notifications off and hardly anyone rings me because I only answer DH, PIL, DC school. I never chat on the phone. Anyone else I message. I could go all day and not use it.

How does a woman leave her phone accidentally in your DH car? What woman these days has a burner and not a smartphone.

We're you meant to be in the car? Is it likely she put it there deliberately to go off so you'd possibly find it and therefore get suspicious?

So many questions

Red flags here. Don't ignore your gut feeling.

DH has never given me a reason to suspect him of cheating so I don't think I'd jump to that right off the bat. I'd ask him whose it was and judge things from there based on what I know about him.

His job was (we've retired) basically 'all male-staffed' so if he told me 'a coworker' left it in his car, yes I'd be very suspicious if I'd seen a reminder that was 'female oriented' pop up. But if he told me he'd given a ride home to a female from his hobby group, I probably wouldn't.

Finding it in the glove box wouldn't make me suspicious. I'd think it was the logical place to put a phone someone left in my car with the assumption that I'd see them again either at the workplace or hobby group and return it. I wouldn't bring it in the house because I'd be worried about leaving it behind when I expected next to see them.

If you're really suspicious, I'd probably look at the contacts list or the recent call log (if you can get to it) and call someone on it and tell them I found the phone and am trying to locate the owner to return it to them and see if they'll give you the name of the owner. Or look in the general settings to see if there's an 'about this phone' tab, that will usually tell you who the owner of the phone is.

divorce him now. and get what yours

Bloody hell!

Because she found a phone in his car? Without asking him how it got there? There are plausible explanations that are definitely not divorce worthy!

unless he is a taxi driver, I dont believe there is an innocent reason for it.

How about gave friend/colleague/family member a lift, phone fell out so he put it in glove box to give back to them?

I agree she should be suspicious and investigate but unilaterally divorcing a guy she may otherwise have an awesome relationship and young kids with over something she has no clue about is insane. She'd feel well daft if the day after chucking him out his cousin turned up for her phone.

What woman these days has a burner and not a smartphone

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I’m not a taxi driver and I’ve found several phones in my car or elsewhere like shopping trolleys etc.

If he was having an affair I very much doubt he’d have the OWs phone and if he did he wouldn’t hide it in the glove box, especially turned on.

I wouldn't. If I took it in the house I'd risk forgetting to put it back in the car when I was next going to see the person. I've given coworkers rides before, too, and never told my spouse because why would I?

This could be bad, but it's also potentially innocent.

Unless she gives work collègues lifts in his car i would be suspicious. Can you tell its a woman’s phone?