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Found a phone in car

269 replies

durems · 25/07/2023 11:20

Would you be suspicious if a phone pinged in the glove compartment of your DH's car and it turned out to belong to a woman you don't know?

OP posts:
mug2018 · 25/07/2023 14:00

If he doesn't have a 2nd phone for work, then no, it doesn't look good.
Either ask him or keep the phone for now and wait till he has a reaction to it not being there.
Hopefully there is a decent explanation

NowItsLikeSnowAtTheBeach · 25/07/2023 14:03

Can't imagine a woman/fling putting a phone in someone else's glove box EVER .... unless they want their relationship to be outed.

ThereIbledit · 25/07/2023 14:07

@NowItsLikeSnowAtTheBeach If it fell out of her bag/she left it in his car and he found it after she had left, he could easy have thought it would be safest kept secret in the glove box until he saw her again.

Elleviss · 25/07/2023 14:10

She could also be cheating and he's keeping it safe for her so she isn't found out

MortifiedSeptember · 25/07/2023 14:11

I once found dsis friend phone in my car glove compartment. She or dsis, must have put it there when I left two teenagers in the car to pay for the petrol. Why I don't know? They didn't think to ask me for it as the girl assumed she lost it somewhere else. I handed it to my dsis, who gave it back to her friend.

No drama. Could your dh given someone a ride somewhere? A co worker or someone hurt/ his dm friend and they left it in the car? When I used to drive and I saw dm friend randomly shopping same area as me, I would always offer them help. They helped her lots.

SunThroughTheCloudsAt6am · 25/07/2023 14:11

He could suspect you and planted an old phone in the car to track it.

Mayhem3 · 25/07/2023 14:12

I probably wouldn’t be suspicious unless i thought he had a second phone.

It sounds like he gave someone a lift and she left her phone in the car and he’s planning to give it to her the next working day assuming they’re colleagues.
Thats what I would do.

changeforthebetternottheworse · 25/07/2023 14:12

Nothing good springs to mind I'm afraid.

HooverIsAlwaysBroken · 25/07/2023 14:12

Wish you well OP. Just a a tiny balance to everyone here, I cannot recall if I told DH immediately when I got a work phone. My 12 year old DS actually thought it was an extra/unknown phone and asked very hesitantly about it. I do put it in odd places as I almost exclusively use it abroad or for taking teams calls when on the go.

I explained immediately about the phone - and would have handed it over unlocked had DH been suspicious (very boring, exclusively work mails and teams message).

Everyone is now used to it as whenever I get a call on Teams, both my computer and my phone rings.

HorseyMel · 25/07/2023 14:13

The "Mumsnet Knickers" should be either in the glovebox or under the sofa

HTH!

Judydoes2 · 25/07/2023 14:13

A male friend left his 'phone in my car a few weeks ago and couldn't get back to collect it for a few days. He's not a 'glued to his 'phone' sort of person so hadn't noticed it straight away and I had no idea it was there.
I'd be upset if my partner was very suspicious of me because of it. I really hope there's an innocent explanation OP.

Mayhem3 · 25/07/2023 14:14

Also I doubt she put it in the glove box.

More likely it was on the seat and he put it in there for safe keeping and planning to give it back to her the next day.

uncomfortablydumb53 · 25/07/2023 14:14

He's likely cheating especially as it's a woman messaging him
He wouldn't have a reason to hide it otherwise
I'm sorry( I have experience)

Emmamoo89 · 25/07/2023 14:19

Just ask him.

rainbowstardrops · 25/07/2023 14:23

Do you regularly use the car? It's a bit of a shit hiding place for a second phone if he's having an affair!

Showdogworkingdog · 25/07/2023 14:23

Yes. Struggling for an explanation as to why it’s in the glove box. Either someone deliberately put it there (which could be a devious move) or DH found it and intends to quietly return it. In which case, like you’ve said, why not take it in the house or say something about having to return it? We’re all so attached to our phones now it’s really inconvenient to not have it so when you find one you know that and aim to return it asap don’t you? And you’d say something about that wouldn’t you because you’d probably need to go out of your way to do so. Hiding it there points to it belonging to someone who’s in DH’s car regularly. Idk, hoping there’s an innocent explanation but it wouldn’t sit well with me. Hope all is well for you x

theemmadilemma · 25/07/2023 14:26

Menstrual cycle app ping?

Don't think men wouldn't track a Partners cycle....

Acornsoup · 25/07/2023 14:28

I would imagine the owner will want it back asap. You could just watch and wait. Is it possible DH found it?

watcherintherye · 25/07/2023 14:29

Sorry, but some on the thread seem to think that the phone in the glovebox is an additional phone belonging to the op’s dh, on which a woman has messaged him. It is, in fact another person’s locked phone, on which a reminder for something specifically female was received, therefore probably a woman’s phone.

I’ll get back to ‘Pedant’s corner’!

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 25/07/2023 14:29

If it was found on the seat then not so much because he could have been giving a work colleague a lift home and she’d left there.but that’s not to say i wouldn’t be doing my detective work.
However the fact that it was found in the glove department means someone has taken the time to put it there (out of way???). I’m sorry Op and I hope I’m wrong and there may well be a innocent explanation but it doesn’t look good, I’m afraid.

Jellifulfruit · 25/07/2023 14:31

Shame you can’t get in it. You could put your husbands number in and see if it’s been saved. Or check the messages

wizzywig · 25/07/2023 14:32

Check where he goes at the time the appt is. I'd be thinking baby scan. And she could've left it in the car so you'd find it

Mom2K · 25/07/2023 14:32

A male friend left his 'phone in my car a few weeks ago and couldn't get back to collect it for a few days. He's not a 'glued to his 'phone' sort of person so hadn't noticed it straight away and I had no idea it was there.
I'd be upset if my partner was very suspicious of me because of it. I really hope there's an innocent explanation OP

Yes, but does your DP know about this friend and that you give him rides? If so then it would be very unreasonable of a DP to suspect cheating by finding a phone in your car.

But if OP isn't aware of any friends or colleagues at all that her DP could be giving rides to (I mean surely, this kinda thing would be mentioned to a partner even just in general conversation) then I'd say it could definitely be grounds for suspicion. Who is he giving rides to and why has it not been mentioned to OP? Very shady.

MortifiedSeptember · 25/07/2023 14:37

Wow, so many people glove compartment is private. I wasn't aware of this. A good lesson to learn.

People normally used to ask to use it as a table to hold their bag and put make up on the way to an event. Or to see if I had an extra sweet in there (either to put one in or take one out). I'm type 1 diabetic and used to have lots of sweets in the car.

ManateeFair · 25/07/2023 14:39

Well, with no other information than you've given, then yes, of course I'd be suspicious.

I mean, if I found a woman's phone in my own DP's car, there could be plenty of innocent explanations (eg left by a work colleague he'd given a lift to; found it and was intending to try and find out who it might belong to; accidentally picked it up thinking it was his own, etc) but I'd certainly be initially suspicious and I'd be asking some questions.