Found a phone in car

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Would you be suspicious if a phone pinged in the glove compartment of your DH's car and it turned out to belong to a woman you don't know?

How do you know he's got the ring on when he's out?
I know men who take rings off and put them back on once home. Or he's lying you're separated.

Anyone else remembers the thread op was in a long term relationship with a man, even met his family, only to find out he was married and had a kid, and started wearing the ring once he broke off things with her.
Or the one when op was trying to spy on her dp who was married and holidaying with his wife, but feeding op news he was separated and even had given her a false name.

Is it just a cheap/old phone that she uses for the hobby so stop risking her losing or breaking her main one?

I very much doubt she’d use it to track him or so you find it.

Finding a woman’s phone in the car does not exactly scream affair.

He could be a cheating asshole but he could also have literally just been giving this woman a lift.

Be careful not to get sucked in by some of the more dramatic MNers.

I initially thought he was probably lying but it's plausible that it's a second phone that she uses when she's doing the hobby so that she doesn't ruin her main phone I suppose? Still doesn't explain why it was in the glovebox though!

His excuses are pathetic. You have caught him out having a sordid affair. Time to change the locks, bin his stuff and leave them on the front drive. See a solicitor first, though, and squirrel away as much money as you can.

I’m sorry you’re going through this OP, it’s horrible. The problem (amongst many) when infidelity is suspected is that the person who has discovered something odd is blindsided and still holding on to what they know (or think they know) a person is like.
What you see and hear creates confusion inside you because when passed through the filter of ‘my husband/ partner would never …..’ or ‘why would any woman do x or y…’ it doesn’t make any sense. Because of our beliefs about right and wrong and what we think the beliefs and moral boundaries of others we love are, when faced with horrible possibilities we tend to look for innocent explanations which line up with those beliefs. For the majority of our lives, if we are fortunate, our judgment serves us well and allows us to trust people.
This could be a female friend from a hobby that he gave a lift to, and that’s the end of it. Absolutely plausible.
I don’t think you think that though, or you wouldn’t be asking here. Trust your gut, something is making you think there’s more to this. Hate to say it but wearing a wedding ring is neither here nor there. Cheating husbands will remove them and replace them as necessary, sadly.

Why don't you do the hobby, can you go along?

I would announce I was coming, just as he was going out the door 😁

Has he told you he picks her up? How often

@Thewookiemustgo is spot-on. People can change beyond all recognition when they're influenced by other people and other situations. Their partner might not notice it at all because the behavioural changes occur only when they are away from their main life.
Sounds like he has some sort of side-life going on as he appears to have a sort of secret female friend who was in his car for some reason and who feels comfortable enough to put her phone in his car knowing that it will ping personal reminders.

ROARING at “he wears a wedding ring “

I think you are being naive . The most probably cause I they are having an affair . I would o suggest you investigate this further . Let him think he got away with it but follow him or track him somehow

What is the hobby OP?

Trust your gut. If it feels off it probably is. Is they are friends she would be in both of your lives not just his.

I don't buy his excuses
Surely he'd hear the glove box open? It's very odd to use something else's glovebox, unless it's a family members car
I don't even use the mirror without asking.
She won't miss her" second phone" as she knows where it is

Ooh yes the wedding ring deterrent pffft

He gave her a lift and forgot to mention it? Seems very suspect to me. Does he often give people lifts? Would he tell you?

What are you going to do with the phone OP?

@DahliaRose3 why on earth is giving a lift to a friend suspicious? My DH often lift shares to events with men/women. He wouldn’t make a point of mentioning it, I may ask who he’d seen. And as to leaving a phone in the car, they may not all feel the need to take phones so leave locked in a car. I really wouldn’t think twice about it.

if it was driving around multiple people from the hobby , guys and girls or a group of them, it wouldn't be suspicious but he's only driving this lady around , she is young and attractive, would he befriend her if she was in her 50s or if she was maybe unattractive? unlikely
i don't think its the norm for married older men to befriend young attractive women around in their cars
and the fact that he has been secretive about this woman too, OP knew nothing about this new friend of his, he never mentions her, very strange

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What’s happening OP? This all sounds very suspicious.