My partner just slapped me

[yvonneb13]

I'm in shock maybe disbelief I'm a little drunk after being at a festival and my partner phoned me to say our little boy wasn't settling I said I'd get the bus home which I thought was 9pm turns out it was 9;15 so I got home late he went absolutely mental doesn't want to be with me anymore called me so many names and then slapped me across the face and saying if I don't get out his way he's going to batter me I've been with this man for 13 years and this is the first time ever I've seen this side of him I'm currently crying in the living room and he's in the bedroom and I'm just in shock I'm gonna leave him I never thought in a million years he's ever hurt me and hear I am with a sore cheek that's all red it's not fair because I never go out in always the one who looks after the baby and the one night I don't rush to be home when he said I get this I honestly can't believe it

Think I just need a hand to hold I'm out of here tomorrow

I’m so sorry. Can you get out with the baby and go to a friend or family member’s house?

I’d call the police. He’s hurt you and threatened to do so again. And there’s a baby in the house.

You poor thing, I’m so sorry 💐

Are you feeling safe? Can you contact a family or friend?

You should phone the police as he needs to leave the property, not you.

I would call the police to remove him, don't take a chance.

Phone the police.

I'm so sorry. But you need police to remove him and to charge him.

I agree you should call the police. If you can leave tomorrow anyway, then they should kick him out for tonight and hopefully you'd be gone by the time he got back. What a horrible thing to happen.

Baby's asleep luckily didn't wake up through the whole thing I just can't t believe it's it's so unfair be genuinely does what wants and h don't do anything and he's acting like in the bad one for going out one night and the baby not settling it's just so unfair he goes out most weekends and im here and I do everything for him washing cooking cleaning and I just don't deserve it I'm packing a bag right now of essentials and I'm out of her what a waste of 13 years

I didn't do anything apart from get the bus timetable wrong

Please call the police to remove him don’t wait till tomorrow. I’m so sorry OP .

OP, I'm sending you lots of hugs. You did not deserve that! I'd get out of there ASAP

Sorry this happened. Must be doubly upsetting and shocking if you've never seen this side of him before. I agree you should phone the police. If you sleep on it without doing anything then there's every possibility that he will be full of remorse tomorrow and you'll be tempted to brush it under the carpet. This wouldn't be a good thing because now it's happened once it's likely to happen again.

So sorry for you and your baby. You deserve better.

I'm so sad honestly I can't believe it I can't stop crying we've been together since we were 16 and were 29 now I've never once felt like this I understand babies are hard and this is the first time he's been alone with him for hours but it's not fair I do it all the time and he's his dad

My late exh was like this, please do leave.

On a very rare occasion when I went out with work colleagues to watch one young colleague in his band he followed me there- 20 miles away. I was so embarrassed

Smashed dinners because I wanted to go to a school reunion with my friends

Attacked me when I got back.

Even after we'd separated, when he knew I was out, he would wind our DD5 up so much I would have to go and get her.

Please do leave. And please be safe tonight.

Please phone someone OP

He obviously doesn't like you going out and after this performance you're not likely to do it again are you? Controlling and abusive. Not to mention very selfish.

Gosh, this sounds awful. There's so many women on here who appear to be punished for living a life and not just existing in the home as a skivvy!

Stay strong, OP. You deserve so much better.

I'd be phoning the police. It shows you are strong enough to stand up to him and give you a little self-confidence and respect.

It'll hopefully embarrass him enough never to swipe at another human again.

@yvonneb13 what an horrible man. You have had one night out and had to come home by 9pm and it’s got him in this temper? I’m sorry but that doesn’t bode well does it. Would you really feel safe leaving your child with him now when he’s shown he resorts to violence when he has a dose of actually having to adult. I think you should also call the police and get him removed, why should you be packing a bag and leaving? He’s assaulted you and threatened further violence, please get him out the house ASAP.

He assaulted you. He threatened to do worse. And he is still in the house with you and your baby. I cannot imagine how hard this must be, but really think it would be a good idea to call the police.

Call the police and they will remove him from the home.It shouldn’t be you leaving.Sorry for what you are going through.

Police, now!
stay safe and don’t let him near the baby

Have you checked on your baby? If your partner was so wound up from trying to settle him that he slapped you, I would be worried he lashed out earlier.

Good luck getting out of there in the morning.

He’s obviously got very stressed with the baby not settling and taken it out on you. This is completely unacceptable. Sounds like you have been his skivvy all these years and he’s not used to actually being a parent / being an equal partner. Please don’t let him give you excuses and I’m sorrys, he has shown you his temper when having to deal with real life. Call the police and have this logged.

I agree with others about calling the police. Take care.

I was also concerned about him possibly having shaken the baby.