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Original poster

My partner just slapped me

477 replies

yvonneb13 · 23/07/2023 22:43

I'm in shock maybe disbelief I'm a little drunk after being at a festival and my partner phoned me to say our little boy wasn't settling I said I'd get the bus home which I thought was 9pm turns out it was 9;15 so I got home late he went absolutely mental doesn't want to be with me anymore called me so many names and then slapped me across the face and saying if I don't get out his way he's going to batter me I've been with this man for 13 years and this is the first time ever I've seen this side of him I'm currently crying in the living room and he's in the bedroom and I'm just in shock I'm gonna leave him I never thought in a million years he's ever hurt me and hear I am with a sore cheek that's all red it's not fair because I never go out in always the one who looks after the baby and the one night I don't rush to be home when he said I get this I honestly can't believe it

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Babyandmexox · 23/07/2023 23:06

Please check on your baby and phone the police he has assaulted you he needs to leave!

AuntieSoap · 23/07/2023 23:06

OP are you ok? Can you get help tonight?

ReluctantFishLady · 23/07/2023 23:08

Are the police really likely to leave the child with OP if she is drunk?

BobbyBleu · 23/07/2023 23:08

How scary for you. You didn't deserve this. Is there anyone you can call for some support tonight? Family or friends?
I know you probably don't want to disturb your little one, but even if they came and stayed with you until tomorrow when you plan to leave.

determinedtomakethiswork · 23/07/2023 23:10

ReluctantFishLady · 23/07/2023 23:08

Are the police really likely to leave the child with OP if she is drunk?

Why do you say she's drunk? She doesn't say that. She doesn't mention alcohol at all, does she?

SophiaElise · 23/07/2023 23:10

This is hideous. Treat it the same way you would if it had been your neighbour - call the police.

fireflyloo · 23/07/2023 23:11

@determinedtomakethiswork
Op says 'I'm a little drunk' in her opening line.

MaxwellCat · 23/07/2023 23:11

determinedtomakethiswork · 23/07/2023 23:10

Why do you say she's drunk? She doesn't say that. She doesn't mention alcohol at all, does she?

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Says in the op........

Pablothepalm · 23/07/2023 23:11

Please do ring 999 and get police to attend. Do not leave your little one and don’t leave the house. Xx

Whattodowithit88 · 23/07/2023 23:12

Look on the bright side, at least you can see this for what it is - he thinks your place is house elf, who isn’t allowed a night out and his pissed off that you dared to “rise above your station”.

He thinks little of you and you can see that now. 13 years wasted is better than 23, leave and don’t look back. You can do better.

ThirtyThrillionThreeTrees · 23/07/2023 23:12

I know you are in shock but please call the police. He is a danger to you and your child with an unpredictable temper like that. This is assult and nothing can justify this abuse.

Please also take a photo of your face if it's marked, you made need it again.

YoSof · 23/07/2023 23:12

determinedtomakethiswork · 23/07/2023 23:10

Why do you say she's drunk? She doesn't say that. She doesn't mention alcohol at all, does she?

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It’s in the OP.

Please call the police anyway, they may ask a family member to take baby tonight if you are drunk but Im concerned about it escalating again tonight, and also concerned about your baby. Can you call someone to be with you if you don’t feel able to call the police?

StopMindlesslyScrolling · 23/07/2023 23:13

Take photos of your face and email them to yourself so you have them saved as future evidence.

Phone the police and explain what has happened.

I would also suggest sending the photos to family and friends so they can support you through this.

He'll probably be full of remorse tomorrow or act as if your making a big deal out of nothing, but domestic violence often begins once there is a baby and the man feels the woman is "trapped" with him.

This time it's a slap, the next time it'll be a broken bone or worse and it will escalate. It could be you or your baby on the receiving end of that, so please don't take the risk. Your life and your baby's life could depend on it.

calmcoco · 23/07/2023 23:14

ReluctantFishLady · 23/07/2023 23:08

Are the police really likely to leave the child with OP if she is drunk?

Yes if only a little drunk, parents are frequently a little drunk in charge of children.

If wasted, no they would not.

Polik · 23/07/2023 23:14

How old is baby?

Ant other children?

Deadringer · 23/07/2023 23:16

Aside from being abusive he sounds like a useless father and a shitty, selfish partner, he doesn't deserve you or your child. Leaving him will be hard but it might just be the most important thing you ever do. Stay strong.

Pablothepalm · 23/07/2023 23:16

Please, please ring the police. Have no fear. You’re not comatose by drink. You can type and ask for help here. Please calm them and at least take pictures of your cheek. How dare he attack you?!! You did nothing wrong and the police are trained to make sure you’re safe and with your little one. You’ve done nothing wrong.

Daffodilsandtuplips · 23/07/2023 23:18

yvonneb13 · 23/07/2023 22:48

I didn't do anything apart from get the bus timetable wrong

He’s a wanker, even if the baby had settled and you had got the bus on time he’d have found another excuse to have a go at you.
Keep you resolve and leave.

CandyLeBonBon · 23/07/2023 23:21

Bloody hell. Op has had a night out where she was expecting to have a night off from parenting. She's allowed to have had some drinks. It doesn't render her an incapable parent ffs.

Canisaysomething · 23/07/2023 23:23

Phone the police for the sake of your child and any future contact he may want to have with them. Document everything. If he can do this to you his can do this to your child.

labamba007 · 23/07/2023 23:25

Please ring the police, check on your baby and leave with your baby if you can. Take pictures of your face too. Sending hugs, this sounds awful.

DoubleTime · 23/07/2023 23:26

Can you get out the house quietly OP with a few clothes some cash, bank cards and Baby, of course ? Get yourself to a hotel. If you want to report this to the police you can do it from there.

Twyford · 23/07/2023 23:31

Take a photo of your cheek. Ask the police to help you leave the house safely with the baby.

nocoolnamesleft · 23/07/2023 23:31

Is your baby okay?

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yvonneb13 · 23/07/2023 23:32

I just cba im so fed up and upset I'm lying in the bed with the baby and he's in the living room think he's sleeping just totally fed up

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