I paid for sex in the past when should I reveal this to my GF?

[Changedman]

I am 24 years old atm when I was 17/18 years old I paid for sex once(this is how I lost my virginity) I was with an older woman and she proposed me and said I could sleep with her if I gave her some money and out of stupidity I obliged. When I was 18 I paid for sex once after doing some research about the industry I felt disgusted and decided I would never pay for sex again and didn't and again. I know for a fact that the women that I paid aren't being forced or coerced and both did what they did independently and of their own free will but I do understand that It will be a deal breaker for a lot of women and I don't want to be leading people on so can I have some advice on how to conduct myself?

@Changedman how much did you pay the first woman to lose your virginity? How much did you pay the influencer?

I was offered £500 once. I said no.

it wasn't a lot she asked me to pay for something for her it was less of a cash exchange but it was still transactional so I count it as paying for sex.

She wasnt really an influencer she just had a lot of insta followers and sugar daddies she came to Birmingham and I said I wanted to see her she said she was meeting a sugar daddy instead I can't remember exactly how much but She should see me instead of the SD and she asked me for some money for the hotel and shopping we spent was stupid of me but I was young and had quite abit in comparison to others my age. Was nowhere near £500 quid though.

My close friends partner (in fact, him and his friends) went to Amsterdam when they were 18 and all lost their virginities to prostitutes.
He told her, she really wasn't that phased... it was years before they met, not something he's done since or would do again. They were young and dumb and virgins at 18.. (there explanation, not my excusing)

However, some women may find it off putting. So I would say, keep it in the past.
If it isn't something you plan on doing again then it's a young mistake learnt from.. leave it there and give it no further thought.
If however you think a friend may bring it up in her presence, be open about it. Better to come from you than someone else.

Tell her if you want to get serious with her. She will appreciate your honesty.
I would.

"But then I suppose I can just continue to focus on my career and then im my 30s date a much younger women who is a virgin/has a low body count."

@User593939108 can I just highlight how scarily predatory that sounds?!!
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I think you concern should be less about any girls sexual encounters in the passed and just be blessed any women is giving you the time of day. Your F*ked.

you know what I would like to but how do I without it feeling like it came out of the blue? like its abit weird of me to just randomly say one day I lost my virginity to a middle aged woman who said she would sleep with me if I gave her money to pay for some some stuff

When should you “reveal” this? At 25 o’clock on the 32nd of Never.

IMO it's fine to gloss over certain details from your past, as long as you are honest and faithful during the course of the current relationship. It sounds like you aren't someone who would do this again, so forgive yourself of it and move on.

Ill be 100% honest you are never going to find a girlfriend with the current attitude you have change your attitude and your dating life will become so much easier. From the way you message I can tell you dont take women out on dates try that and actually get to know them as a people and not just holes and I promise you someone will go for you and that could literally take you a week or two

Oh dear 😞
wish you could see yourself how we all seem to see you, and realise how awful you’re coming across. But alas, there doesn’t seem to be any stopping you.

God so fucking creepy. "You want a younger women for having kids". She's not a cow.

Women in their 30s can have babies. If you're in your 30s, don't deliberately seek out a young woman in her early 20s to impregnate.

All the while counting her sexual experiences just to make sure she hasn't given one more blowjob than you've received, so you aren't FORCED to judge her for having a perfectly normal sexual history.

Makes my skin crawl.

I don’t think a relationship is ever going to happen for you, fortunately. At least not with that mindset.

Literally the only way men like you ever get sex is when you pay for it, then some poor woman has to perform for you while feeling simultaneously repulsed and pity for ya. Gross. You’re the type of guy who’ll pay for prostitutes and then leave reviews about them online 🙄

@User593939108 30 is the average age for a woman to have a child.

Believe me, women will not care about what you want, they will be preoccupied with running a mile. Good luck finding your slim, attractive, non career driven, sexually inexperienced 20 something 😂 I'd eat my hat if that actually happened for someone with attitudes like yours.

Of course you’re not respecting a woman you’re paying for sex! That is literally the highest form of disrespect!

May I ask how old you are?

But a women in her 20's is also far less likely to be a virgin. Not impossible, also, speaking as a women who has just turned 30, I didn't give a shit about older more successful men in my 20's. I was enjoying my 20's with my friends! Not looking to start a family with a man 10 years older with a checking list.
The point remains you praying on young girls who are virgins, mainly through your own insecurities.

You give off real small D*ck energy, which may explain why you are still a virgin..