Just found out partner of 10 years pays for hand jobs

[Havanawinter]

I was sending myself some pics on my partners WhatsApp and saw a random message thread, so yes I clicked. Turns out it’s for a Thai massage lady called Mimi who offers “B2B” which google tells me is basically a happy ending. I’m in total shock. I have confronted him and he admitted it. Said he has only been once but had another one booked in for a few weeks time.

He’s putting the kids to bed and I’m sat in the bedroom in absolute shock. I thought we were happy. We have 2 kids aged 5 and 2. We were discussing trying for a third. I’ve just started a new job. We’re not married, please don’t flame me for this, I can’t take it right now.

What do I do? I need a hand hold. And a hug. I can’t believe this has happened to me. I never thought I’d be here.

Here’s the first lot of messages. I can’t upload a second imagine for some reason but he basically says yeah £130 is fine, see you soon. Also his name isn’t Ed!

So you have regular sex but because you don't actually SLEEP in the bed with him he's lonely.... what a pathetic excuse.

So how many extras have you sorced from other Men OP....none .

What a shit he is.
Sorry you're going through this.

So sorry OP. Disgusting and shocking discovery. Take time to digest and get space if you can while you decide your next move. Agree with pps that it’s highly unlikely it was only once.

I am in the states. Happy ending massages are so very common - even from licensed massage therapists (they could lose their licenses if discovered). My legit massage therapist had a hard time finding a studio to lease space because she could tell by the .... smell of sperm ... if the other massage therapists were giving happy endings. Ick.

I had one male co-worker tell me he doesn't consider it a "complete" massage without the happy ending hand job. The fee is for the massage and then the bigger tip the man gives is for the happy ending.

Surely you have your answer.

He’s a cheating sleaze. He has no respect for you. He’s happy to exploit and objectify a prostitute and lie to you.

Throw him out. How could you possibly do anything else?

So sorry to state the obvious but if he's using some kind of shorthand/code ("B2B") then clearly he's very well immersed in this world and this woman is one in a long string.

So he saw her once a while ago but expected her to remember who Ed was.

Does he think he was that impressive he was that memorable from one visit?

Or rather he says Hi it’s Ed, because he has been alot and he knows she will remember him as a reparations customer.

Seemingly B2B means body to body as in a naked body massage and she'll be using more than her hands!! Sorry but he's a loser and you need to get rid of him.

A quick Google suggests that b2b means both parties are naked?

From the messages he has met her before (last year), also where did you find out that B2B means hand job? From her reaction it seems to be something more extreme - she even asks 'are you sure?'

I agree. So sorry OP it must have been a horrible and shocking discovery. Take some time to formulate a plan.

Recently I was told to not justify my reasons on here for wanting a larger family and I'm giving that advice to you. I also have an autistic child and sometimes I need to stay in his room or DP does until he's calmer, so I get you!
But calling your ND child uncontrollable is honestly one of the most vile things I've seen on here and I hope you don't engage with that shit, you've enough going on.

I'm so sorry you're in such a shit situation 💐

I missed the bit about a handjob costing £130.

What is she? An octopus?

No, he's had more than a hand job for that amount.

He's repulsive.

I have a friend who works in the sex industry.... there's no way £130 is for a handjob, sorry.

"B2B" massage is a term that is sometimes used to refer to a type of erotic or sensual massage that involves body-to-body contact between the massage therapist and the client. It is also sometimes referred to as a "body slide" massage.
The specifics of B2B massage can vary depending on the practitioner and the client's preferences, but it typically involves the use of oil or lotion and the therapist using their body to slide or glide over the client's body. The massage may incorporate gentle pressure, kneading, and other massage techniques to help relax the client and stimulate their senses.
It's important to note that B2B massage is not a professional or therapeutic massage technique and may not be legal in all areas. It is often associated with the sex industry or other forms of adult entertainment, and may not be appropriate or comfortable for all individuals.

www.quora.com/What-is-the-definition-of-B2B-massage-and-details-on-how-to-do-it

An octopus 😂😂😂😂😂😂

1. A hand job doesn't stop you feeling lonely.

1. If he has admitted to this so easily there is definitely a lot more going on.

1. I could not be with a man that used sex workers. It's equal to having an affair and a lot more ick.

I could never look at him again. Why couldn't he just sort himself out?

I think I’m going to leave this thread here. I don’t think I’m insulting posters but having a complete brain dump on an anonymous forum. Im aware he’s cheated on me, I know this is cheating and it’s disgusting and I’m in total complete shock. Thanks to everyone who was kind and gave me the room to breathe when I needed off. Off to put the kids to bed.

Just because you can be nasty, doesn't mean you should. You know nothing about the OP, or her child.

Off you fuck.

Sending you love, OP 💗

#he is NOT your best friend. He's his own best friend

Honestly, I couldn’t look past the fact that he has cheated & also has another booked. I’m sorry but he may be your “bestfriend” but there will never be trust again. I would call it a day & work on yourself.
i had an ex partner once who cheated & that’s why he’s an ex, I split the day I found out.

You'll meet someone better than this and you'll be happy again with someone else, I promise.

Most definitely

Sending you kind thoughts OP. 💐