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Possible Emma Thompson Moment

337 replies

MaybeAgain2023 · 06/07/2023 22:33

It’s my birthday next week

9 years ago DH had a short affair. We worked through it and all has been fine for a number of years.

OW had a significant birthday this week. I’ve noticed a transaction on the online bank account, which I never look at (via PayPal which he rarely uses). This set my spidery senses going. It’s from a store I never shop at and I didn’t know that he knew it even existed.

I’m now waiting to see if this present materialises. If it doesn’t it’s a deal breaker. I’m on zero tolerance.

Feeling nervous

OP posts:
Edders71 · 08/07/2023 19:16

Wonderful news! Have a fantastic evening xxx

MackenCheese · 08/07/2023 19:17

Have a wonderful birthday, and enjoy your outfit x

Mumontherunn · 08/07/2023 19:21

Hoorah! Happy for you OP. Happy birthday

jenny38 · 08/07/2023 19:22

Very happy with this update!

Isthisexpected · 08/07/2023 19:25

So pleased to see this. Have a lovely evening and birthday.

cinders222 · 08/07/2023 19:28

lovely update. xx

billy1966 · 08/07/2023 19:30

So pleased.

Enjoy.

Fraaahnces · 08/07/2023 19:31

Hooray! I’m so happy for you!

moneymatr · 08/07/2023 19:34

Good stuff. Your spidey sense was good. It never hurts to have that awareness but even better it all turned out ok

Purplecatshopaholic · 08/07/2023 19:34

Aww lovely news, so glad.

Newusernamee · 08/07/2023 19:34

I read this with my heart in my mouth but am thrilled for you OP! Happy birthday!

(also, I think you are very wise - I wish you well in your future)

bpirockin · 08/07/2023 19:37

Aww, that's lovely to hear. Enjoy!

PurpleButterflyWings · 08/07/2023 19:40

MaybeAgain2023 · 08/07/2023 18:46

UPDATE

It was for me. My birthday is next week but we’re out tonight and he’s bought me a beautiful dress.

Nothing to see here now 😊

YAY! Great news. Flowers Maybe you can stop stressing and worrying now, and be at peace with yourself. Smile All the best! ❤

letthatmango · 08/07/2023 19:53

Knew it!

So happy for you @MaybeAgain2023!

Have an absolutely fantastic time, you deserve it!

MIBnightmare · 08/07/2023 19:56

OMG Maybeagain2023

The MN massive will HATE your update.!!

A man who has cheated once will do it again (not true)

A man who buys a gift from a place without prompting.. definitely cheating again .

You (like me ) know different. Have a fab evening...

Nellynoowhoareyou · 08/07/2023 19:56

Oh yay what a lovely ending (and thoughtful thing to do!), happy birthday xo

ScribblingPixie · 08/07/2023 20:02

Tears in my eyes for you, OP. Have a great night. Onwards and upwards x

Starseeking · 08/07/2023 20:07

RachelTopliss · 08/07/2023 18:54

That's great news but I think your anxiety over the discovery is information you can't afford to ignore. Happy birthday 🎂 for next week too.

This.

ZeroFuches · 08/07/2023 20:29

Yippee! Have a brilliant night

SirVixofVixHall · 08/07/2023 20:31

So happy to read this OP.

CrazyArmadilloLady · 08/07/2023 21:04

Great news OP - delighted for you!

Frogmila · 08/07/2023 21:08

That's great!!

sevenbyseven · 08/07/2023 21:21

Phew, what a relief! I'm glad you didn't have to wait until next week to find out 😁

RachelTopliss · 08/07/2023 21:36

Starseeking · 08/07/2023 20:07

This.

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Thank you I wasn't being a Debbie Downer I felt the OP hadn't 100% got over what her husband did and who can blame her for that?

CrazyArmadilloLady · 08/07/2023 21:48

Let’s just focus on being positive for the OP right now - it’s her birthday and the worst didn’t happen. Flowers