Possible Emma Thompson Moment

[MaybeAgain2023]

It’s my birthday next week

9 years ago DH had a short affair. We worked through it and all has been fine for a number of years.

OW had a significant birthday this week. I’ve noticed a transaction on the online bank account, which I never look at (via PayPal which he rarely uses). This set my spidery senses going. It’s from a store I never shop at and I didn’t know that he knew it even existed.

I’m now waiting to see if this present materialises. If it doesn’t it’s a deal breaker. I’m on zero tolerance.

Feeling nervous

He bought it last week via PayPal.

I don’t know what the item is but it’s from a women’s clothing store and almost £200

Thinking of you OP x

Thanks all.

I know there’s nothing anyone can say or do but just wanted to express my fears and possibly gather some support incase I need it.

I will update the thread

Thinking of you too OP xxx

Hope everything will turn out okay xx

Ah, OP. I must have seen that scene 25 times and it makes me cry, still. I can't comprehend how you must be feeling. I really hope that gift is for you

It's so horrible this is how you have to live forever with this cloud ready to tower overvyou.

Oh lovely, really hope it's a good outcome for you. Been in your shoes and know exactly what you're feeling. Sending a big hug. X

I really hope that it's for you! 🌺

I really hope the gift is for you And will follow your thread for updates.

are you able to have a sneaky look round when he’s out to see if you can find the receipt (which will state what was bought) or the items themself. Then you can check they are your size etc which will help you know in advance if they are for you or not

Does he have any particular hiding places you could look in? Might give you the “heads up” if you find something that suddenly disappears…

Fingers crossed for you that it's just a lovely and unexpected surprise

You don't trust him. It's X many years later and this is your reaction to a purchase you're unsure about.

I'm not sure it matters if it's for you or not, surely this isn't a relationship you want to stay in?

Oh gosh, we all knew exactly what you were referring to from the thread title, without even reading the thread. 😔

I feel sure it will be for you, but I guess Emma did, too.

I don’t know about sneaking around, trying to find receipts. Either you will get the gift, or you won’t.

Secret sleuthing in the lead-up to it is only going to make you feel a whole lot worse.

Oh what a difficult position to be in. I hope it is a present for you and that everything works out.

Hope it’s for you Op! Seems like he’s trustworthy now so just a lovely surprise present for you ❤️

I had an Emma T moment . I found a gift that ex-DH said he held back for my birthday as he had bought me too much for Christmas. I found it just before OW’s birthday. I ended up having the gift anyway . I do hope the surprise is for you OP x

Hoping you get a wonderful surprise on your birthday 🤞

So you know what present he has bought you, do I understand correctly? And then spent another £200 elsewhere? I'm hoping it's for you OP, I really do.

Fingers crossed for you

The affair was nine years ago. He's either a ninja affair guy if you didn't notice for 9 years or it has nothing to do with her at all. Either way, you're clearly not over it. And that's what you need to address.

Hope it's something lovely for you.

Hope it's nothing to worry about

I hope it's for you OP!

Oh bloody hell, what a position to be in.
At least you don't have to wait too long to find out