So here's the thing.
I'm a reasonably decent person (I try my best). I have a good and secure job in a field I'm extremely passionate about (it's charitable work). I own my own house. Have a decent education (I'm working on a PhD). I look after myself and my body. I have a smattering of interesting hobbies.
I'm not the greatest looking, but I'm not bad looking, and I never struggled to get laid when I was in my late twenties, nor when I was in an open relationship which I ended last year.
I have absolutely no problems making and maintaining meaningful friendships. I get on well with my coworkers and other acquaintances in my network.
I also go on fairly regular dates. At least a couple a month, mostly from online dating apps.
But I cannot seem to turn any dates or online chats into actual sex.
Ideally, I'm looking for ongoing hookups or a casual relationship with someone my age who lives nearish.
I'm genuinely starting to wonder if guys can sense that I'm perimenopausal. 😂
Where would you start trying to fix the problem if you were me?