I think my DH cheated on me last night

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We have been together a long time and have 3 young children, youngest is 3 months old.

We have been having some problems for a few months but if we talked properly things could have been resolved. He went out last night and came home this morning at 7.30am (he has never done this before). He text me at 4am saying he couldn't get a taxi and had to walk home. Technically it would take him this timeframe to come home.

However his clothes have makeup on them, smell like perfume and his trousers look like they have sperm on them, I have taken photos. He will deny this but I think there is just too much evidence here now.

I'm devastated and have to carry on as normal today for the children.

Could the sperm be Mayo if he had a kebab or something?

I don’t know if I could be totally sure it was sperm…

The trousers are pretty bad

Has he admitted it? He’s probably hungover so arguing at this moment is pointless and disturbing for you and the kids. Does he have anywhere to go eg friends/family?

That looks more to me like he fell down a hill and got dirt and grass on his clothes than make-up and sperm.

Not sure thats make up. Just looks like dirt?

In real life it's clearly makeup and smells like purfume

Why are posters trying to make excuses? The OP knows what she is looking at FFS. I am sorry OP.

Not sure what the stains are but he sounds very defensive op.

I would call his bluff. Say to the kids you have to go away for a few days to see your mum as she’s unwell. Pack a small bag and say bye then to him. No more explanation. Leave, take documents with you and see a lawyer.

We obviously can't tell from a few photos but the fact his initial reaction was to tell you that you couldn't afford to live apart from him and he wants the children, smacks of guilt to me. Why isn't he reassuring you and at least coming up with a decent excuse re the marks and perfume smell?

That looks like fake tan.

He isn’t a child. Presumably he knows how to drive a car or get a taxi, make his own way to alternative accommodation and how to wash his clothes.

His reaction suggests he isn't denying it!

Easily. Just pull them down a bit..

I would divorce him for wearing an insipid, tacky polo shirt.

The fact that he is defensive indicates that he is guilty of something

Sorry your going through this. He's reaction tells it all really.

Does he have aspirations to be a US President?

It sounds like things have been dead in the water for a while now.

This. Can you see from his phone where he has been?

I'm so sorry that your going through this OP. I'd keep the clothes so he can't hide the evidence, get copies of passports, birth and marriage certificates. Also copies of bank statements both yours and his. Also anything of his such as pensions, savings or premium bonds. Then a copy of the rental agreement.

Then see a lawyer.

If you're sure ending things is right, stand by this and don't listen to his bullshit. He can go to court re: the kids. You can afford a home, even if it's not the home your currently in. It's all doable. Millions of us do it and survive.

ah ok its hard to tell from the photos. Make up does have a certain smell to it.

Did he just jump straight to “you cant afford to live on your own” or deny anything had happened??

if you are 100% hes done wrong and you want to separate. Start getting documents together. Do you pool money or have separate accounts? Can you return to work?

You're not going to believe him whatever he says though are you?