Found a mobile in DH's desk draw

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I was tidying up DH's home office when I found a mysterious mobile in the draw, I feel devastated. I managed to turn it on but it's got a passcode.

After all the times I've read about this on mumsnet I never thought it would happen to me but when I think about it he has been distant lately, seems distracted and he has been working late popping off to meeting later in the day etc.

DH doesnt know I've found it and he is out at the moment, does anyone have any words of advice or how to go about bringing it up?

Why ? She already has evidence that the text was for a work pick up. And if the phone was in a drawer uncharged it’s probably an old message anyway.

The female was obviously a customer that received a text reminder! It makes perfect sense if your an adult with a modicum of intelligence that doesn't automatically assume every man is a cheating arsehole.

Or, you're quite gullible like many women on here. This 'female customer' may not be as innocent as you think. What OP has said has red flags. Mobile batteries can go flat easily and quickly. It doesn't mean it was an 'old message' or that he doesn't charge it when he wants to contact a woman. First flag, had a work mobile/work number without telling her. Very odd. Second is all these very convenient vague messages. Then him being distracted and distant. Then laughing in her face and getting stroppy with her. People are getting distracted by the phone battery having gone flat. Which means nothing. It's a distraction. If you ignore the flat battery, all the rest would have all posters saying something was up.

The trouble with paranoia is that there is no way of talking yourself out of it, because just about anything can confirm your suspicions if looked at in a certain way.

PPs want you to be suspicious, but where do you draw the line?! e.g. he's still breathing, because he clearly needs oxygen to have the energy to fornicate elsewhere.

OP for what it's worth, I think you have a non-situation on your hands. Congratulations!

e.g. he's still breathing, because he clearly needs oxygen to have the energy to fornicate elsewhere.

I haven't seen a reach like that since Mr Tickle.

Yes, I know you're using it as an example of something stupid, but to go to that from a secret phone that the husband is guilt tripping the wife about...

Secret ? In a drawer in an office which OP has access to, with an unlocked SIM card? And guilt tripping ? Where ? If he’s innocent her request to look through the phone after he had explained it would have taken him by surprise, so that’s a perfectly understandable response. Second time of asking, he gave her the phone and there was nothing amiss - was being used for exactly what he said. And he reminded the OP that he has a Tesla app - basically the OP can track him wherever he goes as it gives detailed information and expected journey times. Not your average cheating husband, I wouldn’t have thought.

The female was a customer, which the OP confirmed by previous messages from that number indicating it was a work matter. Why is the OP finding a work phone openly placed in a drawer to which she has access, with an unlocked SIM indicative of an affair ?

Thank you for all the supportive messages I really appreciate it.

I've had a good sleep and I think I need to be more trusting rather than jumping the worst conclusions.

All the best OP, sleep well, been thinking for a while about posting about the LTB crowd on here.
Very curious.

I’m glad you feel better. I think we should all take a leaf for your book. There are some vipers on here.