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Who are the TWO women i saw him with?

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Meltedcheeses · 26/05/2023 10:28

Good grief.

My friend lives about 50 miles away and has been married for years.

Her husband often spends weekday nights in the town where I live due to long hours. They otherwise seem happy.

Last night I saw him at 8pm with two women walking in a park. He knows I saw him.

These women aren't relations. One was 30 years younger than him. One maybe 15 years younger than him.

The body language was odd...they all looked very bored and were sort of circling around each other. No touching. They would walk along then stop and sort of circle each other then walk again. I know how odd this sounds!

I don't know whether to casually mention this to my friend and am struggling to think what was going on?

The husband stared at me. Didn't say hello or wave.

Obviously he is allowed to have friends and go for walks in the park with them. Their friends are quite wealthy generally (kids all in private school) whereas these women looked quite scruffy and skimpily dressed.

It just felt very surprising.

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Thesunwillcomeoutverysoon · 26/05/2023 10:30

Drugs?
Sex?
Looking for a lost ddog..?
Which are you suspecting?

Thesunwillcomeoutverysoon · 26/05/2023 10:31

Or maybe sex and drug but hopefully not including the ddog at all.

Blondey2023 · 26/05/2023 10:31

Drugs

PurpleParrots · 26/05/2023 10:32

From what you are describing it could be two drug addicts badgering him for money or prostitutes badgering him for a BJ 🤷🏻‍♀️

Daisiesandprimroses · 26/05/2023 10:33

Work colleagues?

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Meltedcheeses · 26/05/2023 10:35

Oh really drugs???? That would surprise me though he did make a throwaway comment not long back about how easy it was to buy marijuana in my town...though seemed to say this disapprovingly.

I'm not sure what I suspect lol! One woman could be an affair but surely not two of them!!!

He isn't the sort to go for walks in parks generally. The park is very very near his flat. They all looked exhausted. But weren't in exercise gear (he runs and if I'd seen him running with people I wouldn't think anything of it. He has female running buddies).

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Schoolchoicesucks · 26/05/2023 10:35

You saw him and he saw you and stared at you but didn't say hello or wave. Did you say hello, wave or acknowledge him?
No idea what was going on from your description. Could be something, could be nothing. I would have said hello in your position I think. That would have encouraged him to give some sort of explanation or introduction. And then would have more info to decide whether there was something going on or not.

Dacadactyl · 26/05/2023 10:36

I would be suspicious too OP. But whether I'd tell my friend is a different matter altogether and I'm not sure what I'd do.

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Meltedcheeses · 26/05/2023 10:37

I know his work colleagues and these were definitely not work colleagues.

He didn't seem to being badgered by them. He seemed like he was trying to get them to walk in the direction of his house but they were reluctant or delaying and kept stopping then they'd talk.

The last I saw of them they were all heading towards his house.

Could just be neighbours???

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pecanpie101 · 26/05/2023 10:38

Sounds a bit dodgy to me! Could you talk to him the next time you see him? See his reaction?

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Meltedcheeses · 26/05/2023 10:40

Yes. It felt dodgy. I occassionally see him around and have never before thought anything looked odd. I don't generally message him and may not bump into him again for weeks....I somehow wouldn't feel comfortable asking him but could find a way and judge his reaction.

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Throwncrumbs · 26/05/2023 10:41

His secret other family?

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Meltedcheeses · 26/05/2023 10:42

Oh God I hope not! But the ages of the women would barely add up to be mother and daughter and they looked very different from one another

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pennycoin · 26/05/2023 10:42

I am assuming you are thinning they are sex workers?

pennycoin · 26/05/2023 10:43

Thinking*

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Meltedcheeses · 26/05/2023 10:46

Well @pennycoin I feel ridiculous saying this but yes....they didn't seem to be acting at all normally as the three of them. The women had quite skimpy cheap clothing on (not indecent).....there seemed to be some sort of negotiation going on. And the way he stared at me when he saw me but didn't acknowledge me. But surely men don't go to a local park and pick up two sex workers? Surely they'd arrange things on the phone or Internet????

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Gothambutnotahamster · 26/05/2023 10:47

I'd simply mention it to your friend - say you saw him in the park with 2 women but didn't get a chance to say hello.

SidekickSylvia · 26/05/2023 10:48

Could they have been looking for something on the ground? Maybe a neighbour, and he'd given up looking but they hadn't? But then why wouldn't he greet you when he saw you, hmmm, it's odd.

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Meltedcheeses · 26/05/2023 10:49

That's a brilliant idea @Gothambutnotahamster

He'll have had time to think of an excuse by now but equally my friend may know what all of this about "yes he has new neighbours and offered to show them around the neighbourhood".

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Imsorrysorry · 26/05/2023 10:49

I’m thinking he’s met two women in a bar and they were drunk or in drugs and he was leading them to his flat for sex but because they were drunk they kept stopping. I hope not mind you. One for your friends sake and two because if the women were drunk and he was leading them to his flat……that is very dodgy in terms of consent.

EllandRd · 26/05/2023 10:50

Why are you causing trouble for? How about you ask him? Or better still it's none of your business? Seriously

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Meltedcheeses · 26/05/2023 10:52

One of the women at least did look a bit drunk from how she was walking.

He looked quite cocky and jaunty. Quite pleased with himself.

It was the contrast in body language that looked odd.

I have seen him heading out to bars at 8pm a few times alone. But didn't think much of this.

I also saw him staggering back drunk o e night about 10pm

So now I think of it he could be picking up women.

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Deathbyfluffy · 26/05/2023 10:53

It could be completely innocent, but when I see things like this I assume they're selling drugs.
I hasten to add I was once asked to help a lady find an engagement ring she'd dropped outside of a pub in the dark - anyone seeing that would have thought it was a bit odd!

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Meltedcheeses · 26/05/2023 10:54

Completely reasonable point @EllandRd

I guess my dilemma is whether to mention to my friend. Especially as he knows I saw him.

I would definitely want a friend to tell me. Not to leap to assumptions but to mention it in passing because it is as far as I know unusual.

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TheYearOfSmallThings · 26/05/2023 10:57

He's in a throuple with the two ladies but things have gotten stale, so he's taking them geocaching in the park at night to try and reignite the spark. They aren't really into it, which is why they look bored. He really only went into the throuple because his wife flatly refused to go geocaching with him, so he's pretty perky about the way things are working out.