Who are the TWO women i saw him with?

[Meltedcheeses]

Good grief.

My friend lives about 50 miles away and has been married for years.

Her husband often spends weekday nights in the town where I live due to long hours. They otherwise seem happy.

Last night I saw him at 8pm with two women walking in a park. He knows I saw him.

These women aren't relations. One was 30 years younger than him. One maybe 15 years younger than him.

The body language was odd...they all looked very bored and were sort of circling around each other. No touching. They would walk along then stop and sort of circle each other then walk again. I know how odd this sounds!

I don't know whether to casually mention this to my friend and am struggling to think what was going on?

The husband stared at me. Didn't say hello or wave.

Obviously he is allowed to have friends and go for walks in the park with them. Their friends are quite wealthy generally (kids all in private school) whereas these women looked quite scruffy and skimpily dressed.

It just felt very surprising.

Whose husband is very clearly up to something dodgy or why all the lies? She deserves to know if her husband is picking up women FFS!

It’s obviously his second family.

• He blanked you
• He lied about seeing you with 2 women
• He wasn't in running gear but claims he had just been running
• He was looking for headphones yet is unlikely to own any
• He recruited 2 strangers to help him look for something as trivial as headphones

It isn't you who should be feeling guilty or awkward here.

I am going to spend the rest of my life walking round looking at my own shoes after today.

It sounds a bit silly tbh you saying things like this. You know something is off, he lied, you told your friend and she can do with that information what she likes. You are just presenting the facts, and nothing wrong with that so stop making yourself sound silly.

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This is what I can't get passed.

You would say hello then the mystery would have been solved. You would have been introduced and then your curtain twitching itch would have been scratched

He could well be up to something dodgy but in all likelihood he isn't

He lied about being alone though and then he back tracked on it with another lie as his wife knows he can't wear headphones. It could have all been innocent but now it's really looking like it's not. I think the OP was right to say something as she felt that something was off, at least now the wife isn't completely in the dark.

Really? Have you never just seen someone in the park that you know a little bit, said hello and nothing more? Why would you think that he'd definitely have told her who these people were? I saw someone in the next village that I work with today, said a quick hello but didn't introduce my husband who was with me. If the work colleague was with other people and had just stopped and stared at me from a distance saying nothing then I probably would have smiled and just walked away saying nothing.

@Meltedcheeses had he been my husband, I would be really grateful you told me.

To be fair I bump into him around once a month and we never stop and talk. Sometimes he doesn't see me or we would just nod. I'm not HIS friend. I didn't walk past him I was on a path at right angles and would have been really rude of me to go over. I could have waved in hindsight but I didn't. The weird bit wasn't that we failed to embrace and chat....we just don't ever do that.

My friend thinks he is lying and is glad I told her. I have spoken to her on the phone and been as precise as I can but also said all of this happened in maybe 60 seconds so I can't really shed any light. He wasn't touching or holding hands or flirting with these women as far as I can see. I've said they could well have been looking for something. The last time I saw them they were a 30 second walk from his house. When 7 first saw them they were maybe 2 mins from his house. I guess they will talk tonight as he is at work today. My guess is he hasn't been fully honest but that there was maybe nothing untoward. The point is my friend is glad I told her and has shared some other reflections with me and so hopefully all will be fine but also this isn't the first time she has had some concerns about this situation, ie how he spends these evenings away from her.

Knowing him as I do ( ie for a long time but not in depth) it was unusual behaviour and as someone earlier said I couldn't shake this. I don't generally find normal things suspicious.

I came on here really because I thought other people might have an obvious explanation I had missed.

I've been friends for 30 years with this friend and I casually mentioned it to her undramatically.

The support here is great but the personal attacks just really ruin this. I'm not enjoying this. I enjoyed the idea of working out the funny explanation id missed but now this does seem more troubling I can assure you I'm not enjoying it at all.

If there was nothing untoward why did he lie and say that you were with two women. He was definitely up to something he doesn't want your friend to know about.

You don't need to be nasty @DisplayOrcha. Yes I know his work colleagues. All 4 of them.

Well if he is cheating then your friend will know that you are there for her. Maybe your instinct told you that something was off and that's why you didn't wave.

I believe you OP. There are always, always troll-hunters on threads with a bit of mystery to them. People just don't have the imagination to think a thing might happen, but they have the imagination to think you might have the imagination to make it up! People are just full of weirdnesses.

Anyway I think your friend's husband has a little habit or two that gets indulged away from home and he knows that you've caught him out and he's trying to lie his way out of it but not very well. Your friend will hopefully unpick it, and sadly their safe little marriage will go to shit. I'm sorry. Not nice for you being in this position but you've done the right thing.

@Meltedcheeses your poor friend, what a nightmare for her. Ignore the nasty comments, keyboard warriors with nothing better to do.

Anyway I think your friend's husband has a little habit or two that gets indulged away from home and he knows that you've caught him out and he's trying to lie his way out of it but not very well. Your friend will hopefully unpick it, and sadly their safe little marriage will go to shit. I'm sorry. Not nice for you being in this position but you've done the right thing

that’s just horrible, it reads like you’re almost gloating and bitter. The “Your friend will hopefully unpick it, and sadly their safe little marriage will go to shit” is an awful thing to write.

I reckon he had booked a prostitute and she brought along another prostitute friend with her and they were trying to negotiate a duo, meaning they could get more money out of him.

Bit odd to lie not once but twice if it was not something a little off though...

Also if they were (as many suggest illegitimate family or prostitutes), what are people hoping he would introduce them to his wife's friend as if OP had stopped to say hello??

Sorry if I'm being naive but I would guess married men would meet a prostitute in their house or her house or a hotel? Or do they go with strolls in the park with them first???

Maybe they do!!! In which case men are even weirder than I thought. But I just can't imagine why he would meet a prostitute in a park when he has this city place which his wife and kids aren't generally in.

Maybe he's been seeing one of them for a while so that they're on matey terms. After or before the transaction she suggests having a drink and has arranged for her prostitute mate to come along.

Maybe he gets off on picking up street walkers.