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Who are the TWO women i saw him with?

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Meltedcheeses · 26/05/2023 10:28

Good grief.

My friend lives about 50 miles away and has been married for years.

Her husband often spends weekday nights in the town where I live due to long hours. They otherwise seem happy.

Last night I saw him at 8pm with two women walking in a park. He knows I saw him.

These women aren't relations. One was 30 years younger than him. One maybe 15 years younger than him.

The body language was odd...they all looked very bored and were sort of circling around each other. No touching. They would walk along then stop and sort of circle each other then walk again. I know how odd this sounds!

I don't know whether to casually mention this to my friend and am struggling to think what was going on?

The husband stared at me. Didn't say hello or wave.

Obviously he is allowed to have friends and go for walks in the park with them. Their friends are quite wealthy generally (kids all in private school) whereas these women looked quite scruffy and skimpily dressed.

It just felt very surprising.

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Meltedcheeses · 26/05/2023 12:13

That's good @MrsElijahMikaelson1

I wish I'd not seen him

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YellowAndGreenToBeSeen · 26/05/2023 12:17

well, he’s clearly up to something dodge since he’s got in there first, making you look bonkers when / if you contradict him.

Prostitutes and haggling over the money for a threesome would be my guess.

EverythingsCominUpMilhouse · 26/05/2023 12:24

Gothambutnotahamster · 26/05/2023 10:47

I'd simply mention it to your friend - say you saw him in the park with 2 women but didn't get a chance to say hello.

I'd be worried about saying this and coming across as you're implying he's cheating / up to something dodgy and it puts a wedge between you and your friend. Even though you'd be saying this with the best of intentions for her.

I think you might just have to stay out of this, for the sake of your friendship. But then if anything ever did come to light about him, and she finds out you saw him in the park, then that could be another issue. But then you could say you weren't sure it was him...

I really don't know. It all sounds incredibly strange. I was initially thinking maybe he had a child from a previous relationship, and he was meeting her and her mother, but from reading further, it does sound like something else potentially.

Ilovelurchers · 26/05/2023 12:24

If she is your mate then obviously you tell her? I would expect my close female friends to tell me if they saw my fella out looking dodgy with two women!

Don't be all British about it please. Tell your friend!

From what you say about their ages, could be his daughter and her mother? My mom just said to me a minute ago that it wouldn't ever surprise her if a secret child of my dad's turned up. These things do happen! Even if the bloke in question isn't an obvious player. My dad was always a player (which is why mom said this). But it's often the quiet ones you have to watch out for ....

innerspace · 26/05/2023 12:25

CiaoBellisima · 26/05/2023 11:52

I would definitely put her right on that account. Even if in a ‘light’ way.

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Of course. What sort of friend wouldn’t.

Mari9999 · 26/05/2023 12:25

OP, why in even a light--hearted way do you need to set her straight? This shout be an over and done conversation. What good or necessary benefit comes from extending this topic?

You have spoken . He has responded. It should be over and done.

EverythingsCominUpMilhouse · 26/05/2023 12:32

Oh gosh I've just finished reading all of your updates 🙈

Why oh why did he have to give his wife a different version of events. Such a reg flag to all of this.

Are you going to send your friend another message? I can definitely imagine you wish you never saw him. Horrible being caught up in this.

Daisiesandprimroses · 26/05/2023 12:32

Mari9999 · 26/05/2023 12:25

OP, why in even a light--hearted way do you need to set her straight? This shout be an over and done conversation. What good or necessary benefit comes from extending this topic?

You have spoken . He has responded. It should be over and done.

It’s madness, setting her right, wtf do folks think he was doing with two women walking in a park. Bloody hell.

Time4achange2 · 26/05/2023 12:44

I'd reply to your friend, " Wilma, the women were with Fred not me and none were in running clothing" and leave it like that. If you say nothing you are complicit and not much of a friend.

Your friend could be wasting her life married to a cheat, liar even pervert (always the ones who you least suspect/boring types)...be a good friend.

Time4achange2 · 26/05/2023 12:46

There also seems to be an ano.oly in your comments. At one stage you refer to him walking back to his house, then make other comments about it being a flat. Did you mean 'home' not house?

innerspace · 26/05/2023 12:48

Mari9999 · 26/05/2023 12:25

OP, why in even a light--hearted way do you need to set her straight? This shout be an over and done conversation. What good or necessary benefit comes from extending this topic?

You have spoken . He has responded. It should be over and done.

Is your first instinct always to bury your head in the sand, are you saying you would not want to know your partner was lying if it was you?

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Meltedcheeses · 26/05/2023 12:57

My friend is quite upset. He has now said he forgot he went back to the park after his run because he had lost his headphones and wanted to look for them and talked for 5 minutes to two women there and was showing them a shortcut to the shop.

This is plausible (except there is no shop in the area really). If they were looking for something it would explain the circling walking. So I've just been a massive twat.

My friend however doesn't seem convinced so I've really made a massive mess of it all.

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VintageBlossomHill · 26/05/2023 12:57

Have you replied to your friends text yet.

Id reply something like

😂😂 Nah You’ve really got your wires crossed there. I was alone and out for a walk. He was with two women and they weren’t in running gear.

VintageBlossomHill · 26/05/2023 12:59

Sorry just seen update. Mmmm…

JimnJoyce · 26/05/2023 13:05

presumably your friend relayed your message back to her husband

innerspace · 26/05/2023 13:05

If it was nothing he would have said hello to you and he would not have changed the story to his wife. You already know this, and so does his wife.

allthewoes · 26/05/2023 13:05

I'd text him saying "wtf were you up to in the park you weirdo?"

Beaverbridge · 26/05/2023 13:07

Hes literally trying to cover his tracks.

innerspace · 26/05/2023 13:07

What women nowadays would happily follow a random man in the park, who claims to have lost his headphones..

Hungrycaterpillarsmummy · 26/05/2023 13:09

Why didn't you acknowledge him though?

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Meltedcheeses · 26/05/2023 13:10

The thing is he has v bad tinnitus. He can't wear headphones.

This is why my friend is upset because he doesn't have headphones to lose.

But then given she knows this...why say that? I am going to spend the rest of my life walking round looking at my own shoes after today.

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mycatsanutter · 26/05/2023 13:10

Sounds like he's lying , he lied about who you were with and is probably lying about going for a run . It's up to her now to either ask you more questions or leave it

Maddy70 · 26/05/2023 13:10

Meltedcheeses · 26/05/2023 12:57

My friend is quite upset. He has now said he forgot he went back to the park after his run because he had lost his headphones and wanted to look for them and talked for 5 minutes to two women there and was showing them a shortcut to the shop.

This is plausible (except there is no shop in the area really). If they were looking for something it would explain the circling walking. So I've just been a massive twat.

My friend however doesn't seem convinced so I've really made a massive mess of it all.

I honestly have no idea why you thought you should meddle. You didn't see anything untoward at all. He was In a public place talking to two people

Youve made this into something ridiculous and caused trouble for your friend

mycatsanutter · 26/05/2023 13:11

Just seen your update - lying about owning headphones too !

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Meltedcheeses · 26/05/2023 13:11

Hungrycaterpillarsmummy · 26/05/2023 13:09

Why didn't you acknowledge him though?

I know! Why didn't I. I looked at him. I just didn't know what to say. So I acknowledged him by looking but didn't wave because I was wondering who these people were.

He stared at me. Really stared. Until I looked away and left.

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