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DH is mad because I'm not well

245 replies

Stripyunicorn · 17/05/2023 16:30

I've been ill with an infection since the weekend. DH was away at the weekend, so I've been ill since he's been home.
He's so grumpy with me.

I had to go back to the doctor's today because I've been on antibiotics but not getting better, and they advised me to go to a&e. When I phoned DH to let him know, I could practically hear his eyes rolling.
He works in the hospital I was told to go to, but he refused to come down to see me before he left. Said he couldn't because he had to get the kids. He gets the baby from nursery every day, and it's open 1.5h later than when he normally picks them up so I don't see why he couldn't have come over for 5-10 minutes just to check I'm ok.

He's now having a strop because I've had some blood tests and the results won't be back until half 5, so I won't be home until 6pm at the very earliest.

OP posts:
abmac95 · 18/05/2023 08:51

Are you sure you aren't exaggerating your symptoms and being a hypocondriac? If you are i'd be pissed too.

endofthelinefinally · 18/05/2023 08:53

abmac95 · 18/05/2023 08:51

Are you sure you aren't exaggerating your symptoms and being a hypocondriac? If you are i'd be pissed too.

The GP sent her to A&E.

bookworm44 · 18/05/2023 08:54

abmac95 · 18/05/2023 08:51

Are you sure you aren't exaggerating your symptoms and being a hypocondriac? If you are i'd be pissed too.

Are you for real??

Vintagezombiebookworm · 18/05/2023 08:55

I'm so sorry, you deserve better than that twatapus.
I have several back issues and low blood pressure and anytime I feel less than 100% my partner puts me to bed with a book whilst he does everything. That's what you and your babies deserve, not a pouting manchild. Huge hugs 💖

Vintagezombiebookworm · 18/05/2023 08:55

Wow, what a git.

OnlyFannys · 18/05/2023 08:56

I'm so sorry OP, all of your updates are hard to read with how horribly he treats you. You deserve better than this, this is not the man you want to grow old with

Vintagezombiebookworm · 18/05/2023 08:56

Vintagezombiebookworm · 18/05/2023 08:55

Wow, what a git.

This wasn't meant for OP, it was meant for the PP who accused her of being a hypochondriac

Wheresthebeach · 18/05/2023 09:01

Sorry your so poorly OP, and I hope you get better soon. Your H sounds like he's disengaged, and frankly is being cruel. Time to re-evaluate.

PinkyFlamingo · 18/05/2023 09:09

He has shown his true colours. Up to you what you do about it.

MaggieBsBoat · 18/05/2023 09:09

I hope you are feeling a bit better today OP.

This won’t improve. I excused this behaviour in my ex for 20 years until I realised that if he were seriously ill that I wouldn’t give a damn and then I knew it was over.
We are divorced and a little bit of me regrets the wasted years.
One day I’ll tell the kids about their daddy’s behaviour.
Don't lose your years. It’s all you have. I beg you.

TooOldForThisNonsense · 18/05/2023 09:10

What an arsehole. My husband used to be a bit of a dick if I was ever unwell with the kids. One time I had a toddler, was pregnant and had really bad tonsillitis and he fucked off to B and Q leaving me alone with the toddler for several hours (it was an unnecessary trip). Another time he shouted at me when I asked him to collect me from work when I went back after having my first baby as my periods were horrific. How I didn’t tell him to fuck off then I don’t know. The last time he was a dick was when I had a baby and toddler and I had norovirus, I was so ill and he refused to come home from work. A few days later I was recovered and at work and he was phoning my boss, switchboard etc (I was on the phone) that he was lying crying on the bathroom floor and couldn’t get up to change the baby’s nappy as he was so sick! He had the noro too. I had to go home and sort the kids and he said “is this really how you felt on Saturday?” YES! I think he realised then if I am ill I am not fucking milking it and he has been 100% better since!

Anyway that was a rant: sorry he’s being such a dick and I hope you are better soon x

Grimchmas · 18/05/2023 09:12

It's a well known phenomena that nasty men get worse once a baby comes along. He thinks you're trapped so he can let the mask slip now.

CharlottenBurger · 18/05/2023 09:14

Whatsthefrequencykenny · 18/05/2023 08:38

There are lots of threads with the man being sick and the woman eye rolling about it.

If this was him at the hospital, it would be all posts about what a big man baby and so selfish that he expects you to leave work and delay picking up the kids because the poor selfish big man baby can't wait for his blood results on this own at the hospital. Needs his wife to comfort him and support him - like a useless selfish asshole thinking only of himself. Wawa, poor baby, let him sit by himself. And then telling the wife - how can you stay with such a selfish whiner?

Wow. What a dick you are. Crawl back under your stone.

Nanny0gg · 18/05/2023 09:19

magicscares · 18/05/2023 07:01

Well wishes to you OP.
Your H sounds mean & I wonder if there is some other reason he didn’t want to meet you in his work place.
Sorry you’re having to go through this.

You know, I hate it when that's the jumped-to conclusion. But I'm wondering the same thing.

Also explains his shitty attitude

ohfourfoxache · 18/05/2023 09:19

When someone tells you who they are, listen

This is LTB territory for me

Nanny0gg · 18/05/2023 09:20

abmac95 · 18/05/2023 08:51

Are you sure you aren't exaggerating your symptoms and being a hypocondriac? If you are i'd be pissed too.

Yes of course. Why didn't the doctors all think of that?

Fool.

Nanny0gg · 18/05/2023 09:21

Whatsthefrequencykenny · 18/05/2023 08:38

There are lots of threads with the man being sick and the woman eye rolling about it.

If this was him at the hospital, it would be all posts about what a big man baby and so selfish that he expects you to leave work and delay picking up the kids because the poor selfish big man baby can't wait for his blood results on this own at the hospital. Needs his wife to comfort him and support him - like a useless selfish asshole thinking only of himself. Wawa, poor baby, let him sit by himself. And then telling the wife - how can you stay with such a selfish whiner?

What made you think that was a sensible or relevant post?

MrsSkylerWhite · 18/05/2023 09:22

He’s an arse.

Is he a doctor? A friends mum was a GP, growing up. She said she’d probably have to walk in with an axe in her head before her mum would concede she was unwell and allow her to stay off school sick.

FangedFrisbee · 18/05/2023 09:23

MrsSkylerWhite · 18/05/2023 09:22

He’s an arse.

Is he a doctor? A friends mum was a GP, growing up. She said she’d probably have to walk in with an axe in her head before her mum would concede she was unwell and allow her to stay off school sick.

No he's in admin she said earlier in the thread.

FangedFrisbee · 18/05/2023 09:25

TooOldForThisNonsense · 18/05/2023 09:10

What an arsehole. My husband used to be a bit of a dick if I was ever unwell with the kids. One time I had a toddler, was pregnant and had really bad tonsillitis and he fucked off to B and Q leaving me alone with the toddler for several hours (it was an unnecessary trip). Another time he shouted at me when I asked him to collect me from work when I went back after having my first baby as my periods were horrific. How I didn’t tell him to fuck off then I don’t know. The last time he was a dick was when I had a baby and toddler and I had norovirus, I was so ill and he refused to come home from work. A few days later I was recovered and at work and he was phoning my boss, switchboard etc (I was on the phone) that he was lying crying on the bathroom floor and couldn’t get up to change the baby’s nappy as he was so sick! He had the noro too. I had to go home and sort the kids and he said “is this really how you felt on Saturday?” YES! I think he realised then if I am ill I am not fucking milking it and he has been 100% better since!

Anyway that was a rant: sorry he’s being such a dick and I hope you are better soon x

I hope you didn't go home and help him out!

TooOldForThisNonsense · 18/05/2023 09:27

FangedFrisbee · 18/05/2023 09:25

I hope you didn't go home and help him out!

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I had to sort the kids, it certainly wasn’t for his sake I did it! He then got to go to bed for the day after I’d taken the kids to the CM and went back to work. Bloody arsehole. At least he changed after that!

Tiddlypomtiddlypom · 18/05/2023 09:27

What’s with the cunt uprising this morning from various posters?

pinkyredrose · 18/05/2023 09:28

Whatsthefrequencykenny · 18/05/2023 08:38

There are lots of threads with the man being sick and the woman eye rolling about it.

If this was him at the hospital, it would be all posts about what a big man baby and so selfish that he expects you to leave work and delay picking up the kids because the poor selfish big man baby can't wait for his blood results on this own at the hospital. Needs his wife to comfort him and support him - like a useless selfish asshole thinking only of himself. Wawa, poor baby, let him sit by himself. And then telling the wife - how can you stay with such a selfish whiner?

You're talking shit

FangedFrisbee · 18/05/2023 09:30

@TooOldForThisNonsense ah fair enough! At least he's better now x

HoofWankingSpangleCunt · 18/05/2023 09:30

abmac95 · 18/05/2023 08:51

Are you sure you aren't exaggerating your symptoms and being a hypocondriac? If you are i'd be pissed too.

I’ve found your H @Stripyunicorn