Shall I put up a Facebook post celebrating an anniversary with DP, just to annoy his ex wife?

[Oopsiedaisyy]

Ok, it's a little petty, but she has made a number of comments over the last year (to me directly when we have met, and to him) that have rubbed me up the wrong way. The last was asking him why he is in a relationship at all with me, after all he left his relationship with her so surely he must just want to be single or having something just casual? Also made comments about us spending time with our kids together. He is doing well at establishing boundaries with her, no problems on that front.

And no, I wasn't the OW, and they have been separated for 4 years now.

So, any ideas of something not over the top, but something to just say how pleased I am to have found him - we do have a great relationship and lots of shared interests - things he's rediscovered since being with me.

Honestly? It's up to you if you post something. However, if it has the intention of annoying your partner's ex, it will be obvious - even if you think you're being really subtle.

Why are you giving her so much headspace?

Leave her alone, honestly, how petty!

But I was thinking the exact same thing as @YaWeeFurryBastard

Go ahead and post but you'll look like the div OP.

If it’s a post because you are out and taken a photo and mention it’s your anniversary, I don’t think it’s to cringe.

But I do find the ‘5 years ago today I met the love of my life, Happy Anniversary Baby, love you so much’ really odd and a bit cringe.

I would also say that every time someone starts doing those sorts of posts when they haven’t before it’s always for other people. And everyone knows it. Either one of the couple cheated or one of you is trying to prove a point to someone out side the 2 of you. Lots of people will think this, if it’s not something you have done before. And it’s usually a sign the relationship is on its way out.

It’s also quite funny in the situation where they split and two years there’s another ‘live of my life’. One girl from school is on her 11th ‘love of her life’ .

I bet he loves having two women ‘fighting’
over him.

If his ex is a big problem to you… it’s because he’s allowing it to be.

Aiming to create weird social media drama via a ‘ohh hubby and I are SO gloriously happy’ posts just makes you look unhinged.

So go ahead… if you want all your FB friends to roll their eyes and speculate on what relationship crap you’re trying to put glitter on.

My exes fiancée does this all the time in the hope it gets back to me as we have mutual friends. She posts every month about how lucky she is, fit with an array of images. She's even referenced me in one of her posts 😂

I think it's pretty hilarious 😆

Oooo love a bit of drama do we?. Reiterate pp Grow the fuck up.

Indeed. And everyone else seeing it - whether they know you or not - think it’s hilarious too.

Personally, my exes are exes for good reasons. Good luck to the poor women who get involved with them. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Y would u want to annoy her?
Sounds like a thing a teenager would do.

Op are you sure you’re happy in the relationship? I’m coming up to 4 years with dp and I don’t feel the need to tell anyone.

Also my ex left after 20 years and I am Facebook friends with him, lots of mutual friends, family members. I believe he hd an emotional affair and she wasn’t interested and so - while I don’t particularly like him or how he ended our marriage - I don’t want to rub his nose in it with my new man, our happiness and the outings we have with my dc. I have never even mentioned my new man on Facebook but then I rarely post.

The OP referred to the relationship as 'new' and that he left his ex 4 years ago. I'm guessing it's a year or so.

Update no one needed probably : I didn't do it, because my petty urge faded away and because I realised the unhappiest couple I know (one of them is cheating) posted exactly that sort of thing and it was all rather cringe.

The ex wife though had stepped up a pattern of behaviour to attempt to scare me off, ignore boundaries that my DP has set on the way they communicate and purposely damage his relationship with his children. I had seen the signs for this much earlier (us women can understand women when they are being underhand, he thought she was being nothing more than nice and honestly wanted to just be his friend).

I have no intention of being around her again, she's toxic.