Shall I put up a Facebook post celebrating an anniversary with DP, just to annoy his ex wife?

[Oopsiedaisyy]

Ok, it's a little petty, but she has made a number of comments over the last year (to me directly when we have met, and to him) that have rubbed me up the wrong way. The last was asking him why he is in a relationship at all with me, after all he left his relationship with her so surely he must just want to be single or having something just casual? Also made comments about us spending time with our kids together. He is doing well at establishing boundaries with her, no problems on that front.

And no, I wasn't the OW, and they have been separated for 4 years now.

So, any ideas of something not over the top, but something to just say how pleased I am to have found him - we do have a great relationship and lots of shared interests - things he's rediscovered since being with me.

Posting anything makes you look insecure

ignore her and show her she’s irrelevant… not even worth a Facebook post

Obsessed much?!

@Blabla81

Slightly off topic, but I never really get anniversaries, unless you’re married. What counts as the date? Weird.

I celebrate the anniversary (every 5 years,) of when I became a fan of a certain actor I love!

I'll get me coat!

ooh who is it?

I always find this comment so dumb... and snarky... 3 BILLION PEOPLE use facebook. Many people I know do. (Most people over 35 for sure.)

your daughter is right :D

sincerely, an old person here :D

Brad Pitt.

Get ya coat 😂

Now, if it had been Tom Hiddleston

My 2 kids (both 30-ish,) stopped using facebook for about 10 years, but they started again some 2 years ago.

"something to just say how pleased I am to have found him"

🤮🤮

I usually do a FB post on our wedding anniversary but just a jokey one...10 years without killing each other kind of thing. I do think the overly gushing posts are overcompensating for something. But I have no idea why you would want to post just to wind up his ex - surely if you were genuinely happy in your relationship she wouldn't even be crossing your mind. It smacks of insecurity whether that's in the relationship or just perhaps in yourself.

Very true!

Oooh, he's not bad ! I am quite old though, so Hiddles is a bit young for me. Brad is my age (virtually!)

speaking of people being obsessed - my husband's ex is blocked on all of my social media (following some annoying activity on her part that even by my childish and forgiving standards went into "i am NOT dealing with this stuff" category)...she later on let is spill that she was actively discussing my social media content at a local store and her work 🤣

some people are just determined to make themselves upset

Just wish your partner Happy Anniversary to his face - he is the only person it concerns. Any public posts like this are tacky and smug, in general, but wanting to annoy a former partner is juvenile too. Please, OP, cultivate your own dignity and maturity.

@Oopsiedaisyy I don't get why you were annoyed at his ex asking him why he got into a relationship. It seems like a reasonable question for her to have in her head but obviously we don't know exactly what reason he gave her for ending their relationship.

I wonder if you've taken her question to mean why is he in a relationship with you when the question in her head is probably 'why is he in a new long-term relationship'.

Don't do any post to annoy ex. If you would post anyway then fair enough.

However when i see these posts I dont think "awww they are so in love " i just kind of think "tell partner not facebook ffs" Worst ones are when partner not on facebook and it is addressed "to the most amazing guy, thanks for all you do etc"

@ucantmulchthis are you serious? this question is rude and disrespectful on so many levels, no person in their right mind would ask this even if they did wonder about it

If you want to prove her opinion of you right, then go for it.

Not drip feeding, but she has had a DP for the last 3 years. For context.

FWIW I post on Facebook semi regularly (nothing overly soppy) and we’re incredibly happy. I don’t think that’s an indicator whatsoever 😂

The thing is, everyone knows that when people feel the need to express their love to the other half on fb the more trouble the relationship is in. My friends have a running joke where we notice the increased lovey dovey photos/posts and guess how long before an affair is revealed etc. Haven't been wrong yet.

If the ex is deliberately saying things to wind you up... What better way to show her it's worked. Plus, you'd be showing the silent minority that your relationship is probably in trouble... You'd be added to our countdown list.