Shall I put up a Facebook post celebrating an anniversary with DP, just to annoy his ex wife?

[Oopsiedaisyy]

Ok, it's a little petty, but she has made a number of comments over the last year (to me directly when we have met, and to him) that have rubbed me up the wrong way. The last was asking him why he is in a relationship at all with me, after all he left his relationship with her so surely he must just want to be single or having something just casual? Also made comments about us spending time with our kids together. He is doing well at establishing boundaries with her, no problems on that front.

And no, I wasn't the OW, and they have been separated for 4 years now.

So, any ideas of something not over the top, but something to just say how pleased I am to have found him - we do have a great relationship and lots of shared interests - things he's rediscovered since being with me.

They're still friends on facebook? Very telling. He is obviously still friendly with her. YABU obviously. Very petty. I have seen people posting 'wubz U soo much hunz and our life is so amayzinng' when they are with someone who has an ex they know will probably see it.' It's pathetic and attention seeking, and speaks volumes about how needy and insecure that person is.

Don't be that person @Oopsiedaisyy

Yeah go on. You'll make yourself look a right idiot.

I would hope my spelling would be slightly better!

Embarrassing

Cringe.

No you absolute ghoul. She's obviously in pain. Reflect on why your response is to make it worse for her.

Oh and now you're being snobby about spelling

Grow up 🙄

I am not sure which is more immature

being petty or the extent to which some people seem bothered by someone else being petty

Healthy relationships don’t need social media posts. Plus it’s good to keep them guessing/gossiping 🤣

So, to clarify - posting on social media about an anniversary with a new partner is embarrassing?

Or is it only embarrassing etc if that person has an ex?

And the other woman isn’t?

It's threads like these that really make me despair for society.
I'm shocked at some of the completely unnecessary unkind things written by most of you. Especially the ones bleating on about only sad people post on SM, yet here you are being incredibly rude to someone you don't even know.
Seriously I'm embarrassed for 90% of the posters on this thread. You can disagree with someone without making yourself sound like a dick.

Op if you post something no one with think you're sad, or insecure or any of the other nasty things written here because I assume your not captioning it with "just to piss of the ex" so no one will know your reasons for posting. If that makes you feel better then crack on, but I would suggest in the long run it won't get you anywhere, you've been the bigger person so far, and if she is that bad, you ignoring her will piss her off more than anything else.

Yes it is its cringey either way

Other woman needs to get a life and move on

Whenever I see anniversary/I love my partner/feeling in love posts on FB I wonder who it is they’re trying to convince.

Generally the more miserable the relationship is the more people pretend it isn’t by posting about how happy they are on facebook.

I remember years ago going to a pub with my now eXH, and he tagged me in said pub as “with the love of my life.” At that point we’d been talking about whether we were going to get divorced.

It’s cringey regardless of your motives and I’d hit dp over the head if he ever tagged me in any of that kind of crap.

Lots of people - it's not 'cool' or 'edgy' to try and shame people for using a certain platform, it's just stupid.

But you knew that, and were being goady 😉

The trick is not to stoop to their level.

Totally agree. When I see posts people dedicate to people they live with- their kids, partners etc with a huge speech about being proud and in love blah blah… I always wonder why? Just tell them or write a letter if you need to. Even worse the target isn’t on Facebook and won’t see it. Totally embarrassing showmanship designed to try to make people see you in a certain way. Problem is it is utterly cringe making and transparent

It's not the posting that's embarrassing.

It's in the context of deliberately doing it to provoke a response in an ex.

I think when your mind even goes to a place of thinking of doing something spiteful and petty to annoy someone else; it's way past time to evaluate your life and what's gone so wrong.

@Oopsiedaisyy I think you've hit a nerve with some exs here :P

Sure, it's silly but ultimately you're not really hurting anyone - everyone does petty things sometimes

I'm getting that distinct impression!