Summer is going to be great for OLDaters and friends

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The Rules:

1.The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.

1. Develop a thick skin.
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
3. It's all BS until it actually happens.
4. Trust your gut instinct.
5. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
6. Know your worth.
7. If it's not fun, stop.
8. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

We thread everyone

I meant NEW thread…😳🙄😊

here !

I hope your’e right 😬

Hey the title doesn’t say ‘dating thread ##’
want to re start one again as people might not realise ? X

I signed up to bumble at the weekend, first time in ages, I matched with a guy after speaking for a while decided he wasn't for me and unmatched him, the next morning my account is blocked as someone reported me for being fake, I guess he was feeling spiteful, can't think who else would, I'd only been on there a couple of hours. Anyone else had this? Will they unblock my account?

Not a great start but wanted to get back into dating after two years

Hi

I just joined an app today. I've already had likes from 3 young men in their 20s ( I'm 42 ffs) one 24 year old proceeded to send me messages. Like really.

I've also realised I'm incredibly boring because I have like zero hobbies to list really and they all have lots of things listed .

Also about bumble..how r you getting it because app doesn't appear available

What a wanker…he was angry you unmatched him. Some people take it too personal really. I hope you can get account reinstated

App shop??? It should be there!

I think they will find us just ok 😊

It says item currently unavailable in the play store.

These recent bank holidays have sloooowed down the chats.
It's like a message.. long weekend begins then you lose touch.
I've got the attention span of a gnat at the moment.

An excellent off-grid iron may be in the offing, let's see what happens.

Still don understand the 1-2 analogy.

Hi all, serial app deleter here! 👋

Not much news from this end

I think the thing between myself and newiron has withered on the vine mutually

hey ho
I feel a bit sad (as one does when anything ends) but it’s also the tail end of a very long period of high stress 😰

a week of exercise and detox for me !

I’m sure I’ll get back on the apps again when my mojo returns

Harrypewter

what happened with the old friend ?

iwantabasketbag

that was spiteful
that said I wouldn’t unmatch someone mid conversation either
is just go quiet and hope they get the message

Worsy…a week of exercise and detox sounds brilliant really 😘

Can I post a message here asking a question about a guy I met OLD and ask for advice ? 🤷🏻‍♀️ TIA

Absolutely 👍🏻

Hellooo OLD-ers 👋

Another serial Bumble reloader/deleter here 🤦‍♀️ Currently with two irons in the fire: Charlie Boy, who is a retired cruise lover, and a 'bit of a charmer' and 'Red' (name of his dog ♥️) who is almost retired, own business and loves the beach.

I'm still getting over being royally ghosted by Farm Boy, who I dated several times over the past few weeks and thought it was going well!! We had made plans to meet up this weekend, after spending last weekend together (Friday and Saturday - Friday dinner, Saturday a day out by the coast followed by dinner). He was the one who made all the noises about making plans for this weekend, wanting to do something in his village that was 'coronation-y' in his local pub, so I'd not made any other plans!! By Thursday, when he had not responded to a couple of messages (unusual as his pattern prior was several a day!) I figured I'd been ghosted. I popped back into the app to see if I could see any activity on his profile...and I'd been blocked 🤷‍♀️🤦‍♀️ I find it all very odd.

Ah well...onwards and onwards 🤣

Thank you 😊
It's been a while since I've posted here , I'm separated 2 years nearly , very messy , very acrimonious , horrible controlling ex husband, so I'm literally loving my life now that we are separated, but only felt ready to get out and about in the last few months , so signed up to a few dating apps .
Generally they are absolutely horrendous, I've had literally no luck but haven't really dedicated the time and effort into it.

But I came across a guy who bizarrely I had met at an office party a few months ago....we matched online and started chatting, knowing that we knew each other IRL ... so we met up , had a drink and there was a very big physical connection from the get go.... now I fancied him a lot , but knew that I wasn't looking for anything serious, and was interested more in a hook up - and surely these days, women can totally have a fling without being slut shamed ?

We met up , had sex , good chats and I told him then that I wasn't looking for anything serious , after coming out of a 20 year relationship I wanted to be single but that I did like him and we obviously had a connection... he agreed that we had a connection and said he was happy with the situation- the situation being we would hook up when it suited us but we were still free to meet other people etc ...

We met up 2 more times after that night, the sex was amazing and the conversation was good , not amazing - but enough to keep us going , so fast forward a few weeks, we had a few issues getting the same free time , he has a child also , I meant to say that all the time since we first reconnected online , he was messaging me every day , all the good morning / good night messages imitated by him , suddenly out of nowhere - he literally started to ghost me.

It was a few days and I hadn't heard from him and I messaged him, just small talk -he replied but it wasn't much , no plan to meet up again , that was 9 days ago and there has been nothing. I last messaged him and he never replied.

So is he ghosting me ? And why ? I know I said I wanted a casual thing but there was some intimacy there, it wasn't this purely transactional hook up , I thought he was very sweet , I thought he was decent but I literally haven't heard a thing from him since so it's obvious now that he has lost interest and hasn't had the decency to even tell me .....any advice ?
Oh and we actually work together so we are bound to bump into each other in the office , so why on earth would he make things so awkward? !!
Thanks for reading

@Hopeful22 - sounds like you have developed some feelings and that's why it is bothering you

Nothing wrong with that, I have a thread on here at the moment about how I can't do casual sex. MN users have made me feel much better about how I feel.

I would throw this one back....

I'm quite annoyed at myself for possibly getting emotionally involved , I'm annoyed that I fell for his lines and fell for the obviously fake intimacy ... I honestly was shocked that he ghosted me , I don't understand how he thinks it's OK to do that? And also , this just reinforces the fact that I'm completely useless at picking men 🙈

@Hopeful22 - you sound very keen on him, if you weren't you just wouldn't be bothered by what he was doing/way he was acting. I get it, I'm like that also. You must have developed feelings for him, and maybe deep down you want another relationship in the future.

I would just ignore him from now on, inwards and upwards

*onwards and upwards lol

I would have just liked a bit of closure to the situation, if he wasn't in to it anymore that's fine but I'm still shocked that 40 year old men can still act like 15 year olds !!!

Yeah and the other side of it is maybe women , or just me , are not capable of having this casual sex relationships without getting too emotionally involved ? How does anyone navigate these OLD dating sites at my age !!!!