Summer is going to be great for OLDaters and friends

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The Rules:

1.The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.

1. Develop a thick skin.
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
3. It's all BS until it actually happens.
4. Trust your gut instinct.
5. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
6. Know your worth.
7. If it's not fun, stop.
8. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

Thanks @Passmethpens

@qqq82 ugh vile. Do you think they genuinely believe women are like, "oh yeah I'd love a man to shoot their load on my face, what a turn on at 7am".

Urgh @qqq82 how do some men get it so spectacularly wrong 🤢

Wow what a catch. Why is this peach of a man single??

Why do they do this shit ffs? What do they honestly think the response is going to be? Are they honestly covering women to respond saying they’d love that?

qqq82

how strange
I’m assuming he was drunk

does he think you like this ??
or does he get a vicarious thrill

sadly time to block id say

And suck feet

that’s not a summer activity 😂

I honestly don't know what the deal is with MrNoEffort
He sent me a very similar message at 2pm one Wednesday and I know he's not a big drinker
I mean last night could have been drink
I don't even know what time he sent it as I turned in early and switched my phone off and then deleted his message without looking at it .

How many times have you met?

qqq82

why not message him
say I don’t appreciate these filthy messages
and I’m not available anyway as I’m seeing someone

he clearly wants to fuck you again
no more , no less

@Harrypewter we dated for 4 months

I've blocked him now

Ok. Does he know you don't like sexting?
Ms iceberg and I sext regularly, although we both initiate.
However, we have had other conversations ranging from curtain poles to John Locke so quite a varied range of topics.

@Harrypewter well i asked him mid May to not contact me again unless he could actually do a proper relationship and this is the first I've heard from him since then

Surely sexting is a two way thing not a vulgar overnight unsolicited text?

qqq82

well , doesn’t appear he was listening does it ?

@Thisisworsethananticpated
Nope
Should have just blocked him back then

Ah, I see.
Rather than asking how you were he sent a dire sext message. Inappropriate.
Well, rid.

So I had a date with mr I don't know what
He's the male version of me
The stufff we have in common, he's like the male version of me

spotsandflowers How did it go?

Nothing going on for me. Got a decent chat going on Bumble, I didn't mention a meet as I'm so fed up if them running scared when I do... Turned out to be the right call this time as, once evening hit, the messages turned to sex. I answered the first one with a laughy face & then after the 2nd just unmatched.

The men on my other site have been horrendous the last few days also. The best one was a first message of 'Good morning you fat fucking bitch'. Lovely!

I joined OKCupid. Has anybody had any success on there? I messaged a few but no reply. 99% of the ones I'm looking at say they are looking for a hookup though & that puts me off.

NervesOfCotton

I’d report that one
he shouldn’t be allowed in whatever app it is if he’s sending shit like that x

Thisisworsethananticpated I did but they do the whole 'Person must be reported twice before they are removed' so he's still there.

Oops I was a bit drunk when I posted before.
Met him for an hour between other commitments which ended up being 2.5 hours. I didn't want to leave him.
Came home and drank a bottle of wine....ooops

Went out for dinner last night then back to his for a bit, which went very well 😉
He knows everything about domestic situation and he's fine with it.

EXH knows I'm seeing someone and is likely to sign up for Facebook dating too. He's also fine with it, asked me not to introduce DC too early and not to have him in the house even if no one there. Both reasonable requests and I would do them anyway

DC will remain oblivious for the time being. I really can't wait to see him again.

Nickname Mr HGV

@NervesOfCotton I have been wondering where you have been! What a crap message.

OK Cupid was great. I met my ex on there and we were together for almost nine years. I like the fact you can see their answers and how compatible you are.

It didn’t work for me this time though, but tbh I wasn’t ready at all to be engaging with anyone.

Hey LittleFloatingGhost I've not been far away, not doing much dating no change there

How are you?

Good reviews for OkCupid then! I just need to get somebody to chat to me... My previous date turned up on Bumble. Ugh.

Best of luck everyone.
I’m going to leave OLD for a bit though.
Ive been on Bumble for 2 months.
Met 1 guy I really liked and got in well with but our childcare commitments didn’t align so we’d never be child free at the same time.
Met a second guy but no spark at all and no desire to see him
again.
I haven’t really got time for it now we’ve hit the summer holidays and I will be going away myself so I’ve left Bumble.

Oh and just to complicate matters more, bumped into my ex FWB and now can’t stop thinking about him and how much I miss him and I wish he wanted me back (not as a FWB, but more)

Update from me.
The date on Saturday was fantastic, the conversation flowed & we just seemed to get each other. I did go back to her's for coffee & things started to get pretty steamy but we stopped short of the full works (Just).

We are spending the day together tomorrow in mid Wales & she's asked me to stay the night, but we have both agreed its no pressure from either party.
The WhatsApp & phone conversations are just so easy with no red flags so far!!

The other date on Sunday messaged me 1/2 hour before we were due to meet and said she would be an hour late, I said if she needed to cancel that was fine. She did and I messaged her on Monday to say I was now seriously seeing someone else.

So I'm feeling very hopeful at the moment 😊