Husband doesn't want to go on holiday with my family

[Domino90]

My husband is reluctant to agree to coming on a holiday with my side of the family (my parents, siblings and their families).

It would be totally paid for by my parents, and would be 5 days over a weekend (meaning we'd both have to take around 3 days of annual leave). My husband has 25 days of annual leave each year.

I've told him it's important to me that we both go, because it's a time for him to get to know my family better in a relaxed way.

We were given lots of notice about the dates.

He gets on well with my siblings when he sees them, and he says he likes my family

He is reluctant to go though, and won't commit to asking for the time off. He sighs when I mention it.

This makes me sad, because my family is important. I also feel he should agree, and just go along with it (even though he may rather be doing something else). Am I being reasonable?

To clear up the games confusion.

After dinner games were not mentioned by the OP until 22.36 last night (not 22.55 my bad). Her second post simply mentioned “games” which could mean anything - ping pong, pool, boules, whatever.

There you go again, with a standard ploy of flinging insults when you can't understand responses.

No amount of wittering from me, or even badgering, is going to improve your grammar or comprehension, so I'll leave you to your ill-tempered responses to various PP, who can make up their own minds as to the value of your remarks.

@SmallFerret There is no insult. I understand your responses all too well. Attacking my grammar and comprehension is a bit desperate and rather ironic.

I don’t owe you anything, please get over it and move on.

Quite. Married life can potentially involve a lot more compromise and sacrifice than a 5 day holiday.

No point backracking: clear insult in telling a PP they "seem very confused" purely because they disagree with you.

And ticking someone off for remarking on your comprehension skills after you yourself have ... just attacked their comprehension skills, is either ironic of hypocritical, but I don't expect you to see that point, either.

Back to the comprehension aspect - I've already moved on. As evidenced by "I'll leave you to" etc. But you couldn't leave it! Soon as you do, you'll stop attracting responses ...

I don't recall asking you for anything, so not sure what your "don't owe you anything" comment is referencing. No need to enlighten me, I'll happily remain confused on that one.
Have a great bank holiday, bye.

Not a chance in hell I would spend 5 days on holiday with my inlaws. I wouldn't ask my husband to do the inverse either. Just go on your own. They are your family, not his.

@SmallFerret I’ve not read your latest post and will not engage further. A quick glance at your post history shows picking fights and arguing the toss is your MO.

Apologies for the thread derail OP.

I love my in laws, but the idea of five days away in a shared house sounds awful.

Because I love my husband (and them!) I would agree to doing it as a one-off / infrequently, if he really wanted to.

Because he loves me, he wouldn't expect me to do it.

Or, more likely, we'd find a compromise (we can only make the first 2 days / we'll be staying in our own place because we're also going to visit xx while there)....

oh just suck it up, most adults dont care for stupid games and forced family time, you'll need to live with it

most adults dont care for stupid games and forced family time

Argument between individuals aside, I really don't think anyone can definitively say this is the case. Loads of people love family time and games. There are a lot of people on both sides of the fence.

but those people wont see the games as stupid and the family time wont be forced

what Op is trying to do is force her husband to spend 5 days with her family playing games - and he does not want to go

You could always just acknowledge you were mistaken, you know. It's ok.

This is also my idea of hell! Holidays tend to be living in each others pockets for days on end! Not my idea of a holiday tbh.

I would also feel uncomfortable and it’s definitely not a relaxing holiday for all.

YABU. I can’t think of anything worse than enforced fun with my partners family.

The OP posted about their dilemma in April @cockadoodledandy - I'm sure they've sorted it now.

Wow you really took time out of your day to point out someone had commented on an old thread?

I did! I'm kind like that.

Plus ...

... it's a zombie thread, which is massively irritating.