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Dodgy text message on dh’s phone

300 replies

Ithinktherefore · 27/04/2023 18:52

Just found a dodgy message on my dh’s phone from an unknown number.

“Hi babe I’m going to be back down tomorrow for the day.”

What do you make of it? Is there a way of tracking it? An app or something?

I don’t think I can face ringing it…

Is he having an affair? What do I do tomorrow? Help!!!

OP posts:
Eyesopenwideawake · 27/04/2023 18:53

Ask him?

KirstenBlest · 27/04/2023 18:54

It might be a wrong number.

qqq82 · 27/04/2023 18:55

What is he meant to be doing tomorrow?

Original poster
Ithinktherefore · 27/04/2023 18:56

He’ll say it’s been sent in error. Even if it hasn’t. Surely.

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mrsfennel · 27/04/2023 18:56

If that was me I would screenshot and note the number and start digging on the sly.
But I am very suspicious and would want all the info and proof before I confronted.

Original poster
Ithinktherefore · 27/04/2023 18:57

He works from home whilst I’m out at work.

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skelter83 · 27/04/2023 18:57

I once accidentally sent a message to a random number instead of my partner (I had to use my work phone where his number isn’t stored and got a couple of digits wrong). I sent the text to some poor, unsuspecting man’s phone. His wife replied asking why I was messaging her husband and clearly didn’t believe it was a mistake. It was years ago and I still worry what trouble I caused with that mistake.

starynight63 · 27/04/2023 18:57

Save the number in your phone as 'unknown' or something, then load WhatsApp and go to message them.. will show a profile picture & maybe name!!
I hope it's an error 😫

FrenchandSaunders · 27/04/2023 18:57

Take the day off and follow him

CantFindTheBeat · 27/04/2023 18:59

How did you find the text?
Has he been behaving strangely recently?

Ring Doorbells are good to see who's going in and out.

Original poster
Ithinktherefore · 27/04/2023 18:59

I have screenshot it on his phone and sent it to my phone. Should I delete the trail or leave it so he knows I’ve done this?

I feel sick.

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Hotfootgoose · 27/04/2023 18:59

Ithinktherefore · 27/04/2023 18:57

He works from home whilst I’m out at work.

Call in sick, then check his phone later for the “I’m sorry I couldn’t “ text ….

sunsunpleasecomeout · 27/04/2023 19:00

starynight63 · 27/04/2023 18:57

Save the number in your phone as 'unknown' or something, then load WhatsApp and go to message them.. will show a profile picture & maybe name!!
I hope it's an error 😫

Yes I was going to suggest this.

I would ask him just yet, I'd see what he says he's up tomorrow and do some more digging.

gotmychristmasmiracle · 27/04/2023 19:00

starynight63 · 27/04/2023 18:57

Save the number in your phone as 'unknown' or something, then load WhatsApp and go to message them.. will show a profile picture & maybe name!!
I hope it's an error 😫

This....

CurlewKate · 27/04/2023 19:02

Why not ask him about it?

QuentininQuarantino · 27/04/2023 19:02

Is it WhatsApp? I get random messages like that sometimes from ladies with very pretty or sexy profile pics, I think it’s a phishing thing. It could be that or it could be dodgy.

Itsvalentino · 27/04/2023 19:02

Also, google the number, if it’s a scam/dodgy text it might be recorded on who called me.

Choconut · 27/04/2023 19:03

CurlewKate · 27/04/2023 19:02

Why not ask him about it?

Because he'll lie and then be much more careful in future (if it is something).

Original poster
Ithinktherefore · 27/04/2023 19:05

Our relationship hasn’t been good for a while so I was snooping.

He lets our dc play on his phone regularly and it’s never attached to him so thought it unlikely he’d be hiding messages.

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bellalou1234 · 27/04/2023 19:05

See if he deletes the message. Have a look how often he is on WhatsApp as in last active. I wouldn't say anything yet but keep the screen shot and the number. Can you nip home unexpectedly from work?

ShitFacedOnRetsina · 27/04/2023 19:06

Keep schtum and start digging. Play the long cool game here OP.

Choconut · 27/04/2023 19:06

Ithinktherefore · 27/04/2023 18:59

I have screenshot it on his phone and sent it to my phone. Should I delete the trail or leave it so he knows I’ve done this?

I feel sick.

I would definitely delete the trail. It doesn't sound like a scam/dodgy text as they always seem to be, 'it's so lovely to speak with you, I think you are gorgeous don't forget to click on my link to get in touch'.

Original poster
Ithinktherefore · 27/04/2023 19:07

It’s a text message and not WhatsApp.

Yes, I could pop home tomorrow unexpectedly during my lunch break.

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camelfinger · 27/04/2023 19:07

Obviously don’t ask him. Take a photo of it, not a screenshot but a photo from your phone. What’s he doing tomorrow?

Totorosfluffytummy · 27/04/2023 19:07

You don't screenshot it.. you take a photo using your own phone

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