Being Single/Alone

[Livelifelaughter]

The Times just published an article about "Being Alone". In the comments section many people wrote about how they enjoyed a morning walk, coffee even holidays alone. The writer explained her love for doing things alone (although was in a relationship at the time she wrote the article).
There's a real difference to doing things alone and having a partner/husband even children to come back to...one of my friends talks about her holidays alone not mentioning her 25 year old daughter is with her. In fact I find it really exciting being alone and notching up the things I would tell my boyfriend.
But there's a massive difference in having exciting experiences alone, going to a fancy restaurant alone while other tables are full of chattering couples and I would rather have a partner with me.
I am not talking about it's better to be alone than in a rubbish relationship, that's obvious...but do people really want to be alone ?

In every single one of their comment to me, it’s dripping of it.

Here’s a little guide, you can see how they tock the boxes.

I know what gaslighting is. I don't see it though. I think that the pp thinks something is happening and is being supportive.

I go to places on my own, no choice being single. But I wouldn't go to a pub in the evening (I used to when I was a lot younger but as I've got older it feels really lonely. I go for walks on my own, went on holiday on my own (although I did meet friends out there), go to the cafe on my own. It does get lonely but no one else to go with and if I didn't go out I'd never leave the house.

However when it comes to going out with friends I really struggle motivating myself. I'm one of the most sociable people but actually getting myself out is really hard. That's only happened since I being single.

of course you would be upset...then stop telling people to not be upset

early everyone here is capable of being single - but some are upset about it and would rather not be

I haven't told anybody not to be upset, @PaintedEgg , and nor would I. Get of your high horse and read things properly before you make stuff up.

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Supportive?! Thanks for that laugh!
Yeah, they are not, that’s for sure.
Seriously, count how many time they said
”sorry you feel that way”, now that is not a person who’s trying to help.

@NameChangedSoYouDontKnowHowBrokenMyHeartIs

We disagree. Not to worry.

@Watchkeys then all of your posts are a bit pointless, right? because you're replying to people who are single even though they would rather not be but otherwise generally happy and "pulled together". They're just upset not to have something that you happen to have and Re happy to have it.

@PaintedEgg

You win! I can't be bothered to argue with you. I'm sure you're right, all things considered.

If we learned one thing here is that single people really do trigger coupled up people for whatever reason.

@Watchkeys
It’s not a matter of disagreement, it’s right there in writing. It’s all there.

@Watchkeys what is your problem? i just saw your posts on another thread where you seem to be bothered by people being in loving relationships or wanting loving relationships

if you situation sucks that much then be single, but stop projecting

OK @PaintedEgg , will do.

Thanks for clarify, @NameChangedSoYouDontKnowHowBrokenMyHeartIs

I disagree that it's all there in writing. Lets leave it there.

They and thepeople person clearly have some serious issues.
Why are they bullying single people?

@Livelifelaughter It seems the thread has been derailed.

My view is that whilst it is best to be happy in yourself before meeting a partner it doesn’t mean you WILL meet a suitable partner. As an example I have a large extended family and everyone is coupled up. However the happiest 2 couples firmly believe they are lucky. One was single for years, dated but they couldn't invest in anyone until they met their partner. They describe that meeting their spouse was diwn to luck, both were in the same place and single - sliding doors moment. The 2nd couple met early on in life and feel extremely fortunate that they grew together. Many others who met young don't grow together.

You can do everything "right" whilst being single and still not meet someone who will be your forever person.

Are you ok though @NameChangedSoYouDontKnowHowBrokenMyHeartIs

Amen to that. I agree, I know many single people honestly happy in themselves, rounded people who would love to find love but haven't.

How on earth do these people exercise

I'm a long time divorced and kids away at university/left home. I do a lot of things on my own - I go to the cinema, go to a pub, go for an evening meal and holiday alone - hiking etc. I mainly only ever go for up to 10 days on holidays as I find it wearying after a while - the main thing you miss out on is dining out and going to bars in the evening.

I'm good on my own and I really value that I get to choose how I spend my time. I wouldn't mind having a partner but I'm so independent it would have to be someone very special. The reality is I'm not waiting on adventures for lack of someone to go with.

Places I've been on my own: Singapore and Angkor Wat; US west coast road trip; Ireland west coast road trip; Stockholm; Australia; a safari in Kenya. Better to live.

I love being single. I might be alone, but Im never lonely.
I dont necessarily go to a restaurant on my own, though. i have friends and family I can call on, if I want to go out for a meal!

Sure, sometimes <i think it might be cool to have a partner to do random things with, but then I also think that they would probably be messing up my kitchen/bathroom and Im all cured again LOL

@ASGIRC i totally agree. I occasionally have a nightmare that I’m back sharing a house with my ex and his mess and I wake up in a hot sweat!

Also agree that I’ve never been so lonely as when in a bad relationship.

I have travelled extensively on my own all over the world including 3 weeks around Peru, South Africa lots of Europe etc. But honestly having visited 50 countries I have done enough travel and it's actually the nothing time when I miss having a partner. I am not talking about a husband but just being in a committed relationship.

Think we would all agree with that. But I think there's few people who would rather be alone than in a relationship with a lovely caring partner or boyfriend..

Well that’s me.

And Gary Linekar apparently !